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शनिवार, 2 जुलाई 2016

Mentor

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Mentor plays a very vital role in the life of a learner.

Learn, unlearn and relearn are the 3 stages that come in the life of a learner.

1, Formal learning is done in schools/colleges/universities or attending skill development programs. Informal learning happens from the elders and siblings in the family. Experience with real life situations and events also gives the indelible learning.

2. In school and colleges, many subjects and many aspects of idealist life are learnt. But when faced with reality of the world, a lot of difference is found. Adaptation to the real world practices is then felt. Unlearning of greater part of knowledge is then done. Or lot of confrontation, confusion, stress, frustration caused by theory vs. practical happens. Hence, unlearning skill and focusing on the real demand of the real world that requires tact for presentation of the knowledge gives the real results.

3. Wise say : money is the religion of the wise. For earning 3 stages are there: saraswati - i.e. acquiring knowledge, ganesha - i.e. taming and trimming the knowledge to fit the area of your choice of work,   then 3rd comes i.e. Lakshami (Money) Yes when true humility is practised despite having wealth, the person is incarnated in the hearts of the humans.

4, Re-learn: Acquiring knowledge is just an entry into the business or job. Real learning is working in the business or job. It comes through re-learning i.e. focusing, focusing, focusing, reading, reading, knowing, knowing, knowing, translating that knowing into understanding and understanding into real action. No action. No use. Generally, 3 kinds of personalities have been found on the basis of action and words.

4,1 They just assimilate information and keep on presenting to others without listening to them. Their mantra of life is : say, tell, say, tell and don't listen.

4.2 They just tell, say less and listen more. They gain from the knowledge of others. Then they apply the knowledge and gain. They say, listen and act.

4,3 They are great listeners. They listen and gain knowledge. AND DO. TAKE ACTION. THEY ARE THE BEST. THEY ARE THE ACHIEVERS. Knowing helps, But knowing alone does not change life. IT IS DOING THAT CHANGES LIFE.

WHY IS THE COURSE PRACTICE ORIENTED?

This course is like learning "how to cycle" Any body who can drive cycle, scooter, car etc. can learn English Speaking in our course.

90%            (You read, speak and write)
10%            (We guide, counsel, mentor, appreciate, motivate and inspire)

And you become confident to speak English in 2 months. Mind Power makes you so.

NOW over TO MENTOR:

1. Removes fear i.e. imaginary or mental. Real fears are rare. Mostly fears are imaginary gathered from the environment we live in.

2. Plans for your career and life.

3. He  helps with his wise, experienced advice and motivating counselling.

4. He motivates, appreciates and encourages you to achieve more.

5,  He does  not discourage you.

6.  He is true partner in your true success.

7.  He lets you know your hidden strengths i.e. untapped inner powers. All are unique.

8.  He are positive and make you think positive. Positive thinking creates opportunities in life, makes life happy. Negative thinking is virus that destroys opportunities in life. A negative mind sees difficulty in every opportunity while a positive mind sees opportunity in every difficulty.

9. They say: Brain is the engine of the train called body. So, focus more to correct the brain (hardware) and mind (software) to keep the body fit, hale and hearty.

10. Mentor helps you understand setbacks to success and how to handle them in future.

11. Mentor teaches you how to handle the errors committed in the past that have generated "guilt" and blocking your success.

12, Self-help is the best help. Others just help. It is you who have to change and act, Nothing can be achieved if habits and routine is not changed. Mental change helps in leading change but real change in life comes through "Action Taken"

13. Written intentions with date are goals. Otherwise, they are intentions. Intentions are like bubbles in the rain water.

14. Mentor makes the journey of life and success easier and helps you reach your destination in less time through his guidance, motivation and inspiration. For example: 40 years experience is taught in 40 hrs training.

15, He trains you to remain positive and self-motivated when you face setbacks in real life attempts.

16. He trains you to turn meaning of negative words into positive messages in the mind so that you may remain motivated and keep struggling for achieving what you want to achieve in life e.g. FAIL= First Attempt in Learning,     END = Efforts never die        NO =  Next opportunity.

17. Emotions play a vital role in achieving success. Mentor helps in turning negative emotions into positive powers.

This is that English that is spoken and written in countries like USA, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Singapore, UK etc. This is simple and powerful because each and every word is understood by the reader.

 It is conversational and communicative English, rarely taught in schools/colleges. So, join to learn International English Speaking and writing.

Regular Course:  5 days a week. 1 hr class. 40 hrs course over 2 months. (Only one course:  Certificate course in English and Mind Power)

SUNDAY SCHOOL: For working people who cannot join regular class. During week they work in office or business and on Sunday they will attend the class. Class on Sunday alone. 2 hrs for 40 hrs over 20 Sundays.

