Act for results

Thrive Now. Regret Nothing Later.

 

• Those who thrive LIVE what those who struggle only “believe and know about.”
• हिम्मत से काम करने बाले जीबन में आगे बढ़ते जाते है केबल बिश्बास करने बाले संघर्श करते रहते हैं
• Authentic commitment is demonstrated in results – not in lip service.
•  दुनिया इंसान को बादो  से नहीं रिजल्ट से जानती है रिजल्ट करने से आते हैं बातों से नहीं 
• Waiting to be inspired, turned on, and energized is apathy. Stop it and inspire yourself now.
• प्रेरणा, काम और सेहत की  कमी केवल बहाने होते है। इस से बचिए और अपने आप को प्रेरित करिये।
• Frustration occurs when you ALLOW circumstances to run your behavior.
• मायूसी तभी आती है जब आप अपने व्यबहार को हालत का गुलाम बना देते हो।
• Change management problems? It’s behavior. If behavior doesn’t change – nothing changes.
• अपने आप को बदलिये।   अपने व्यबहार को बदलिये।
• A life well lived is a life of commitment. A life of regret is a life based on avoidance and pretense. एक अच्छी िजंदगी बादे के पक्के होने बाले की होती है न की बहाने बनाने बालों की।
• Have ambitions for others that are bigger than their own. That’s true leadership.
• दूसरों के लिए उनसे बड़े बड़े सपने रखो।  उने प्रेरणा दो।  यही सच्ची लीडरशिप है।
• The language you speak deliberately and sincerely creates the world you live in.
• जो भाषा आप बोलते हैं और उस में कितनी सचाई है इससे आपकी दुनिया बनती है-अच्छी या बुरी। 
• Positive thinking will usually just push one further in the hole.
• स्कारतमक सोच आपको सफलता की तरफ एक कदम है , सफलता नहीं। सफफलता करने से मिलती है
• Each day is a new opportunity. You can choose from strength or you can choose from weakness. Choose responsibly. हर नया दिन एक नया मौका है . आप इस दिन में क्या करते हैं यह आप पर निर्भर है।  सोचना आप ने है करना आप ने है। करता रहता है
• You won’t solve your comfort fix by giving yourself more time to deal with it.
• आपके जीवन की समस्याएं आपके जयादा समय लगाने से हल नहीं होने बाली।  इन को लिख कर एक एक करके हैंडल करें।
• A dysfunctional life is a product of habitually choosing comfort over growth while pretending that you have no choice. असफल जीबन इन्सान की अपनी ही आदतों का नतीजा है क्यूंकि ईन्सान अवगी बढ़ने के लिए जरूरी म्हणत की बजाये आराम को जयादा पसंद करता है। जो चाहिए उस पर समय नहीं िबटता जो नहीं चाहिए उस में समय नष्ट करता रहता है।
• The more you reward helplessness, the more helplessness you get.
• अपने आप को िजतनी  सीमाएं (मजबूरी ) बताएँगे उतने ही मजबूर होते जोयोगे।
• The key = say what it is that you are going to do and follow through.
• एक ही सफलता की चाबी है की मुझे चाहिए क्या और उसके लिए मैं सही प्रयत्न कर रहा हूँ। इन प्रयत्नों को लग्न से करते रहना।  आप सफल हो जायेंगे।
• You either create, and live from your commitments, or you wait and see what happens.
• दो ही जीबन में विकल्प होते हैं - जिंदगी की डोर आपके हाथ जीवन आपकी मर्ज़ी का या जीवन की डोर जिसके हाथ जीवन भी उसी की मर्जी का।
• When dealing with others, assume that they are adults, until they prove to you otherwise.
• जब भी दूसरों से बात करें दो यह समझ कर करे की बह ब्वयस्क है जब तक की बह अपनी बातों से सिध न कर दें कि नहीं हैं।
• If a problem isn’t resolving, it contains a lie. Locate the lie and you resolve the problem.
• यदि कोई समस्या सुलझ नहीं रही तो ले कि समस्या मनगढ़ंत है। इस झूठ को ढूंढिए और समस्या का हल सदा के लिए पाईए।
• What you want means nothing. What you are willing to do to get it means everything.
• आप क्या चाहते है इस का कोई मतलब नहीं है। आप जो पान चाहते है और उसके लिए ईमानदारी से पाने की कोशिश क्या करतेहैं इसका जीवन में महत्व है।  लिख कर सोचिए और इसे बार बार पढ़िए। 
• So you want to be different and yet you are unwilling to change? That’s not healthy.
• आप अच्छे बनना चाहते हैं परन्तु अपने आप को बदलने के लिए तैयार नहीं है।  यह सही नही है।
• Stop developing marketing programs and start developing relationships.
• अपने ख्याली पलायो बनाना छोढ़िये और मन , बचन और कर्म से दुसरो से मधुर  रिश्ते बनाने के लिए लग जाइए। इन्सान से रिश्ते ही सब कुछ है।  किस से कितनी घनिष्टता रखनी है यह आप को तय करना है।
