STRESS BUSTER

STRESS BUSTER

Are all the

       relationships

worth keeping?

           Renee Singh*

People in our lives can be can be a great source of comfort but also sometimes they can be a significant cause of stress.

Stress relief is very important for our physical and emotional well being. We understand this and we all realize the value of a good relationship.

Having a happy relationship is a great stress reliever, conversely a conflicted relationship can bring a great deal of stress.

Relationship research shows that there is a very important impact that relationships have on our health, well being and stress levels.

Relationships conflict can negatively affect your health in several ways.

Research has also shown us that stable negative social exchanges are significantly

associated with lower self rated health, greater functional limitations and a higher number of health conditions.

Impact on immunity

Stress dampens the immune system. Ongoing stress can really take a toll on your health and needs immediate attention.

Family conflict

This is not uncommon. The most important relationships in our lives are within our family and are perhaps the greatest cause of our major stress.

I feel this not basically due to a lack of love but due to a lack of comfort in dealing with conflict among family members, whether it is open conflict over the dinner table or a one to one argument.

Ambivalent friendships

These are relationships where interactions are sometimes negative and hostile and sometimes positive and supportive.

These have clear negative impact on health, affect blood pressure, contribute to heart disease and many other co-related conditions.

It is in your best interest to minimize and eliminate negative relationships in your life.

Make a plan to minimize stress of ambivalent relationships by dealing with stress in these two steps.

Step One

Make a list of all the friendships in your life. Include all the people you can think of as friends, whether you meet them sometimes or regularly. Include your romantic partners whether they are in

your life now or they were there earlier or may be likely to come back.

Step two

Circle the name of friends or people in your life who are positive, those who support you when you are down and share your joy when good things happen to you. For others, evaluate your friendships and other relationships genuinely to see if they are beneficial to you or detrimental.

Ask yourself?

·    Is this relationship worth the work you putting into it?

·    Am I holding on to the relationship because of habit?

·    Would I want to be with this person if we met today?

·    Does the person make me feel good about myself?

·    Am I uncomfortable with the person?

·    Do I like who I am when I am with that person?

·    Do we bring out the best in each other?

·    How deeply can I trust this person?

·    Do we have common interests?

·    Am I receiving as much as I am giving to this relationship?

·    Does this relationship enrich my life?

Once you answer these questions if gives you a clearer picture of whether the relationship is positive or negative for you.

Check yourself and learn to let go?

RESTRUCTURE YOUR THOUGHTS

Our habitual thought patterns shape what we get angry about.

Change your thoughts in a way to attack negative thoughts to change them to positive.

LET GO TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

At some point accept that some relationships stress you continually. Recognize these people and keep them at a safe distance. Stay on with your healthy relationships.

(*Singh is a Chandigarh based Psychotherapist)

Source: The Tribune 26^th March, 2012.

SUCCESS

LAW OF SUCCESS

          BY Vasudha Gupta

Saurabh Garg, 25, a young lawyer practicing in the Supreme Court, was invited to the Bar of England and Wales in October 2011.

Saurabh was invited to the society of the Inner Temple, which has notable alumni, including MK Gandhi and Jawahar Lal Nehru, to its credit.

This young lad, who has his own law firm, has studied Intellectual Property Law in the London School of Economics. In his endeavour to understand the legal system, Saurabh coordinated the ULIS Law and Technology Seminar as chief

 coordinator and represented the university at Criminal Law Forum, Bhopal.

Motivational factor.

I have always aimed to do something for my nation. I wanted to come back to India to open an organization that works on issues like illiteracy, poverty and population. I want to improve myself everyday. For me, learning something new everyday is the key.

Feathers in the cap

I received the Best Student Advocate award an International Moot Court competition in 2008. I have written several research papers that have been published in prestigious journals. I was the only India to study at the Bar in England and secure an internship with the International Bar Association, London.

In my pursuit to specialize in mediation, I underwent training to be an accredited mediator.