Job Oriented Courses Offered: (SUNDAY SCHOOL)

1. Certificate course in English and Mind Power (for Business Correspondence Skills)

2. Certificate course in Reception and Front Office Skills

3. Certificate course in Sales and Marketing Skills

Who can join?

Min:      Any matriculate from Punjabi/Hindi or English medium SCHOOL.

Max.:    Any graduate/post graduate/degree/diploma holder or professional like C.A, C.S, MBA, MCA etc.

What you get FREE with the courses.

1. Research based Practical English Speaking Book
2. Research based Practical Pocket Book for practice anytime and anywhere.
3. Audio Cds for revision at home.
4. Workbook for practicing Powerful English Writing.
5. Certificate
6. Identity Card of the institute.
7. Booklet by Prof P.K.Keshap - Self-Grooming for Success.

Note: Mind Power course is Free but Mind Power Music  cassette/CD and Mind Power Study Technique book is paid.

Benefits of the courses:

1. You will get better job/promotion.
2. You will gain better control on business. English is power.
3. You will become universal i.e. you will be able to write and speak to most of the people in the world.
4. You will create your own personality and fulfill your dreams.
5. More.............................................

Language and its importance in life:

A. Punjabi is spoken in Punjab and is our mother tongue. It means Punjabi speaking people have job opportunities in Punjab only.

B. Hindi is our national language and spoken in India alone. It means Hindi speaking or writing people can have opportunities in some states of India.

C. English is an international language. It is spoken and written in majority of the countries of the world. ENGLISH IS POWER.    Asian Development Bank report says: Those who write English and speak English earn 3-5 times more than non-English speaking people.

What our students say:

1. Sir, I studied in Punjabi medium school in a village. I did B.Com in Punjabi medium. I was married in Ludhiana. Now I am 33. I have 2 kids. I told my husband on our marriage anniversary that my dream of life was to do M.A. (English). I joined your course and completed it in 2 months. Now in 2 years I am M.A(English) . I scored 58% marks in Part I and 63% in Part II. Mind Power and Meditation is very good. I really love them. They build the inner powers. Yes, as you say, self-help is the best help. I thank you.

2. Sir, I am +2 from Punjabi medium school in a village. I got about 80% marks in +2 from Punjab School Education Board. I applied for Bank Clerks exam. I failed 3 times. My father got angry and threw my luggage out of the house. I came to Ludhiana with tears in my eyes. I joined a factory and worked there for Rs. 4000/- per month. I had come to know that I was failing due to my weak English. I joined 2/3 institutes.  But no improvement in English. One day, while travelling in 3 wheeler, one professor who was your student, told me to join your course. I joined. After 2 months, I took the exam and passed the Bank Clerical exam successfully. I thank you from the core of my heart. Mind Power course is very powerful course. Your encouragement boosted my confidence. Your words: What is holding you to achieve anything in life? You and your books are there. Keep reading, reading, revising and in the end you will become master. Success will be yours. I just followed this. Now I will earn more than Rs. 1 crore in life time. 35 years service. 2.50 lacs every year salary. Pranam.

Negative vs. positive evaluation.

A student wrote an essay of about 400 words which was the requirement of the test. But he committed some mistakes. In totality, only 20 words were wrong. It means 95% was correct. But the checker used red pen and pointed these 20 wrong words. It discouraged the brilliant to the extent that he lost interest in the studies and remained less educated throughout life. 33% make a person pass in an exam but 95% made him fail. Why ? Because checker's mindset was negative.  Students are like uncut diamonds. Every student need to be trimmed, developed and polished so that the student may become diamond.

THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES CAN ACHIEVE ANYTHING IN LIFE.

PRAG MIND POWER SPOKEN ENGLISH INSTITUTE,
1ST FLOOR, MOHINDRA JEWELLERS,
KWALITY CHOWK, SHIMLA PURI, LUDHIANA.

Serious students should visit personally.

“अगर एक व्यक्ति को मालूम ही नहीं कि उसे किस बंदरगाह की ओर जाना है, तो हवा की हर दिशा उसे अपने विरुद्ध ही प्रतीत होगी।”


“If a man does not know to which port he is steering, no wind is favourable to him.”
Seneca - the great Greek philosopher.

हमारा जनून 

अापको अंगेजी बोलना लिखना सिखाना ता कि अाप जीवन में अागे जा सकें।  अाप अंग्रेज़ी से 

घबराएँ नहीं। English is power . Learn from the expert. 

Knowledge is multiplied when shared.

Believe it: You are more intelligent and powerful than what others tell. What you know matters more than what you do. 

