Hope

 Hope

is 

greater 

than

FEAR

Over Analysis

जीवन को गहराई से पड़ने पर एक बात समझ में आई है कि बहुत सारे डर केवल मन के डर ही होते हैं।  जो जीवन में कभी घटित ही नहीं होते , परन्तु इंसान सारी सारी उम्र उन डरों के कारण मन ही मन घुटता रहता है। 

जैसे अखबारें पड़ कर , टीवी पर नकारत्मक ख़बरें देख कर मन को बिचलित करते रहना।  आज कल सोशल मीडिया का जमाना है।  इस पर चलने बाली वीडियो और कमेंट इंसान को परेशान करे रखते है।  कई लोग तो लाइक्स और सेल्फी के चाकर में अपना जीवन भी दाओ पर लगा देते हैं। 

यदि किसी का एक्सीडेंट हो जाये तो उसे मेडिकल सहायता देने की बजाये बहुत से उसकी वीडियो बना रहे होते है और उतने में उस व्यक्ति की मृत्यु हो जाती है।  वीडियो बनाने बाले के मन उस इंसान के प्रति कोई सम्बेदना नहीं।  अपने वीडियो की ले में इतना असम्बेदंशील हो जाता है कि बाद मेँ पछताने के इलाबा कुछ नहीं रहता।

सोशल मीडिया का एक और पक्ष देखें।  सोशल मीडिया पर मिस्टर x के 300 से जयादा दोस्त थे।  शादी के अबसर पर इसने उन दोस्तों को बुलाया।  अपने पिता से लड़ झगड़ कर जो दोस्त जानते थे रिश्ते नाते थे उनका नंबर कटबा दिया।  परन्तु हुआ क्या ? केवल बधाई के कॉमेंट ही आये कोई भी बारात में नहीं आया।  और कुछ मुठी भर लोगों को साथ लेकर शादी मानाने गया।  बाद में बहुत दुखी रहा , सभी ने बड़ा मजाक उड़ाया।  अब न तो रिश्तेदार , न दोस्त उनके दुःख सुख में आते हैं।  यह है ओवर एनालिसिस और ओवर एक्सपेक्टेशंस  बिना किसी सोच समझ के। 

रात को जितने ज्यादा डरावने सीरियल टीवी पर देखोगे उतना डर लगेगा।  इसी तरह सुबह सुबह अख़बार में नकारत्म खबरें - एक्सीडेंट , मर्डर , किडनेपिंग पड़ोगे उतना दिन ख़राब रहेगा।  आहिस्ता आहिस्ता यह डर मन में बैठ जायेगा और हर सिचुएशन का आकलन डर से करोगे।  नुक्सान किसका आपका।  सोने से पहले शक्तिशाली विचार करें। 

जो जीवन में चाहते हैं उसे अपने इष्ट और दुनिया में जो आपके बजुर्ग नहीं हैं उनको प्रणाम करके अपने सपने पुरे करने के लिए सहायता के लिए प्रार्थना करें।  सुबह उठते ही अपने हाथ की हथेलियों को देखें।  इनको धनयबाद दें कि यह आप के सपने साकार करने में सबसे सहायक है। 

हथेलियां क्यों देखते हैं ?

शास्त्रों में लिखा है यदि जागने पर किसी नकारत्मक सोच बाले इंसान के दर्शन हो जाएँ तो दिन बुरा निकलता है।  हथेलियाँ तो अपनी है।  यह तो हमेशा ही सकारत्मक रहती है।  उसके बाद कोसा पानी पियें।  शरीर चुस्त फुरत रहेगा।  एक्सरसाइज करें किसी भी प्रकार की।  अपनी जीवन की जिम्मेबारी लें। 

PREPAREDNESS + Opportunity = LUCK  इसे दूसरी तरह भी लिखा जा सकता है
LUCK = Labour under correct knowledge


Moral = ओवर एनालिसिस इज मेन्टल पैरालिसिस।

Learning

Learning from 1st Class student

 

In my neighbor, elder sister came from school. Took off the clothes, took off the shoes and threw them on the bed.

Young mother felt annoyed. Heated arguments followed by a slap to the girl ensued.

As a lost resort to mend the ways of child's behavior and cultivate good habit of keeping the clothes in the cupboard on coming from school, mother invited an elderly lady from the neighbor.

Elderly lady, being the judge between mother and the daughter, started asking:

"Dear child, are you a good child or bad child."

