MANAGING BODY LANGUAGE

YES, YOU CAN – Use Body Language In Right Way And Achieve Success

Dear Friend,

Everybody in this world communicates his/her feelings to somebody or many persons every day. And the means adopted to communicate is usually talking. In other words, talking is the most personal, direct and forceful way in which one communicates. The way one talks has the greatest impact on how other people interact with one. That is why you should always bear in mind that it is a skill and should not be taken as granted. It should be fully understood with all its implications, as it plays an invaluable role in expressing your ideas and feelings. Talking, however, involves the following elements: how to communicate with people using body language; what are the techniques for expressing yourself in the best way; how to put forward the points you think necessary; what are the techniques for winning arguments. Most of what people understand when you talk is what they are told by your voice tone, expression and body language.

Remember, your non-verbal language may be communicating more clearly. In fact, as experts believe, of the three elements that comprise face-to-face communication – words, tone of voice and body language – words can be responsible for very little of meaning i.e. up to only seven percent, whereas most of the job is done by tone of voice and body language accounting for meaning up to thirty-eight and fifty five percent, respectively. It clearly means that if you want to convey your ideas, negative or win arguments, you must how to communicate with your eyes, and be careful about the signals you are sending out to the persons being spoken to.

Non-verbal communication or body language includes your facial expression, gesture, tone of voice, speed of speech, how you hold your body i.e. the way you seat yourself and where you position yourself in relation to others. You have to remember very well that unnatural eye contact and confrontational body positions send out wrong and very disturbing messages. Similarly, if somebody who does not meet your eyes while speaking is sending a strong and clear signal that what he/she is saying is quite different from what he/she actually feels. You should be aware of the fact that like verbal language, body language is also affected by emotions and may come out all wrong. You should, however, not misunderstand anyone who is unable to meet your eyes while speaking. You should never think that he/she is shy, embarrassed, or even nervous about your reaction to what he/she is telling you.

The body language you use while communicating depends upon on many traits. If you are sitting forward or leaning towards the speaker, it goes in your favour. If you are not seated, you should always stand upright to have a positive impact the speaker. Besides, you should keep your eyes wide open in order to look more expressive and confident. Your hand gestures should remain animated to carry on your message in the right way. If you place your hands on your hips instead of folding them across your chest, it will have a strong positive impact. Besides, if you look at your watch frequently, it has a very negative impact . Looking downwards and avoiding eye contact are also negative traits. Besides, your emotions should also be at your command. Never let them interfere with your ability.

You should always communicate your right ideas and feeling by exercising control over emotions. If you do not let your emotions interfere with your ability, nothing can prevent you from achieving success.

Wishing you a successful march to enviable victory.



Source: Competition Success Review.

ACTIVE LISTENING - YES, YOU CAN

Talk Low, Talk Slow and Do Not Say Too Much

Dear Friend,

You must have observed that the two words "LISTEN" and "SILENT" are made of the same six letters. This makes think of the powe of active listening. It means that active listening is a must for talking in the real sense.

You should never think that by merely talking to somebody you can make yourself understand. In fact, there is a big difference between talking and making yourself understood. They are alone best talkers who know the value of listening. If you analyse closely and carefullly, you will find that the best talkers use the value of listening as a tool to make their own arguments more compelling; as tool for making their audience more receptive. In other words, great communication is not about making yourself sound good; it is about making your message clear. Now, the question arises- How should you get the message across? The answer is very simple- use body language; be careful while using words and use them powerfully; remember that you have to act as a regulator to bring the talk to a logical conclusion, to convince the person who is talking to you.

As far as using body language is concerned, you have to learn how to communicate with your eyes. Besides, you have to be aware of meaning of non-verbal signals which include gestures too. If you have the ability to check physical clues for underlying emotions, your job becomes easier. If there are any barriers to communication, you have to work keenly to remove them. Next to using body language comes use of words in a powerful manner. A powerful use of words consists in choosing your words with care and it can be possible only when you avoid jargons.
Jargons always complicate the expression of ideas clear and by using simple language, you can avoid misundertstanding. Use your words in such a way that they can appeal to all the five senses. Your feelings should always be intense, because it is your feelings that reinforce your point.

You have to always bear in mind what you are talking for. Be very clear about the4 purpose of negotiation. Then comes your situation, your needs and your intersts. Not that you can negotiate without having the basic knowledge about negotiation techniques. While negotiating something, you should use negotiation techniques.

Now comes the most important part of the whold exercise. You have to take decision with regard to what you actually want to achieve after winning the argument. You have to get sure that your argument is well planned and it does not make any mention of the points which are vague and misleading. You should also bear in mind that simple and clear points, and lucid language help you carry on your argument to a logical conclusion and convince others. You can convince an individual only if your argument is logical. The logical process can be mastered through practice.

Never forge that talking is the most personal, direct and forceful way in which you communicate your thoughts and feelings everyday. The way you talk has the greatest impact on how other people interact with you. That is why you should always remember that it is a skill. Not everybody in this world can talk effectively. Talking should neither be taken for granted nor misunderstood, Talk in in the proper way to succeed. Talking is a skill which should be cultivated and improved on very sincerely and carefully. Talk low, talk slow and do not say too much. Too much talk will include errors.

Wishing you all the best for success.











Courtesy: Competition Success Review
Image courtesy: iasos.com