Note: I use images from Google images. If anybody's copyright is trampled, it may be brought to my notice and the same will be deleted. No intentions to violate anybody's copyright. 
जिंदगी मेे पीछे रहने या सपने पूरे न होनें का कारण : एक दिमागी रोग: क्या कहेंगे लो्ग  . लो्ग हमेशा कुछ न कुछ कहते ही रहते हैं ,करने बाले करते रहते हैं चुपचाप। 

THINK BIG. THINK HARD. KEEP AN EVIDENTIAL JOURNAL. HANG AROUND POSITIVE THINKERS AND ENCOURAGING PEOPLE. Work hard, have patience, wait a while and best results of your choice. Use your untapped unlimited inner power i.e. creative visualization. Plan for 1, 2,3, 4, 5............. Don't fret or regret what you are today. Think what you can be after 1,2,3,4,5, .................. when you are skilled. Develop your skills. 

EDUCATION IS A BETTER GUARD OF LIBERTY THAN STANDING ARMY.

A day spent with a good teacher is better than reading 1000 books. says a former student (M.Sc., B.Ed)

Join:

Regular or Sunday School to upgrade your skills.

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बुधवार, 22 जून 2016

Life

 
  





Pics source: Happy Life Wallpapers

1. Life is too short to live with regrets.

2.  Love the people who treat you right and affectionately.

3.  Forget those who don't.

4. Believe that everything happens for a reason

5. .If you get a chance take it.

6.  Nobody says life is easy but it is worth.    

7. The person who lives the life for money, fame, achievements is called successful but who lives the life for satisfaction is remembered as "legend".

8.Choose well so that no regret in later age.

9. Read others's thoughts. Good. But not dirty, bad or torturing thoughts. Good reading generates good feelings while bad reading burns. Scan a book or email and see if it is worth or use "delete".

10. Surround yourself with positive good likeable people and create good environment in the room or place by using posters or pictures of nature that boost your mind up and energise you for the day, week, month and the coming years. Bury the past. It is dead and gone. Enjoy present. Yes, work in present for creating "future of your choice"


11.But write yours too in Evidence Journal daily so that you may know yourself well. Write what you feel, how you feel, what are your plans, what are your dreams, how those plans and dreams will be made reality in say: 1 year, 2 years, 10 years, 20 years or 30 yrs + .

12.Focus on work and happiness. Close the eyes and focus what you need to be happy. Universe will give you when you will keep focusing for 1 to 2 years and that focused  desire will become subconscious i.e. go to cell level.

13.Each day is celebration. Celebrate it with positive mind. Positive mind refers to seeing everything and every situation through the eyes of a child.

I am an observer. One day, out of curiosity, I stood outside a garden. Where lot of families were enjoying. Now to mindset:

I asked small kids and their parents one question:

How you liked the garden?

Kids:   Yes, Uncle it is a beautiful garden. Beautiful flowers. Big lawns. Very good fountains. Monkey statue was very good.

Parents: No, garden is in a very bad situation. Authorities do not maintain it. Corruption is the problem. Fountains were broken. Lawns were not well maintained.

I really wondered : one question two answers. Quite opposite. Then I inferred that there is nothing good in the world, only beauty lies in beholder's eye. Once the mental eye is changed, everything looks beautiful and life becomes beautiful. Since then, I write only what is good in situation, in a person etc. And my life has become happy, better and really beautiful.

I HAVE THE BEST PERSONS OF THE WORLD AROUND ME.

AND MY MASTER IS BEST.



There is only 1 rule of success: Never lie to yourself.

DID YOU KNOW?

The longest distance in the world is 14 inches.  How I will write in next blog.





Life

 
  





Pics source: Happy Life Wallpapers

1. Life is too short to live with regrets.

2.  Love the people who treat you right and affectionately.

3.  Forget those who don't.

4. Believe that everything happens for a reason

5. .If you get a chance take it.

6.  Nobody says life is easy but it is worth.    

7. The person who lives the life for money, fame, achievements is called successful but who lives the life for satisfaction is remembered as "legend".

8.Choose well so that no regret in later age.

9. Read others's thoughts. Good. But not dirty, bad or torturing thoughts. Good reading generates good feelings while bad reading burns. Scan a book or email and see if it is worth or use "delete".

10. Surround yourself with positive good likeable people and create good environment in the room or place by using posters or pictures of nature that boost your mind up and energise you for the day, week, month and the coming years. Bury the past. It is dead and gone. Enjoy present. Yes, work in present for creating "future of your choice"


11.But write yours too in Evidence Journal daily so that you may know yourself well. Write what you feel, how you feel, what are your plans, what are your dreams, how those plans and dreams will be made reality in say: 1 year, 2 years, 10 years, 20 years or 30 yrs + .

12.Focus on work and happiness. Close the eyes and focus what you need to be happy. Universe will give you when you will keep focusing for 1 to 2 years and that focused  desire will become subconscious i.e. go to cell level.

13.Each day is celebration. Celebrate it with positive mind. Positive mind refers to seeing everything and every situation through the eyes of a child.