"I am a good child," replied the child standing before the elderly lady as if answering to an advocate in a court.

"What are the symptoms of a good child" was the next question parried by the elderly lady.

"Good child comes from the school in time, takes off the shoes, takes off the clothes. Places the clothes inside the cupboard and does not make mess of clothes throwing them on the bed."

"Are you clothes at the proper place?"

"No grandma. They are not. I am sorry."

 

In between the young sister studying in 1st class jumped and said "Amma she knows what is good and thought is in the head. It will take sometime to be reality."

I was surprised to hear this reply from a student of 1st class.

and learnt a lesson. DO IT NOW.

 

Many elders spend the entire life saying "I think I can" but "Never have time to enjoy what they wish or do what they like."

 

FEAR has two meanings:

1. Fear everything and run. Makes person worried, unhappy, sad and keeps the worrier on toes.

2. Face everything and rise. Makes person worry free, happy and cheerful.

BIGGEST HURDLE IN ENJOYMENT: Opinion about me by others. How the others think about me. It is expression vs. impression problem. More mental than real. More we keep on coining mental view of the situations, more the worry, anxiety increases and turns out in real in the form of anger. Anger is one letter short of danger. D=death.

Focus and enjoy what you have. Rather than focusing on what you don't have and be unhappy.

World remembers those who live for their dreams. Self belief is the best belief. Don't indulge in proving to others. Be yourself and you will grow a lot in every term. Be it happiness or prosperity. Love what you do or do what you love. It will make you more happy.

Accept yourself in absolute totality, says Osho.

 

Fear of Failure and Journey of Life.

Fear of Failure and Journey of Life.

In our LIFE, as we approach adulthood,

we list and prioritize our desires, our wants and our life goals.

However, we hardly give any importance to "failure."  

If you are passionate and your desires are ambitious,

let me assure you of imminent failure.

People, who demand more from their LIFE,

are sure to be in discomfort for some period.

I congratulate them and hope you are one of them.

People with mediocre aims are O.K. with their life

as it comes to them and they do not fight for their Goals.

They will always be seen worrying.

Now let me tell you that there is a difference between worry and concern.”

Worry—you are looking at the past for 100% of your time.

Concern—you are eager for future steps/action for 100% of your time.

So, rather than worrying, be concerned towards future achievements.

Most of the people try to avoid discomfort. They show a lack of appreciation for the wisdom that hardship bestows. It has become somewhat natural to take the path of least resistance, clinging to the familiar, staying within our restricted safe places in an attempt to control the outcome.

Winston Churchill said, "Success is the ability to go from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."

We need to be able to acknowledge, and value our courage and resilience during crisis. “When our sense of worthiness is established from within, we are not at the mercy of what others do, or think!”

 “The opportunity resulting from failure is the potential for us to grow into more complete human beings”.

However, not all of us grow as the result of failure. Some who experience failure give up, and never fully recover. They become too fragile inside to get up off their knees.

 Over the years, I have observed that we do not see much of a failure or crisis till the age of 35.

Our LIFE up to this period appeared to be charmed. Our list of desires includes getting good grades, going to the "right college," marrying the "right spouse," having a “right career” or starting a family within a “right time”.

From childhood, we have been taught to have comfort and “least importance is given on how to overcome the failure.” Failure is certain in our life at some or other time. Instead of seeing it as a "setback" take it as an “opportunity” to learn, to question, and to grow.

Many will numb themselves with more sleep, staying aloof, alcohol, drugs or even suicide. However, these are not the remedies.

In addition, some people avoid responsibility for the condition of their lives, jobs, relationships, and other actions.

They blame their pain on others and do not examine their roles in the systems of which they are a part. Others shrink their immediate world in order to make it more manageable.

All of these beliefs are equally fragile and false.

In our lives, there will be failure.

Temporarily we may forget that there were good times.

“However, when we accept that failure is a part of the process of living and learn from the experience, we become more than we could have been without failure.”

We then trust ourselves to create the life we want.

"I know the path: it is straight and narrow. It is like the edge of a sword. I rejoice to walk on it. I weep when I slip. God's word is: He who strives never perishes.

I have implicit faith in that promise, though, therefore from my weakness I fail a thousand times, I will not lose faith"...Gandhi      

Barack Obama:

Making your mark on the world is hard.

If it were easy, everybody would do it.

 But it's not. It takes patience, it takes commitment, and it comes with plenty of failure along the way.