Strengths and weaknesses

I am focused, optimistic and a confident person.  I think my weakness is that I get aggressive and impatient when it is comes to getting work done.

Flipside of being an achiever

It can lead to have fewer friends. If a person during an interaction with his friends tries not to make the other person insecure, then he can keep the friendship going. The problem only comes when the other person feels that he is being looked down upon.

People tend to be become envious, judgmental and start expecting a lot from you.

Words of Wisdom

My sincere advice is to follow you heart in whatever you want to do in life. One may face opposition from the people around but they’ll be fine once they see you happy. Having said that, I believe that it’s not aptitude but attitude that determines the altitude.

 Source: The Tribune 22^nd March, 2012.

You are powerful.

The truth is………………

The truth is, you can do whatever you choose to do.

The truth is, when you make it priority you will make it happen.

The limiting beliefs that hold you back are not based in Truth.

They are merely stories you tell yourself that have Grown so familiar you don’t even think is , to question them.

Yet the truth is, you can find your way beyond any Challenge.

The truth is, the only limits that permanently Hold you back are the limits you place on yourself.

You can choose to transform your limiting beliefs into Empowering affirmations. now to jump.

You can choose right now to jump Fully into creating the life of your dreams.

Sure, you have plenty of great excuses for not living life At its very highest level, but keep this in mind.

The very Fact that they’re excuses means they’re not really true.

The truth is you are unique, creative, powerful, passionate And worthy of the very best you can imagine.

Choose right Now to live your beautiful truth.

BE YOUR OWN BOSS

Dear 

Be your own boss. You are very intelligent. I have judged.

Having more education and clearing IELTS/TOEFL and getting education abroad will change your whole life.

Just recondition your mind and priorities.

Power affirmations are:

1. I am best. I am the maker of my life.
2. I am the boss of my life.
3. I can do every thing.
4. I can learn anything and apply that learning to improve my and my family’s life and the life of human beings in the world.
5. I work hard and smart.
6. SUCCESS IS MINE. NOBODY CAN STOP ME.
7. I will not tell anyone till I achieve my success i.e. clear IELTS/TOEFL AND JOIN COLLEGE IN USA.
8. There is nothing between me and my success except my efforts i.e. preparation.

Efforts 99% Success 100% = Result fail

Efforts 101% Success 100%= Result Pass

9. For my success only I am responsible. It is my life.
10. Nobody is responsible for my behaviour, work or results in life.

Repeat these affirmations yourself MENTALLY and don’t tell others. You will see the change in your personality and real life. Every body will be proud of you.

Tell and do nothing- all criticize. Keep secret and achieve what you want to achieve – all will be surprised and trust you.

With love,

Uncle

IDEA

ONLY THAT IDEA

CLICKS AND WORKS

WHICH IS BACKED


BY THOROUGH KNOWLEDGE

AND FULLY TRUSTED AND BELIEVED

BY

YOU HONESTLY AND TRUTHFULLY.



WHAT THE MIND

CAN CONCEIVE

AND BELIEVE

IT CAN

ACHIEVE.

TRUTH ABOUT LIFE

SUCCESS

of life will create

crowd and fake friends.

LONELINESS

of life will create

space for you.


TOUGH TIME

in life will create

the TRUE person in you.

MY GUIDE

MLE

M means morality i.e. moral living.
L  means legality i.e. no unlawful living or doing.
E  means ethics i.e. discriminate what is right and what is wrong and never hurt the feelings of others with my words or behaviour.

COMPLAIN AGAINST ME.

If any person or reader has any complaint or objection on account of the postings in this blog, kindly write to me at mympi98@gmail.com.

I will delete the posting or the offending material.  I don’t wish to hurt anybody’s sentiments and neither wish to fringe anybody’s copyright done so out of mistake. 

For me all humans on this planet EARTH are God’s incarnation.

If anybody needs any guidance from me, then also write. I shall be doing so.

You are very dear to me.