I am an observer. One day, out of curiosity, I stood outside a garden. Where lot of families were enjoying. Now to mindset:

I asked small kids and their parents one question:

How you liked the garden?

Kids:   Yes, Uncle it is a beautiful garden. Beautiful flowers. Big lawns. Very good fountains. Monkey statue was very good.

Parents: No, garden is in a very bad situation. Authorities do not maintain it. Corruption is the problem. Fountains were broken. Lawns were not well maintained.

I really wondered : one question two answers. Quite opposite. Then I inferred that there is nothing good in the world, only beauty lies in beholder's eye. Once the mental eye is changed, everything looks beautiful and life becomes beautiful. Since then, I write only what is good in situation, in a person etc. And my life has become happy, better and really beautiful.

I HAVE THE BEST PERSONS OF THE WORLD AROUND ME.

AND MY MASTER IS BEST.



There is only 1 rule of success: Never lie to yourself.

DID YOU KNOW?

The longest distance in the world is 14 inches.  How I will write in next blog.





रविवार, 12 जून 2016

What have I learnt today?


Learning is a life long process. Today I have learnt, how to wash the clothes.
For 58 years of my life, I never helped my wife in washing the clothes. Opportunity to learn washing arose as my wife had pain in knees. Today, she was my boss. 
She directed me how to wash the clothes. Rather she taught me the skill of washing the clothes. So far, I had thought, the washed and ironed clothes I wore were easy to wash. 
But it was my myth. I had never experienced this type of good communication with my wife. 
Now, to scene in the wash room. My wife is sitting. She is directing me and feeling lot of pride and happiness as I was listening very carefully and obeying her orders given verbally and directions with her fingers. 
1. Turn on the tap and fill the tub with water. I did.
2. Give me detergent and soap. I did.
3. Now I wash more dirty clothes so that no dirt is left. Fine. Please do. 
4. Till then you fill the washing machine's water tub with water. Right, madam. I did politely. (I could see the glint of pride in her eyes.Today, she was feeling at cloud nine because never in life I had helped her in washing the clothes. Really missed many opportunities to be with my wife for about 2-3 hours on Sunday)
5. Just then my daughter popped her face and commented: Oh! yesterday's movie's impact. Dad is helping Mom. I smiled and again focused upon my job so that no mistake is made and my boss shout at me. 
6.  Water was filled in the water tank of the washing machine. "No, it should be filled upto the small bag hanging in the water tank, " strong worded order came from my wife. 
7. Right, madam was my humble and polite reply. I did as told by her. She smiled.
8. By now, she had made the clothes ready for the water tank of washing machine. 
9. Now drop detergent in the water. I did accordingly.
10. Turn on the switch at 360 degrees. I did. The washing machine started circling the clothes. When the switch reached back to its starting point, she said: now take out all the clothes. I did.
11. All these clothes were then rinsed in clean water 3 times. They were ready for drier.
12. Now open the lid of the drier. Fine. I opened the lid.
13. Remove the plastic lid of the drier. I did as told.
14. Now drop these rinsed clothes in the drier. I did. 
15. Close the plastic lid. Then close the main lid and turn on the switch. I did as ordered. 
16. After say 5-10 minutes, the clothes in drier were dry. 
17. I opened the main lid of drier, then opened the plastic lid of the drier and pulled the dried clothes. 
18. Then she said: pull that pipe from the clump and leave it on the floor. Dirty waster will flow away. That's all. 
It was a great experience. I had learnt a new skill i.e. washing the clothes. The communication was 100% which is rarest generally between husband and wife. 
MESSAGE: Help the wife in daily chores and you will feel good. Happy mind is more productive in business too. Makes more effective decisions. When a person (any human equipped with knowledge to produce worthy of business or healing pains of human is referred to person) is happy, positive vibes bring positive results in business life. 





बुधवार, 25 मई 2016

PLEASANT VS. TOXIC FEELINGS



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Wonder happened today. Whenever I closed my eyes in my mind many negative thoughts used to pop up and mind started paining and body too reacted the same way.

Yesterday, I read an email that said that feelings play a major role to make you happy. Leave negative thinking and fears and switch to positive thoughts.

I closed my eyes and felt and repeated  with mouth tight lipped following positive thoughts:

1. World is a beautiful place to live.
2. There is no problem with the world.
3. Evolution is a part of the process. So, I am progressing and evolving. World is progressing and evolving. There is nothing to worry. I am best in my role.
4. I have best father.

5. I have best mother.
6. I have best brother and sisters.
7. I have best wife.
8. I have the best children.
9. Everything I have is best.

10. Only best happens.
11. God gives me always the best.
12. All the people around me love me.
13. I have the best things of the world.

Wow! It took me about  3-5 minutes and I repeated these positive thoughts two times.
These feelings soothed my inner self and happiness emanated from my own body.