• “I’m sincerely hoping,” is code for, “I’m not doing anything about it.”
• "मैं पुरे मन से आशा कर रहां हूँ " का मतलब है कि "मैं जो चाहता हूँ उस के लिए कुछ नहीं कर रहा हूँ "
• Committed speaking will move life. Desperate mind chatter will not.
• बचनबद्ध बोलने से जीवन आगे बढ़ता है। दुखी मन नहीं। सबसे पहले मन को शांत करो
• What’s the real question that you need answered?
• सबसे पहले यह तय करें कि में किस प्रशन का उत्तर ढून्ढ रहा हूँ।
• Circle behavior is rooted in the fear of failure.
• घूम घूम कर एक ही तरह का ब्यब्वहार लगातार फेल होने की निशानी है।
• It’s not about planning. It’s about making a decision.
• योजना बना लेने से रिजल्ट नहीं मिलते , उस पर पक्के मन से काम करने से मिलते हैं।
• Professional victims don’t turn knowledge and skills into results. It’s that simple.
• प्रोफेशनल बीमार अपने ज्ञान को कला (स्किल) में पर्वृतित नहीं कर पाते और असफल रहते हैं। 
• Are you dealing with a belief or a fact? How do you know?
• आप विश्वास के साथ डील कर रहें है या असलियत के से साथ। यह जानना बहुत जरूरी है।
• Drop the “woo woo talk.” Focus on building skills with practical value.
• उल जलूल की बातों को छोड़िये अपनी उन काब्लियतों को पाने की तरफ धियान दें जो आपको असली दुनिया में जीने के काम आएँगी
• A resolution is worthless unless you create a workable way to reach it.
• अपने आप से किये बायेदे बेकार हैं यदि उन बायदों को पूरा करने के लिए कोई ठोस पर्यटन नहीं करते।
• A real commitment alters behavior. Insincere chatter and lame positive speech alters nothing.
• असली बायदा बह है जिसे िनभाने के लिए आप ने अपना व्यबहार बदला हैं। अपने आप से पूछिये कि क्या में सच में बह कर रहा हूँ जिस का मैंने बायदा किया है।
• There’s a lot of people, making a lot of money off others by telling them, “relax, feel good, money doesn’t matter.” बहुत से लोग बहुत से पैसे इस  काम से कमा रहें हैं की "आराम करो, अच्छा सोचो ,पैसे की कोई जरूरत नहीं " जब समय आता है तो पैसे की जरूरत कोई पूरा नहीं करता इस लिए कमाओ, खर्चो और सम्भालो। दूसरों की पैसे से सहायता करो।  स्वर्ग से सासाड़ी शक्तिअन आपको सफलता प्रताप करने में पूरी सहायता करेंगी।
• Big people = rise up. Little people = get offended.
• बड़ी सोच बाले बड़े बनते है , छोटी सोच बाले जीवन में झगड़ा और अफ़सोस ही करते रहते।
• What are you agreeing with that’s keeping you stuck?
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• “Talking about” and “bringing forth” are 2 different worlds.
• Your biggest challenges come from dealing with people who have “quit life” and won’t admit to it.
• Your inner stance is your destiny.
• What if you were aware of the voice in your head and acted decisively anyway?
• Many times people will confuse a lack of commitment with destiny.
• Invent and complete substantive projects for a powerful life.
• What would life be like if you actually did what you said you were going to do?
• Stop explaining yourself. It looks weak. People see what you do. They believe what you do, not what you talk about.
• What will happen to you and your business if Facebook falls apart? Nothing.
• When push comes to shove, it’s your life. You will either rise up, or you will continue to make excuses.
• It’s great if products and services that produce little or no value fail fast. Only then does life move forward in a productive manner.
• Obsessed is a word the timid and fearful use to describe the fiercely committed.
• Fact of life = Weak inner stance + brilliant information = poor results.
• Commitment is that which is spoken into existence and lived. You don’t get it from a self-help seminar or a book.
• Income inequality is best dealt with by increasing commitment which serves to increase competency.
• The power you aren’t expressing is your greatest discontentment.
• How you live is your statement to the world. What statement does your life make?
• Throw your personality aside and just focus on making a difference.
• Reinvention isn’t changing “what is” but creating “what isn’t.”
• It’s easy to hope that things will get better. It’s not easy to deal with the regret of not rising up.
