Words and Behaviour

Sweet, soft and polite words work wonders
on the ears of the listener

Getting things done becomes easier.

Honey attracts flies. Vinegar dispels the flies.

10 Talisman for Selfactulization

I have today sent you 8 manstras for self-actualization. Here below are the TEN TALISMAN for self actualization.

1. Accept yourself and others for what you are (or) what they are. There is no point cursing things which cannot be helped or improved upon e.g. dark complexion or some other deformity or handicap.

2. Develop spontaneity of thought and behaviour and more so in decision-making.

3. Develop "sense of humour". Sense of humour is the best and effective tool in one's hand. It helps in"De-tensing" and lightening any stressful situation. Humour will motivate even the most reluctant person to do thing willingly, for you.

4, Be creative to utilize time to the fullest extent. After all, you are devoting only about 30% of your lifespan for really productive work

5. Do self appraisal and introspection or get psycho analysis done to know your potential aptitudes, attitudes, strong and weak points. "Know thyself". The more we learn about our feelings, the more pragmatic would be our approach to behaviour and we will not act in the way which would prove harmful to ourselves.

6. Look at your life from an objective view point. Here helicopter view or overall view of your life to prod the pink spots and to gauge the grey areas.

7. Develop deep and satisfying interpretations and interpersonal relationships, with a few rather than a large number of people.

8. Do not become self-centred but  be a Team centred. You cannot succeed by becoming a lone player but by becoming a "Team Player" you will certainly. A loner is left to fend for himself.

9. Divide your eternal goal into smaller achievable targets. Achieve one objective then only set more difficult target to be achieved. Thus "may you climb peak to peak" successfully, one after another. Do not try to break the deadlock in one go.

10. Do not give up in the face of difficulties"when going gets tough the tough get going."  No complacency should set in. You should not be the one who says: When going gets easier, tougher goes lazier.

Get out of wavering nature. You shouldn't be like, " when going gets easier, the lazier gets going."

Do not get perturbed on what you cannot help and what you can help do not get hesitated.

Do not waste time non-productively. If the work is worship, God is time. "Kaalah Kalayathamahan" - Sri Krishan in Sri mad Bhagvat Gita.

SWOT Analyses should be done by the individual, society,nation and states.

Send your SWOT analyses.

Communication-I

COMMUNICATION

Before we discuss communication, let’s understand the difference between speaking and communicating.

Dalai Lama has well said: When a person speaks, he is speaking his/her mind and same information is repeated time and again. But when listening is practiced, new knowledge, new information is gained.

In speaking we tell our mind and listening we try to gain what the speaker wants to convey. Confusion, aggression, arrogance, arguments are the major drawbacks of speaking.

There is never a generation gap. There is always a communication gap.

Communication involves 6 steps to complete a communication in its entirety.

1.   Sender- the person who has an idea or wants to convey.

2.   Coding- giving a shape to the idea or the information.

3.   Medium- Use of medium for transmitting the idea i.e. words, phone, letter, fax, email, pager or pigeons, drums etc.

4.   Receiver- the person who receives the idea, instructions or communication.

5.   Decoding—Interpretation of the idea, instructions or communication. 

6.   Action/Feedback/Storage- Action taken. Action taken can be feedback, real action taken or the storage of the message conveyed like the speech by Prime Minister or President of India.

Example: I need a cup of tea. Idea comes to the mind. Now how the process of communication starts.

I= Sender of the message.

     Feeling of having a cup of tea is “idea”

“Madam, please make a cup of tea and give it to me.”  Coding of the feeling.

Spoken words have been used and hence that is medium. I can also use phone or non-verbal communication by just a sign with fingers that I need a cup of tea.

Madam hears the message. She is the receiver.

She listens to my instruction/request. After some time she says: Wait for 5 minutes. This is decoding.

After 5 minutes, she comes and hands over the cup of tea. This is action.

Communication is complete.

But after 5 minutes, she comes and says: No. No tea can be made as there is no sugar in the bowl. This is feedback.

Communication is incomplete as the action is incomplete.   I will go and buy sugar and after buying sugar I will come back and then a cup of tea will be made.

Another example from Business:

 

Decoding

Receiver

Medium

Coding

Sender

BARRIERS TO COMMUNICATION:  Major barriers to communication.

-Physical Barriers

-Age Barriers

-Education Barriers

- Cultural differences.

- Gender differences.

- Ethnic differences

- Health

- Medium

etc

NOBODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW

UNTIL HE KNOWS HOW MUCH YOU CARE.

Small minds talk about people.      (An island)

Average minds talk about events   (A sea)

Big minds talk about ideas.            (An ocean)

Ideas benefit the world i.e. humanity and the creation at large.

Journey from Small to Big is a self-journey where wh-family(what, why, where, who, when) questions are answered by the self not by others.

This journey is internal not external and in my religion this is called Brahm Giyani i.e. reaching the 12^th chamber of self-development.COMMUNICATION

Before we discuss communication, let’s understand the difference between speaking and communicating.

Dalai Lama has well said: When a person speaks, he is speaking his/her mind and same information is repeated time and again. But when listening is practiced, new knowledge, new information is gained.