 I was astonished at this miracle.
I was much troubled why don't I feel good.

But I never knew that my negative thoughts were the cause of my internal troubles.

I feel good today.

I am meeting with everyone with a smile and everyone who meets with me asks me: what has happened, you are very happy.

I can't tell them the whole story as it is long. I just tell: yes, I am happy and why I don't know.

You too practice this and feel good.

My blessings to youngsters and respects to elders.
मैंने सीखा कि दुनिया में मैं कभी खुश नहीं रह सकता यदि मैं खुद से खुश नहीं हूँ।  अच्छी सुखद feelings ड्रीम करने से मन खुश होता है।  

बुधवार, 11 मई 2016

Shocking









Image result for map of indiaToday I read a letter in the newspaper. 

The statistics are really shocking about India. 

125 crores. Population.

 5 crores. Tax payers registered with Income Tax Department
                                   1.6 crores out of 5 crores do not pay income tax.
                                   2.72% population pays tax. 

No tax paying population Tax payers registered with Income Tax Department though registered as tax payer. Only 2.72% pay taxes. Inference 2.72 people earn and 97.28 enjoy on their earnings. 

Why should not every graduate have a PAN card? 

I am not asking for paying tax.  At least, they got graduation from their country, they should be registered and file income tax returns. 

This should be done right at the time degree is awarded by the university. 
The educational institutes and universities can do this. 
Ministry of HRD should pay heed to my suggestion.

It is a matter of great regret that right from our childhood, we are not taught to live honorably by paying taxes either by family or by the educational institutes. 

गुरुवार, 5 मई 2016

Save food for all.






https://www.facebook.com/ruchi.sharma.3517563/posts/10207574753379474

Save resources. Money cannot increase the resources of human beings. India also needs law like Germany. Read the tweet by Honorable Ratan Tata by clicking on the link. This has been shared by Dr. Ruchi Sharma on facebook.

सोमवार, 25 अप्रैल 2016

Vacations

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Vacations : Every body loves to go on vacations. Vacations refresh and energise. Kids and school going children for whole of the year keep on waiting for summer or winter holidays so that they may go on vacations. Plans, planning, discussions, rejection of plans, replanning and then executing the plan are all parts of vacation.

What a great pleasure!

We go on vacation to have some peace and soothing experiences out of busy life, hectic life.

But here are some people, who love to spend their vacations with their relatives generally maternal uncles family or grandparents. Even they keep on calling and inviting throughout the year.

Living and spending vacations with them gives some bitter experiences also. Instead of full pleasure, pleasure is curtailed on account of difference of opinions or perception vs. reality about the time to be spent there.

Here is an advice from a wise family: we go on a pilgrimage and spend 3-4 days there exclusively enjoying there the serenity, the company of the devotees, good feelings, good people all around. Lot of peace descends.

Sometimes we go and spend 1/2 the vacations with our relatives and grandparents. Even then the half of vacations are spent at a pilgrimage in nature's lap. This really improves health. We feel we have made best use of wealth.

I really liked this. 

बुधवार, 13 अप्रैल 2016

RICHEST PERSON



Read today:

HE IS THE RICHEST 

WHOSE 

PLEASURES 

ARE CHEAPEST.

सोमवार, 11 अप्रैल 2016

Good parenting



This is an email from one of co-professors from Management Teacher's Consortium. Under TSR Teacher's Social Responsibility) I feel, I must share with others what is good that I have read. Hence, this good writing and advice to parents:




Dear friends,

Good morning.

How to treat your children?  Wonderful.

Look at the communication of a school.

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With regards,

 
Dr. K. Sampath Kumar,  B.A. (Economics), BGL, M.Com., M.Phil., Cert. A.I.I.B.,
                                        
MBA (Finance), MBA (HR & Marketing),  ACS, FCMA, Ph. D., 
Professor
, 

 
Success consists of getting up
just one more time than you fall
-- Oliver Goldsmith



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गुरुवार, 7 अप्रैल 2016

DIABETES - SELF CURE.




I attended a seminar on "How to Cure Diabetes without medicine?"

Expert doctors spoke and gave lot of style management techniques to keep away the body diabetes free.

What I liked most was: Walking 10000 steps a day keeps you diabetes free. You will never develop diabetes in your body was their opinion. No need to take insulin.        Doctor who said was an M.D doctor.

A case study was cited: Mr. M was a busy Chief Executive of a top MNC i.e. business house. He got up early in the morning at 4 am and took the files to his bathroom. Sitting on the seat he finished many files. But could not evacuate well and always felt dizzy. Constipation was his major problem. He told to the doctors he consulted.

But doctors gave him another reason. You are diabetic. For this you need to manage your life style. Walk 10000 steps daily. He kept on thinking and thinking. Then one day, he took the first walked about 1000 steps. Slowly, slowly, he increased the walk to 2000, 3000, and at last in about 3 months 10000 steps.