• You have got to start starting or you will be in your head forever.
• A financial problem is something that you do something about. It’s not something to talk, think, or complain about.
• Soft bigotry = enabling others to live from low standards.
• Some people spend their lives fixing themselves. Some people spend their lives making a difference wherever they go.
• Yes, there is a huge difference between “knowing about” something and actually “living” it.
• A culture of entitlement will never keep pace with a culture of commitment.
• Collapsing the distinction between possibility and probability will lead to major problems.
• Be the author of your own experience – regardless of what’s going on around you.
• To get to paradise, sometimes you have to confront and deal with a very dark present.
• Feeling bad about something is a waste of time. Alter your behavior. Do what’s required.
• Waiting increases the chances that bad things will happen. Decide now. Move.
• Magical thinking has nothing to do with creating and living potent and sound commitments.
• What if you dropped the stories, excuses, and unworkable behaviors and just lived powerfully for the next 30 days?
• How you speak should always match your purpose for living.
• You are never perceived as neutral. You are always making a statement.
• Commitment and competency will create a lot more luck than wishful thinking ever will.
• People who won’t step up and be assertive when necessary are not enlightened. They are afraid.
• To be extraordinary in life is to act without contradiction.
• FB ads and other cute stuff are not marketing. Authentic conversations that build powerful relationships are what will make a difference.
• Whatever you’re seeking ISN’T seeking you. And you can create it.
• Thriving in life is simple. Create commitment. Create competency. Act without contradiction.
• You live the life that you tolerate.
• Highly successful individuals understand that it doesn’t matter what they understand. It only matters what they do.
• What are you NOT willing to do to get what you want? Isn’t that why you still don’t have it.
• Choosing bigness is a requirement for a satisfying life. A highly committed life is not lived in one’s head.
• True power: the willingness, and ability to assist others in being more powerful.
• People don’t respect clever, bulletproof excuses. Honor your word once given.
• Stop talking about things that you don’t live. It’s just not healthy.
• A direct no is a 100 times more useful than an insincere yes.
• Live what others wish for, and you will be one of the few who live what others don’t.
• Only that which already is can be accomplished. In other words, 500 x 0 is still zero. It’s not mean. It’s just life.
• Backing off costs you your integrity.
• Waiting to find out how your life is going to turn out is quite disempowering.
• When you make a sincere commitment the facts won’t matter.
• Does what you know match how you live?
• Peace of mind = existing in life with composure and power.
• Stress is produced by knowing what works and doing what doesn’t work.
• Ultimately, it is you doing the choosing and not your reasons, excuses, or circumstances.
• Commitment is foundational. Knowledge alone won’t get it. Who wants to be smart and lame?
• Life is too short to always be running around getting your act together.
• You’re not here to be nice. And being respectful, kind and committed matters. Do what matters.
• Do you need additional core competencies to be generated in your personal or professional life?
• Best marketing plan: integrity. Say who you will be and be it. Say what you will do and do it.
• Floating deadlines = “It’s not going to get done.”
• A person’s true commitment is demonstrated in the results that they produce – not in what they say.
• Stop talking about your potential. Your potential and 2 bucks will get you a cup of coffee.
• Slow learners = those who still haven’t realized that social media and outdated marketing won’t make them rich.
