लेबल

BEAUTY लेबलों वाले संदेश दिखाए जा रहे हैं. सभी संदेश दिखाएं
BEAUTY लेबलों वाले संदेश दिखाए जा रहे हैं. सभी संदेश दिखाएं

बुधवार, 11 जनवरी 2012

How To Be A Winner 3


Re-position Yourself  for
Better Times

God has given every human being a power to discriminate,  between  the best and worst, between excellent and terrible deeds and to know in advance, what will be in his best or worst interest. In spite of that, there are very few people who are willing to cash on that ability and change, for the positive and discard bad practices and tendencies that dent and harm you now as well as in the future. Disappointments and heartaches are a normal part of human existence. Only the hardships harden and sharpen us. For growth in life, you have to endure the winter of frustration, exactly like a seed and the sapling, which has to pass through many freezing winters, before it can blossom. In fact, there is no living e to be man in the world, however successful he may be, who has not faced some despair or gloom in his life.
The beauty of life, is that no failure and disappointment is permanent and it lies within our power to transform ourselves. A poet rightly says that, “Hope springs eternally in human heart.” In other words, whatever may be the position, there is always a room for hope and growth. After a fall, we can get up and begin again. But this message has to come from within us, and not from outside.

When difficulties smoother us and we feel that all is almost, then it is time to auto suggest to yourself, that past is finished and you can begin again. You have  to be, focused in whatever you do, as focus and the driving force and energy are interlinked. Our values and belief mould and shape our actions. Whatever be the position, you must never allow yourself to be, subjected to the negativity. Peter Drucker said, “ The best way to predict the future is to create it.” The best way to create your future is to meet it head-on. If you are not making the desired progress, it may not always be due to lack of efforts on your part. May be you are working hard, but not on the activities that should absorb all your attention. As there a constant change all around, we have to learn to adjust to it. Do not hesitate to have uncommon dreams. Remember that any special and singular ambition will require prudent, judicious and a sensible use of your time.

We all are supported and given confidence by other here we as, in our aspirations. Otherwise, we would not be where we are now, after a long journey in life. You should get up every morning with the resolve, that you would go to bed with a clear conscience whatever you wanted to achieve. Do not be one of those people, who hide behind the excuses, that I have nothing to achieve in my life or I have no excuse. As long as you are alive, and kicking, keep on striving to perform better and better. Do not be one of those crushed, who have lost the will. No harm comes to anybody for dreaming substantially and extensively. Pretexts, justifications and explanations are the gear and tools of the inept and hopeless. The reality is that such people have authorized and approved their fright and dread to paralyze their dreams and objectives. Do not hide behind the bogus security blankets of life. Go out and conquer the world.

Source:
Turn Your Creative Spark into a Flame by Joginder Singh, Former
Director, Central  Bureau of Intelligence(CBI), Govt. of India. www.dpb.in .

मंगलवार, 4 नवंबर 2008

FROWN

FROWN AND ME


FEAR, FRICTION AND FROWN
DESTROY
BRAIN, BEAUTY AND BRAWN

ANGER, ANXIETY AND WORRY
DESTROY
MEMORY


The negative emotions like getting angry and frowning on petty matters, daily routine, established social relationships which an individual cannot and ought not to break is very dangerous for health. This creates continuous mental friction and duality for matters that need to be handled with a cool mind, creates shortage of time by wasting it, non-acceptance of relationships that cannot be avoided. So, graceful mental acceptance of these situations and reality make a person more peaceful and energetic -physically and mentally.

ANXIETY can be called not living in present, handling more than one job at a time, expecting more than deserving from life and others, weakening the nervous system by evaluating the outcomes or consequences of the actions etc. Anxiety is more circumstantial, mental and physical reaction to the real world and its working. Nervous system needs to be improved. New real definitions need to be developed with which it can be overcome. Reel world is an interesting world but real world is boring one. We need to create interest in real world i.e. boring world. It is an art that needs to be learnt. Learn it and enjoy life.

We love to FROWN on many matters which can be handled with
a smile. Generally, frowns are made to scare or create fear psycho but the frowning person does not know it is backfiring in his/her sub-conscious mind and is going to cost him his/her mental health in the long run. Frowning becomes a habit when practiced for a long time and the practitioner becomes the victim.

Frown- the third negative emotion is the reaction of the person to petty happenings on daily basis. BFP and KFP are the two terms we may use for this.

Suppose, Simran is going on scooter and red light is there. Simran, being obedient to law, is stopping at the red-light and waiting for green light. And at the same time, Mr. Raju (not real name) comes on his bike and bumped it to the rear of her scooter. The rear light breaks. Now she is left with 2 options. Option 1: She gets down from the scooter, gets hold of the collar of Mr. Raju and slaps him for his this small negligence. This is BFP (bahut farak para i.e. his action has made a BIG difference to her.) This option will lead further mental arrogance, mental anguish, scuffle and even a police case. Option II: She looks back and Mr. Raju folds his hands and says “sorry, I am very sorry”. She smiles and pardons him. She goes her way and he goes his way. No arrogance, no malice, no mental anguish, no scuffle and no police case. This is the magic of forgiving and forgetting. This is KFP ( KOI FARAK NAHIN PARA – NO PROBLEM CREATED) by this small event. If we go on forgiving and forgetting such kind of small mistakes honestly, definitely and permanently we will move further in life and improve our mental health.


Negative emotions first damage the brain, that results in decaying beauty and ultimately the brawn i.e. the body – the train on which we have to travel the journey of life is destroyed.

Managing negative emotions with an attitude to be happy is the remedy. I hope you will practice this for the good and long life of your family and everybody connected or related with you. Smiling person creates an aura that attracts everyone. Frowning faces fume and fret the people around them. Choice lies with the person.