He felt a lot of change in his daily routine. His fitness was better. His personal productivity had increased. His mood swinging was managed. Irritative mood was replaced with a smile. Relationships were improving. This he reported to his doctor. Doctor, a wise one, advised not to take any medicine but continue the life style he had achieved.

He advised: take meal 2 hours before going to bed. Take lot of water daily. Take lemonade. Wake up early as usual and drink 2-3 glasses. This will improve your constipation problem too.

Thank you, he told to his doctor.

गुरुवार, 17 मार्च 2016

Marriage- the pious bond.

Marriages are settled in heaven, but celebrated on Earth,
Union of two souls is written from birth.

आज मैं दुनिया के खूबसूरत रिश्ते के बारे में लिखने जा रहा हूँ/ जीवन बनाने बाले का खूबसूरत तोहफा है।  शादी इस खूबसूरत तोहफे का एक बहुत महत्बपूर्ण भाग है।  शादी कोई दो शरीरों या दिलों का मेल नहीं बल्कि दो आत्माओं दो परिवारों का ता उम्र की ख़ुशी , जिम्मेबारी, व समाज बृद्धि का सुखद साधन है / परन्तु आज इलेक्ट्रॉनिक युग में इस महत्ब पूर्ण रिश्ते को ग्रहण सा लगता जा रहा है / शादी दो हाड मांस के इंसानों का सम्बंध है न की फेसबुक या ट्विटर।  फेसबुक या ट्विटर बातें नहीं कर सकते जब इंसान बीमार पड़ता है फेसबुक या ट्विटर ध्यान नहीं रख पता / यह एक प्यार करने बल जिम्मेबारी समझने बल इंसान ही कर सकता है।

आज युवा पीढ़ी के अधिकांश लोग इलेक्ट्रॉनिक मिडिया से परभाभीत हो कर रियल लाइफ के रिश्तों को अनदेखा करते है / 40 -50 वर्ष तक शरीर में ऊर्जा का परवाह रहता है , तब तक सब कछ अच्छा लगता है परन्तु उसके बाद बदलाब आते हैं /शरीर उतना उर्जित नहीं रहता है , केवल उत्तर्दयितुय (जिम्मेबारिआ ) ही रह जाती है /

एक शोशल साइंटिस्ट ने अपने लेख में बहुत ही अच्छा विचार दिया।  उसने लिखा : केवल सोच को बदलने की जरूरत है / पार्टनर बदलने की नहीं / कैसे एक मैडम की क्वालिफिकेशन M.sc. B.Ed , Certificate in French है / बह स्कूल में प्रिंसिपल है / उसकी उम्र अब 50 के करीब है / जब मेरे पास आई तो उसकी उम्र 42 साल थी / दो बचे है / दोनों अंग्रेजी स्कूल में पड़े और अब लड़की B.Tech और लड़का B.B.A कर रहा है /

इस प्रिंसिपल की 42 साल में समस्या क्या थी / यह तलाक लेने पर तुली थी / इस मेंटर ने बताया की तलाक से बच्चों का भविष्य खराब हो जाता है उनके अंदर परिवार रूपी संस्था के प्रति आस्था समापत हो जाती है और बच्चे समाजविरोदी कर्म पर उतारू हो जाते है / इस लिए तलाक या माता पीता का एक दूसरे के प्रति सम्मान न होना भी बच्चे के जीवन को प्यार की बजाये नफरत से भर देता है / आप समस्या बताओ ?

इस प्रिंसिपल ने बताया : मेरे पति एक PHYSIOTHERAPY के डिप्लोमा होल्डरहै और गवर्नमेंट की नौकरी करते है / मेरी और उनकी शिक्षा में व् सोच में बड़ा फर्क है / मुझे उनके रिश्ते दार , मेरे रिश्तेदार , मेरी सहेलिआं ताने देती हैं , मुझ से बर्दाश्त नही होता /      

अब मेंटर बोला : क्या उन रिश्तेदारों सह्लिओं ने कभी आप के घर के खर्च के लिए पैसे दिए हैं , जब आप या आप के बच्चे वीमार हुए तो हॉस्पिटल का  बिल दिया है ?