• Trying to “get” is needy and desperate. Be committed. Be competent. Create value.
• Being present to someone IS an act of love.
• Making fierce claims isn’t bragging if you can back them up.
• Intentional thinking is entirely different than merely having thoughts.
• Getting weak results? Are you actually making sincere commitments or are you just making noise?
• There is a huge difference between what one believes, and how one actually lives.
• You can be resigned or you can be relevant. Choose.
• The powerless focus on tasks. The powerful focus on results.
• Train yourself to do WHAT MATTERS and stop engaging in distractive activities.
• Hope is not a workable substitute for: low commitment or a lack of competency.
• “Lead generation,” comes from powerful speaking – not from emailing people you don’t know.
• People buy “who you are being,” and not what’s on your business card or website.
• Commitment creates competency and not the other way around.
• The world’s most powerful marketing tools = 1) Committed speaking. 2) Committed listening.
• Successful entrepreneurs focus on what they intend to create. Unsuccessful entrepreneurs focus on what they want to avoid.
• You will either impact your environment or your environment will define you.
• Talking about things that you are never going to do is dysfunctional.
• Don’t measure activity but measure “accomplishment.”
• Be solid with yourself. How many people do you actually speak to and request that they buy your product or service?
• Being reasonable kills life. It’s the unreasonable that rock the world.
• The reason you failed is because you didn’t do what was required.
• Never generalize from a specific.
• To change your life shift from “wanting” to “creating.”
• “Be that,” which “does that,” or else you won’t ever “do that.”
• Avoidance is self-sabotage.
• Excessive upsets? Low creation drive? Stop being offended. Start being committed.
• Today is just as good as any to do epic stuff.
• You can follow your bliss all day long. It doesn’t mean anyone will pay you for it.
• It’s not enough to know about great ideas and brilliant information. It has to be created and lived to be of value.
• Fantasy dreams are irrational. Practical dreams are rational and require sufficient commitment and competency.
• Integrity is restored by giving up disempowering conversations.
• A powerful life can’t be given to you. You have to create it.
• Rising up doesn’t require money, luck or connections. It requires “rising up.”
• Commitment is not found. It can only be created.
• You can love someone and not like the way they act.
• Just because you can tolerate something doesn’t mean that you have to.
• Ultimate success strategy: 1) Commitment 2) Competency 3) Drop the BS and Magical Thinking.
• True power: the willingness and ability to look into your own mind, and decide what is appropriate, and what is not.
• A life well lived = showing up and not holding back.
• A wasted life = holding back.
• If you don’t make what you want a must, you normally won’t get it.
• Making growth choices creates expansion and increases life. Making comfort choices creates more apathy.
• You don’t need confidence to be successful. You just have to do what’s required.
• A fierce sense-of-Self is all you ever really wanted.
• Seeking leads to more seeking. Creating leads to creation.
• Stating an opinion as if it were a fact won’t make it so.
• You don’t need anyone’s permission to live powerfully. You can be the hero of your own life.
• You can be loyal to people’s bigness or their smallness. It’s disrespectful to honor their smallness.
• It’s important to know that people are not attracted to equals. So stop trying to be one.
• Live out of your commitments, not out of your history.
• Positive thinking and seeking happiness is not living life on your own terms.
• Life doesn’t come with a purpose. You have to create one for yourself.