The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won't. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.

Havelock Ellis:

It is on our failures that we base a new, different and better success.

Source: An email from Dewaji.

Fear and its impact

All people have fears

but the brave

ones put down

fears and move/go forward,

sometimes to death

but

always to victory.

Fearlesssness

A simple way to remove fear

 is to seek knowledge

 and understanding.

When I was a child, I feared to go in darkness and to a room where I believed there is a Ghost.

As I grew, I dared to go in the darkness and many times I created darkness in that area. I feared darkness, then lighted the lamp to see if there was anything or anyone there. I assured my self that there was none there. But this process took many years. I can say a few years back my inner fear flew away. Then I dared to go into the room where I believed there is a ghost. I found there was not none.

It was all my apprehension based on the stories I had heard. No ghost ever met me yet I feared all these years. 

I laugh many times, when I remember those happening and feelings.

FEAR

Fear is born of ignorance.

It deprives man of manliness.

It is worse than death.

“Practice of fearlessness is imperative

for not only the seeker of wisdom

but also for all who want to thrive in life.”

Fear

True Change Comes from Inside. You need to win over inner fears.
There is no fears outside as compared to inner fears. Overcoming inner fears, a person enjoys great liberty and freedom.

FIRST DUTY

The first duty of man

is that of subduing fear.

“We must get rid of Fear;

we cannot act at all till then.

A man’s acts are slavish,

not true but suspicious.

His very thoughts are false,

he thinks too as a slave and coward,

till he has got fear under his feet.

FROWN

FROWN AND ME


FEAR, FRICTION AND FROWN
DESTROY
BRAIN, BEAUTY AND BRAWN

ANGER, ANXIETY AND WORRY
DESTROY
MEMORY


The negative emotions like getting angry and frowning on petty matters, daily routine, established social relationships which an individual cannot and ought not to break is very dangerous for health. This creates continuous mental friction and duality for matters that need to be handled with a cool mind, creates shortage of time by wasting it, non-acceptance of relationships that cannot be avoided. So, graceful mental acceptance of these situations and reality make a person more peaceful and energetic -physically and mentally.

ANXIETY can be called not living in present, handling more than one job at a time, expecting more than deserving from life and others, weakening the nervous system by evaluating the outcomes or consequences of the actions etc. Anxiety is more circumstantial, mental and physical reaction to the real world and its working. Nervous system needs to be improved. New real definitions need to be developed with which it can be overcome. Reel world is an interesting world but real world is boring one. We need to create interest in real world i.e. boring world. It is an art that needs to be learnt. Learn it and enjoy life.

We love to FROWN on many matters which can be handled with
a smile. Generally, frowns are made to scare or create fear psycho but the frowning person does not know it is backfiring in his/her sub-conscious mind and is going to cost him his/her mental health in the long run. Frowning becomes a habit when practiced for a long time and the practitioner becomes the victim.

Frown- the third negative emotion is the reaction of the person to petty happenings on daily basis. BFP and KFP are the two terms we may use for this.

Suppose, Simran is going on scooter and red light is there. Simran, being obedient to law, is stopping at the red-light and waiting for green light. And at the same time, Mr. Raju (not real name) comes on his bike and bumped it to the rear of her scooter. The rear light breaks. Now she is left with 2 options. Option 1: She gets down from the scooter, gets hold of the collar of Mr. Raju and slaps him for his this small negligence. This is BFP (bahut farak para i.e. his action has made a BIG difference to her.) This option will lead further mental arrogance, mental anguish, scuffle and even a police case. Option II: She looks back and Mr. Raju folds his hands and says “sorry, I am very sorry”. She smiles and pardons him. She goes her way and he goes his way. No arrogance, no malice, no mental anguish, no scuffle and no police case. This is the magic of forgiving and forgetting. This is KFP ( KOI FARAK NAHIN PARA – NO PROBLEM CREATED) by this small event. If we go on forgiving and forgetting such kind of small mistakes honestly, definitely and permanently we will move further in life and improve our mental health.


Negative emotions first damage the brain, that results in decaying beauty and ultimately the brawn i.e. the body – the train on which we have to travel the journey of life is destroyed.

Managing negative emotions with an attitude to be happy is the remedy. I hope you will practice this for the good and long life of your family and everybody connected or related with you. Smiling person creates an aura that attracts everyone. Frowning faces fume and fret the people around them. Choice lies with the person.