कभी नहीं ? तो फिर बातें कैसी। आपकी एक समस्या है की आपका पति आपसे कम पड़ा लिखा है /
इसका तो बड़ा आसान हल है / आप अपने पति को मेरे पास लेकर आना /

कुछ दिनों के बाद प्रिंसिपल अपने पति को अपने साथ लेकर मेंटर के पास आई / मेंटर ने पति से पूच्छा कि क्या चाहते हो / उस्ने कहा "इज़्ज़त " घर में मेरी कोई इज़्ज़त नहीं करता / पत्नी बच्चे कोई भी नहीं /

अपनी पढ़ाई आगे करना चाहोगे / इस उम्र में , पति बोला /

पढ़ने की कोई उम्र नहीं होती / पड़ने से जीवन सम्बर जाता है। इज़्ज़त मिलती है / आत्मबल बड़ जाटा है /
आज आप की उम्र 42 साल है तीन साल में B.P.T कर जाओगे /
पति मान गया / पत्नी ने साथ दिया / 47 साल की उम्र में प्रिंसिपल और उसका पति मेंटर से मिलने आये।  पति ने बताया सर अब मैं M.P.T हूँ मतलब Master of Physiotherapy . मेंटर  बहुत खुश हुआ  ये सोच कर कि एक परिवार विखरने से बच गया।

मेंटर ने कहा , शादी को सफल बनाने के लिए :
1 . अपने पार्टनर की कमियां नहीं गुणों की लिस्ट  बनाओ
2. हमेशा अपने पार्टनर को दुनिया का सबसे महत्ब पूर्ण समझो।
3. जब भी कभी कोई misunderstanding हो दोनों अकेले बंद कमरे में बैठ कर बात चीत से हल करो
4. रियल लाइफ के फेसबुक व ट्विटर से  बचो
5 पति पत्नी की अपनी पर्सनल  बातें किसी से शेयर न करो / दूसरे इसका मजाक उड़ाते हैं /
6 पार्टनर पर भरोसा करो / उतार चढ़ाब जीवन का हिस्सा है / लाभ में खुश नहीं हानि में दुखी नहीं
7 संस्कारी माँ बाप ही संस्कारी बच्चों को अच्छा जीवन दे सकते है
8. छोटी छोटी बातों को तूल न दे
9. अच्छे पलों को ज्यादा ध्यान दे हमेशा 10 /20 बाद का सोचें
10 परिवार को प्यार का घोसला बनायें / जंग या कुश्ती का अखाड़ा नहीं
11 तीसरे किसी को भी अपनी विवाहित जीवन में दखलंदाजी न करने दें चाहे माँ हो भाई हो बाप हो / सुनो सब की पर दिमाग से सोच कर बुरा इग्नोर कर दो / शब्द है शब्द चिपकते नहीं / परन्तु जिंदगी बर्बाद होने पर कोई भी संभारने नहीं आता /
12 सारी दुनिया में केवल परिवार ही ऐसी जगह है जहाँ इंसान सुरक्षित महसूस करता है जहाँ सुख मिलता है बाकी कहीं नहीं / गलत सलाह देने बाले से दूर रहना चाहिए / यह बर्बाद कर देते हैं
13 सभी को छोड़ कर अपने पाने र्टनर पर भरोसा करो / उसका मान सम्मान करो / मान सम्मान शब्दो/से होता है / व्यव्हार से बाद में /   एक सुझाओ :
छोटीआं नु करो प्यार ,         बड़ों करो सत्कार
मीठे बोल प्यार बढ़ाते है , रिश्ते बनाते है
कोड़े बोल रिश्ते तुड़बाते हैं
रिश्ते जिंदगी है।  इनको संभाल के रखना एक कला है / इस कला को सीखो /
14 पार्टनर में कोई कमी हो तो उस कमी को पूरा करने के लिए उसकी भरपूर मदद करो और पार्टनर को अपने बराबर ले कर आयो / जैसे प्रिंसिपल ने अपने पति को पूरी लगन से पढ़ाया और अपने काबिल बनाया / नहीं तो क्या होता बकील अपनी फीस ले लेता और तलाक हो जाता / सभी रिश्ते नाते टूट जाते बच्चों का जीवन बर्बाद हो जाता / परन्तु समझदार प्रिंसिपल ने अपने पति का साथ दिया और आज सुख से जी रही है / अब कोई रिश्तेदार आता है तो पति अपनी पत्नी की प्रशंशा करता है : मैं जो भी हु अपनी पत्नी की बदौलत हु बच्चे भी माँ को गर्ब भरी नज़रों से देखते है / अब रिश्तेदार कभी कोई बात नहीं करते।  रिश्तेदार तो अख़बारों की तरह है आज ऊपर चढ़ा देते है कल उतार फेंकते है / अपनी सूझ भूज से चलना चाहिए /

15. आज किसी भी उमर में पड़ा जा सकता है /  17 /18 साल की उमर में DIRECT 10 बी कर सकता है / 25 साल क़ी उमर है तो DIRECT  B.A कर सकता है / 35 साल की उमर है तो DIRECT M.A कर सकता है।
अपने पार्टनर को लिख कर देने से या फ़ोन में रिकॉर्ड करके अपनी मंशा बताने से दूरियां दूर हो सकती है / नया जीवन जिया जा सकता है

मेरे दो UPDATE दुनिया लाइक कर रही है
1. One life , one wife . Rest all is knife . Beware .
2. Listening leverages learning . Listen , listen . Listen for understanding not for replying and reacting without any understanding. Children reply, matured minds respond. Mirror the talk. Arguments generate heat in minds and destroy relationships while discussions throw light on issues and life becomes easier.