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Credit: Collected and compiled through coaching interactions with Dusan’s SLC clients and members of the Straight-Line Coaching community.

Dusan Djukich is the innovator of Straight-Line Coaching and the best-selling author of Straight-Line Leadership: Tools for Living with Velocity and Power in Turbulent Times. He resides in Northern California and can be contacted through www.StraightLineCoach.com.

Source:http://www.straightlinecoach.com/free-resources/the-thrive-now-event/ 

Thursday, February 27, 2014

Happiness

LIFE’S LESSONS:

 

“The Secret of Happiness”

 

 

A MERCHANT sent his son to learn the secret

of happiness from the wisest of men.

 

The YOUNG MAN wandered through the desert for

40 days until he reached a beautiful castle at the top of

mountain.

 

There lived the sage that the young man was looking for.

 

However, instead of finding a holy man,

our hero entered a

room and saw a great deal of activity,

merchants coming and going,

people chanting in the corners,

a small orchestra playing sweet melodies,

 and there was a table laden with the most

delectable dishes of that part of the world.

The wise man talked to everybody,

and the young man had to wait for two hours

until it was time for his audience.

 

With considerable patience,

the Sage listened attentively to the reason for the boy’s visit,

told him that at that moment he did not have the time

 to explain to him the Secret of Happiness.

 

He suggested that the Youngman take a stroll

around his palace and come back into two hours’ time.

 

“However, I ask you a favour, “ he added,

handling the boy a teaspoon,

in which he poured two drops of oil.

 

“While you walk, carry this spoon

and

don’t let the oil spill.”

 

The young man began to climb up and down

the palace staircases, always keeping

his eyes fixed on the spoon.

 

At the end of two hours he returned

 to the presence of the wise man.

 

“So,” asked the wise man,

“did you see the Persian tapestries hanging in my dining room?

 Did you see the garden that the Master of Gardens

 took ten years  to create?

 

Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?”

 

Embarrassed, the young man confessed

that he had seen nothing.

 

His only concern was not to spill the drops

of oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.

 

“So, go back and see the wonders of my world,”

said the wise man.

 

“You can’t trust a man if you don’t know his house.”

 

Now at more ease,

 the young man took the spoon and strolled again

through the palace,

 

this time paying attention to all the works of the art

 that hung from the ceiling and walls.

 

He saw the gardens, the mountains all around

the palace, the delicacy of the flowers,

 the taste with which each work of art was placed in its niche.

 

 Returning to the sage, he reported in detail all that he had seen.

 

“But where are the two drops of oil that I entrusted to you,”

asked the Sage.

 

Looking down at the spoon,

the young man realized that he had spilled the oil.

 

“Well, that is the only advice I have to give you,”

the Sage said.

 

“The Secret of Happiness lies in looking at

all the wonders of the world

and

never forgetting the two drops of oil in the spoon.”

 

                                                            ----- The Alchemist by Paul Coetho.

 

Source: The Sunday Tribune, 27^th October, 2013.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

TRUE EDUCATION:

by Swami Vivekananda

Bring light to the poor; 

and bring more light to the rich, 

for they require it more than the poor. 

Bring light to the ignorant, 

and more light to the educated, 

for the vanities of the education 

of our time are tremendous.

                                                                                III   247

Addition by Prof P.K.Keshap:

Hard skills are good for profession. 

But soft skills are more important for living in society. 

Nobody cares how much you know

 until he knows how much you care.

 Life is a formal school and we humans learn 

something new each and every moment of the day

till the last day of our lives from all humans, animals, 

ecology and environment.

For learning listening is most important. 2 ears one mouth

means 66% listening and 33% talking.

Learning is a life long process. 

Knowingly or unknowingly

willingly or unwillingly

we learn from our interaction with others or our 

environment.  

Schools/colleges/universities teach hard skills 

but most of the soft skills are self learnt from our culture, 

family and environment at large. No coach. 

Hit and try method works. So, love to learn. 

We are our own coaches and trainers.

We have been given one body. 

Whether to hate it or love is our choice.

 If we love it, many deceases – mental and physically- are eliminated. 

If we hate it, we don’t need external enemies, we have internal enemies. i

External enemies can be fought with weapons 

but internal enemies can only be fought  with mindful living 

and positive affirmations.

Osho says:

 Accept yourself in absolute totality and celebrate yourself. 

Never compare. Comparison is hell. 

Believing in yourself, we can achieve what we wish. 

Biggest problem is that we don’t know who we are, 

what we are and what is the purpose of our existence 

on planet Earth. 

All holy scriptures say:

Know thyself and you will know the world.

World is nothing but your mental creation.

Don't feed your mind with discouraging or negative thoughts.
See the beauty in the world and the beauty within yourself,
you will grow beautiful mentally and physically.

Education enables a person to earn livelihood

but self-learning enables a person to earn a fortune. 

Self-learning includes soft skills too.

Soft skills are about 60 in number,

Most of them are learnt by individuals themselves.