In speaking we tell our mind and listening we try to gain what the speaker wants to convey. Confusion, aggression, arrogance, arguments are the major drawbacks of speaking.

There is never a generation gap. There is always a communication gap.

Communication involves 6 steps to complete a communication in its entirety.

1.   Sender- the person who has an idea or wants to convey.

2.   Coding- giving a shape to the idea or the information.

3.   Medium- Use of medium for transmitting the idea i.e. words, phone, letter, fax, email, pager or pigeons, drums etc.

4.   Receiver- the person who receives the idea, instructions or communication.

5.   Decoding—Interpretation of the idea, instructions or communication. 

6.   Action/Feedback/Storage- Action taken. Action taken can be feedback, real action taken or the storage of the message conveyed like the speech by Prime Minister or President of India.

Example: I need a cup of tea. Idea comes to the mind. Now how the process of communication starts.

I= Sender of the message.

     Feeling of having a cup of tea is “idea”

“Madam, please make a cup of tea and give it to me.”  Coding of the feeling.

Spoken words have been used and hence that is medium. I can also use phone or non-verbal communication by just a sign with fingers that I need a cup of tea.

Madam hears the message. She is the receiver.

She listens to my instruction/request. After some time she says: Wait for 5 minutes. This is decoding.

After 5 minutes, she comes and hands over the cup of tea. This is action.

Communication is complete.

But after 5 minutes, she comes and says: No. No tea can be made as there is no sugar in the bowl. This is feedback.

Communication is incomplete as the action is incomplete.   I will go and buy sugar and after buying sugar I will come back and then a cup of tea will be made.

Another example from Business:

 

Decoding

Receiver

Medium

Coding

Sender

BARRIERS TO COMMUNICATION:  Major barriers to communication.

-Physical Barriers

-Age Barriers

-Education Barriers

- Cultural differences.

- Gender differences.

- Ethnic differences

- Health

- Medium

etc

NOBODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW

UNTIL HE KNOWS HOW MUCH YOU CARE.

Small minds talk about people.      (An island)

Average minds talk about events   (A sea)

Big minds talk about ideas.            (An ocean)

Ideas benefit the world i.e. humanity and the creation at large.

Journey from Small to Big is a self-journey where wh-family(what, why, where, who, when) questions are answered by the self not by others.

This journey is internal not external and in my religion this is called Brahm Giyani i.e. reaching the 12^th chamber of self-development.COMMUNICATION

Before we discuss communication, let’s understand the difference between speaking and communicating.

Dalai Lama has well said: When a person speaks, he is speaking his/her mind and same information is repeated time and again. But when listening is practiced, new knowledge, new information is gained.

In speaking we tell our mind and listening we try to gain what the speaker wants to convey. Confusion, aggression, arrogance, arguments are the major drawbacks of speaking.

There is never a generation gap. There is always a communication gap.

Communication involves 6 steps to complete a communication in its entirety.

1.   Sender- the person who has an idea or wants to convey.

2.   Coding- giving a shape to the idea or the information.

3.   Medium- Use of medium for transmitting the idea i.e. words, phone, letter, fax, email, pager or pigeons, drums etc.

4.   Receiver- the person who receives the idea, instructions or communication.

5.   Decoding—Interpretation of the idea, instructions or communication. 

6.   Action/Feedback/Storage- Action taken. Action taken can be feedback, real action taken or the storage of the message conveyed like the speech by Prime Minister or President of India.

Example: I need a cup of tea. Idea comes to the mind. Now how the process of communication starts.

I= Sender of the message.

     Feeling of having a cup of tea is “idea”

“Madam, please make a cup of tea and give it to me.”  Coding of the feeling.

Spoken words have been used and hence that is medium. I can also use phone or non-verbal communication by just a sign with fingers that I need a cup of tea.

Madam hears the message. She is the receiver.

She listens to my instruction/request. After some time she says: Wait for 5 minutes. This is decoding.

After 5 minutes, she comes and hands over the cup of tea. This is action.

Communication is complete.

But after 5 minutes, she comes and says: No. No tea can be made as there is no sugar in the bowl. This is feedback.

Communication is incomplete as the action is incomplete.   I will go and buy sugar and after buying sugar I will come back and then a cup of tea will be made.

Another example from Business:

 

Decoding

Receiver

Medium

Coding

Sender

BARRIERS TO COMMUNICATION:  Major barriers to communication.

-Physical Barriers

-Age Barriers

-Education Barriers

- Cultural differences.

- Gender differences.

- Ethnic differences

- Health

- Medium

etc

NOBODY CARES HOW MUCH YOU KNOW

UNTIL HE KNOWS HOW MUCH YOU CARE.

Small minds talk about people.      (An island)

Average minds talk about events   (A sea)

Big minds talk about ideas.            (An ocean)

Ideas benefit the world i.e. humanity and the creation at large.

Journey from Small to Big is a self-journey where wh-family(what, why, where, who, when) questions are answered by the self not by others.

This journey is internal not external and in my religion this is called Brahm Giyani i.e. reaching the 12^th chamber of self-development.