Words



Words can win

ARGUMENTS

BUT

wisdom

wins

life's WAR.


Wisdom comes from mirroring the words - spoken or written in books or scriptures. Words soothe. Words wound. Use words to build the bridges of relationship rather than burning the relationships.


Many times, it is not the words that destroy a relationship but the tone and presentation of the words that destroy life time relations. We need to use the words that heal the heart of others not hurt others. Words burn head and heart.  Vice versa is also true.

रविवार, 13 मार्च 2016

REAL EDUCATION



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Educate * Empower * Elevate

Education received in schools, colleges and universities is not complete until and unless we have developed a sense of ethical and moral living. 


Sympathy and empathy are not taught but ought to be developed and focus of our learning should be developing Human Centric Solutions to the problems faced by humans throughout the world.


EDUCATION = INTELLIGENCE + CHARACTER. 

Mahatma Gandhi - the father of nation - says:

Wealth is lost, nothing is lost,
Health is lost, something is lost,
Character is lost, everything is lost.

The learnings made in the schools, colleges and universities are like the beads of the garland but the beads can be turned into garland with solid thread. Spirituality and its development is that thread. Spirituality develops the human mind to cultivate kindness, sympathy and empathy for the pains of the living - be it humans, animals or birds. Environment is loved by the spiritual person. 

So, develop spirituality to be more educated beyond schools, colleges and universities. 

Pretensions, doubts, excuses are some of the hurdles faced by an individual on spiritual path. Right master with self-effort on the spiritual path leads to right path and destination.

Those who are spiritually enlightened serve the society in wider ways,

For further reading click on: http://sivanandaonline.org/public_html/?cmd=displaysection&section_id=797

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रविवार, 6 मार्च 2016

Skill Development



NATIONAL LEVEL SEMINAR cum WORKSHOP
                       ON
Qualitative Research Techniques in Social Sciences
          March 3rd and 4th, 2016
                         at
KRUSTI JAYANTI COLLEGE, BANGALORE (INDIA)

I felt the need of self-training in Qualitative Research Techniques in Social Sciences as I always felt lacking while guiding juniors or CEO and entrepreneurs in CSR (Corporate Social Responsibility). Many times, I felt gagged from within while delivering lecture on CSR. I confess I just crammed the subject from books and internet and vomit it virtually without understanding the concepts in totally and comprehensively.

The opportunity to learn about this skill came in the form of invitation for attending 2-day seminar at Krusti Jayanti College, Bangalore.

The national level eminent speakers included National Fellow, Indian Council of Social Science Research (ICSSR), Retired and working Professors of Social Sciences and heads of Department of Social Work, Bharathiar University.

The arrangement by the management, principal and staff was very good. The workshop was entirely handled by the students of MSW and other courses. It was really a pleasure to see the students handling each and every activity with great responsibility at such a young age. India and the world's assets are these students.

The topics  covered in the Seminar were:

1, Perspective Building and Philosophy of Qualitative Research.
2. Observation and in-depth interviews.
3. Focus Group Discussion (FGD)
4, Case Study
5. Ethnography and Participatory Action Research
6. Phenomenology, Grounded Theory and Content Analysis
7. Qualitative Data Analysis

One of the learned speakers exhorted the students to develop sympathy and empathy for the victims of natural calamities. She cited the example of Chennai natural calamity i.e. floods. She exhorted the students by saying: Did you see? There were volunteers, there were media persons and persons from all walks of life who were helping the victims during floods, but there was no social worker or educated MSW social worker. Where were the social workers or the professionals in social work. This is not sympathy or empathy but apathy. Beware, you don't be that. Passion is required to be a good social worker. Merely passing an exam cannot make you a true social worker. Be passionate about your work.


Power tea, lunch and evening tea was arranged by the college management. Punctuality was the essence. Generally, the seminars and conferences start at time, but the agenda is least followed later on. But in this case, it was not so. The agenda was strictly followed.

After valediction, at the end of 2 -day seminar, all the delegates were awarded with:

1, Certificate of participation,
2. Certificate of attendance.
3, Group photograph.

I thank all - the management, principal and staff, department of social sciences, students and co-delegates - for such a good seminar that has developed my skill in social sciences and given me enough insight into the social sciences. My special thanks to Fr. Josekutty PD, Principal, Dr. Gopal Kumar, Dean, Faculty of Humanities, Dr. Jones Richard A, Head, Department of Social Work & Convener.

I will never forget the definition of social science given by Fr. Josekutty PD who said: Social Science is a "science of hope.

In the end, I say THANK YOU AND THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

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