Situations are 10% and 90% is our reaction to situation.
Whether to react or not is our choice that can make us happy or unhappy.

Emerson's words must be remembered always:

What lies behind and
what lies before matters not
as compared to what lies
WITHIN.

Rejection is a part of success.
Series of rejections when reflected upon by continuous soul searching
results in improvement for self-development. More learning, more failures,
more lessons, more success.

Mentally weak bog down from failures while mentally strong get up,
learn a lesson from failure and do not quit but continue. In the end, they win.
Good lesson: Start from scratch. Keep on scratching and it will shine.

Conquering the Everest (highest peak in the world)
a person is able to conquer any goal to fulfill dreams.

Be Global

Breath
Blood
Body
Brain

is same everywhere in the world.

Only
skin colour changes.

Love all serve all.

Act locally, think globally.

World

Body
Feelings
Mind
World

World is inside

but we are

searching outside.

Only soul has to travel

in heaven.

So, keep it clean, pure

and honest.

Ancient India 1/13

Ancient India was perhaps the most

advanced civilization ever.

Much of what the modern world has

progressed today in mathematics, science, medicine,

geography, literature as well as culture..........

has

its roots

in ancient India

Here is a brief compilation of

what ancient India gave to the world.


Something all Indians should be proud of.

Reflection

Mirror is  reflection of our beauty;

Behaviour is reflection of our personality and

Action is reflection of our character.

How we observe world, reflect what we really are.

Family

Dear Reader,

 Marriage is not a big problem. Marriage is a pious bond between the two souls. Irresponsible living is like a beast boasting of its prowess in the jungle. Any time, if it falls ill or hurt, its illness can turn into serious disease and then fatal to life as there is none to attend or serve. Even emotional support is highly needed to survive in the world. First 45-50 years are full of energy and rest need companion socially and morally bound to serve. Mere presence of the spouse is enough for happy living.

Here I mention the case of a very haughty officer. He used to abuse and quarrel with his wife though they had two sons. His wife was beautiful and  principal of a school. The mother of the officer, quite illiterate created lot of hue and cry when she(the principal)  used to come back tired from the school. Every day's quarrel and nagging made the officer to go for divorce. Divorce was dreaded by the people of the village but  the officer went ahead and was fully supported by the legal fraternity.

While the divorce proceedings were pending in the court, the wife made efforts and got good job in US. The honourable court granted divorce and the principal went to the US with two sons. Officer stayed with mother for a long period. Now when the officer is retired and mother is dead, this officer calls his wife in US but the sons who are grown up do not allow the mother to reply.

I see this man drinks every day and abuses everyone in the locality out of frustration. Everybody is fed up from his behaviour. Now the wife and sons are in US and this officer is all alone without any member in the family.

Many times, a question crops up in my mind. Where is the honourable judge who passed the decree of divorce? Where is the legal fraternity that helped him to get the divorce? Where is mother who used to curse and nag the spouse? Nobody is there to help this officer. Now this officer is fighting his life's battle all alone. I perceive that his life is shortened by 15-20 years. I find him murmuring, confused and irritating. Had he visualized the life after retirement, he would have not been that adamant on divorce. All relations need balancing.
  All fears are mental fears. Not real. Your father has to marry you off as per his wish and liking. You will marry off your children. That’s the world. No parents no kids. So, agree politely and confidently and I assure you that you will enjoy this social bonding. Don’t interpret any thing and do not over analyse. 10, 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 all together make a family. How can you expect that 10 = 70 and 30= 40. Behaviour of different members is different but the greatest thing that family is one – united. Express, quarrel, contest, agree, disagree but never be divided. Family is the nuclear unit of this world.

My father stayed with me for about 1 month after 54 years of my life. I found that he is not that bad as I had apprehended right from birth. It is not a question, how many times he has thrashed me and scolded, what matters most is that even after 54 years life, when ever needed he has stood there. Right till today, I used to blame my parents and other relatives because they never used the words which my ears wanted to listen.

But now I have come to know that spoken words are never complete. At one time at the age of say: 30 my mother roared like a lioness and we all dreaded it. But now at 80 she is unable to speak well. We use our empathy to understand her needs. The speaker’s words do not match our perception and this all causes the problem. These are called communication Barriers.

You are educated and read the books. This all changes your perception. And you react to a situation more intelligently and fearlessly. But it is not possible with your mom or papa.I have read many books and that has given me lot of logical and verbal power.

How can my mother respond to my logical and verbal power? If I expect that my mother at the age of 80 should speak and act as I do, then it is my mistake not hers. Simply I gave this message to my mind and I am feeling very light mentally and concentrating on my job.

The world was here and it will remain here. Mark Twain once remarked: Don’t expect the world will do anything or change for you. Only you have to change yourself to fit in this world. The world was here, is here and will be here even after you go from this world.

An individual who fits into the world feels freedom. Earlier I used to tell the people around me about my plans, and they used to laugh at me. But now I do not tell the people. I just listen, listen and listen. My interaction with the relatives or people who do not matter is reduced to 10%. This way I am feeling very happy. Now I don’t fear problems but face them directly. I don’t say: You change, you say, you should, you ought. I find that it is my fault and appreciate others. This has built my mental health and strengthening the relationships which are very esssential to live the life.

Entire mechanism of the world is based on network. You spoke on phone, this is network. But this network is useful if we have people to speak. Can you speak without a listener? No not at all.

We are the kids of the people who were born under British rule. They have faced lot of problems to bring us up. You will realize this when you will have the kids. Bringing up own children is really a tedious task – a regular mental worry, living in scare. Mental freedom used to be alien to our mothers. There is no God, only parents.

I have told you the story of god Shivji, Parvati, Ganeshji and Kartike. Written communication is soothing communication and more understandable. Spoken words generate heat after a period of time. While speaking, health of the person, time and place the speaker or listener and the mental interpretation of the words all work together. Spoken communication can never be the same, soothing or simple and understandable. So, write mails and learn to keep yourself happy and pleasing. It gets hot.

I use this method and many problems are over. One of my auntie used to create lot of hue and cry. I wrote her a long letter and expressed every thing I felt about her and her behaviour. My life is saved. Now she does not come much and does not disturb us much. I analysed, she always talked what is wrong with the people and the world where as we are living very happily. She always talked about money, about what the people lacked or she lacked in comparison to others. This all had created lot of mental tension for her and her face and body was all presenting a walking weak body emanating negative vibrations. Similarly, your parents are talking. Reality can be totally different than your interpretations. What a man needs in life:

1. Air to breathe
2. Water to drink
3. Food to eat
4. Clothing to cover body
5. Shelter to live
6. Rest all is luxury and the entire world is racing after this.

It is upto you to be happy or to be unhappy. Happiness will start from the day you will decide that I am not going to be happy for anyone or anything.

Earlier I used to think about my sisters, brother and mother. But now I mentally have told myself that they are enjoying. Why should I trouble myself? It has really worked and I am mentally happy and healthy. All psychological problems are faced in real world and I find there is no problem. All were mental created by the people who knew nothing about the problem. Talking, talking and talking. Fear, fear and fear. Fear of losing caused many problems. But now that’s over.

 ijNdgI myN KuISAwN fUFogy qo KuiSAwN iml jweyNgI, gm fUFogy qO gm hI imlyNgy[

Wealth is lost, nothing is lost

Health is lost, something is lost

Character is lost, everything is lost.

Do you have health and character? Then where  is the worry. My health is OK and I am feeling at the top of the world.

So, go ahead and get married. You will be very happy. Over expectations and mental possessions poison the life

FEARLESSNESS

“Fearlessness is the greatest virtue

one should cultivate

otherwise there could be no hope”

Be not afraid of anything. You are nobody.

It is fear that is the great cause of misery in the world.

WORLD IS A STAGE

All the world’s a stage and all the men and women merely players.

They have their exit and their entrances.

And one man in his life plays many parts,

His act being seven stages.

No garments can conceal character. The man comes out sooner or later.

Source:

I have forgotten the source. Perhaps Shakespeare’s All The World is a Stage.

I write in a diary on some note books and have posted  here having copied from there. 

WORLD

The world is a

 moral and spiritual

 gymnasium.

YOU CAN CHANGE THE WORLD

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