PLANNED CHILD

A child is an angel. Majority believes and says like this but why are “terrorists” in this world of angels? My mind many times goes on pondering on this question. World not only has international terrorists, the people who terrorize and escape the eye of law are in plenty. Terrorizing or using force in day to day life is an inescapable trait of humans at large.

WHY THIS HAPPENS? Many times I think and have inferred:

CONCEPTION can be categorized in 3 stages.
1. Pre-conception:

It is the period after marriage when the couple wishes to conceive a child. Continuous listening to holy hymns and reading holy books by the would-be parents will affect the thinking of the child, I believe.

Mental state of the would-be parents is of great importance in pre-conception phase of planned child. Father’s role in this is of 10-20minutes, mother’s role is for full 9 months. So, following behaviour by the mother does contribute a great deal in forming and constructing the behaviour pattern of the coming child.


• Watching programs that are not violent in nature keeps the child away from violent behaviour. My experience.

• Remaining away from quarrelling over trifles like financial and social matters does improve the behaviour pattern of the child. – I trust.

• Looking by would-be mother at the picture of mythical character is when they were children e.g. Lord Krishna’s picture, Lord Rama’s Picture, Sri Hanuman’s picture, Lord Jesus Christ’s picture when he was born do contribute in forming good.

• Mental peace and listening to music that gives peace to the mind is really very useful. It makes the child more intelligent and quick learner.


2. During Pregnancy:

• Regular consultation with the expert or a doctor benefits a lot.
• Saving the would –be mother from verbal attacks, social stigmas and negative situations and news enable the child in womb grow mentally and physically strong and wise.
• The members of the family should heed the dictum: ANALYSIS IS PARALYSIS.
• Over analyzing the situations, events and creating panic does affect the mother and the child.
• It should be kept in mind that what mother eats, feels and listens affects the child in the womb.
• Elders in the family should take proper precautions to avoid any unpleasant situations in front of the would-be mother.
• Special care should be taken by the elders to make the mother-to-be happy and smile and not create such incidents and circumstances as may affect her mind adversely.
• Violent behaviour and violent situations should be escaped by the would-be mother.* Would be mother should read holy books, listen to holy hymns visualize holy figures from history.

3. Post Delivery Precaution:
Coming of the child in a family irrespective of gender should be celebrated. Elders: change your attitude towards females. They are in no way less than your males.
Child is a child and must be welcomed in this world. Don’t start hating and don’t hate the females.

Elders love kissing and over caring the newly born kids. The child is not that immune from the infections. Control and save your newly born kid.
Mother’s milk is nectar to the child. Minimum for the first 6 months, the child needs it. This keeps the child immune to illness in coming years of life.
Replacement to mother’s milk is cow’s milk.

I am not a doctor. I just know and have shared with you all.


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ANGER MANAGEMENT

I used to feel aggressiveness in my nervous system and my behaviour with others was said to be arrogant. Loud talking, winning an argument and losing a friend or good relation were my bad habits. And above all, for all this I did not feel any remorse and held others responsible for any wrong behavour.

But from the inside, I felt it is wrong and I should manage it. Yesterday, an Ayurveda from JIVA Ayurved centre was talking on a TV channel perhaps Care World. He gave very simple remedy to manage anger to a caller on phone.

The remedy I practiced and found today that I am in control of my voice and behaviour. The burning sensation in my brain nerves is calm.

I bought a small bottle of almond oil (Badam Rogan) and a nasal dropper.

• I dropped a few drops of almond oil in my nostrils yesterday evening.
• I again dropped the oil today morning .
• I have found that my head is calm and I feel talking to others with a smile
than talk arrogantly.
• What an easy and effective way to manage anger! What I could not do for so many years, that I achieved overnight. Wonder!

My observation: The oil has worked on my nervous system as mobile oil works on the parts of the engine of car. I will continue for many days so that I may become totally tolerant of others and the circumstances. Situations and circumstances are 10% rest 90% is our reaction to the situation and circumstances.

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TO BECOME AN IDEAL STUDENT

Swami Vivekanda
• Respect: Respect your parents, your teachers and elders.

• Love: Love your country, your culture and your ancestors.

• Service: Serve the poor, the illiterate and the diseased.

• Self-Discipline: Discipline your body, your senses and

your mind.

• Self-Control: Control your words, your thoughts and your

actions.

• Faith: Have faith in yourself, in others and in God.

• Truthfulness: Be truthful in words, thoughts and actions.

• Hard Work: Work hard to acquire knowledge, skills and

wisdom.

• Strength: Be strong, physically, mentally, intellectually,

morally and spiritually.

• Conviction: Have conviction in the power of the goodness,

purity and honesty.

• Devotion: Have devotion for duty, scriptures, holy people

and God.

• Habits: Cultivate regular habits of prayer, meditation and

reading inspiring and strengthening literature.
• Firm Determination: Have firm determination and strong will-

power to cultivate good habits in order to achieve permanent

happiness, peace, success and fulfillment in life.

Every time you smile at someone. It is an action of love, a gift to
that person, a beautiful thing. ---------Mother Taresa.

SOURCE: WISDOM May 2011



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Self-Control

Swami Sivananda says that Self-Control is control exercised over one’s self. It is the power or habit of having one’s emotions, desires and appetites, senses and mind under control.

Control yourself first. Then you can control others.

Self-control clears the mind, strengthens will-power and judgment. It elevates your character. It gives you freedom, peace, bliss and joy.

He who conquers himself is greater than the commander-in-chief who conquers a country.

Control the senses and mind. You will attain self-realisation.

Conquer thyself. Till you have done this, you are only a slave of your senses.

He who rules his passions, desires, cravings and senses is the real king of kings. Crowns are nothing for him.

Every temptation that is resisted, every evil thought that is overcome, every desired or craving that is destroyed, every wrong action that is checked paves a long way to the attainment of everlasting peace and bliss.

Self-control gives you power to withstand trial, to bear suffering and to face danger.


Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do.
– Lou Holtz.


Source: Editor Speaks, Wisdom May 2011.

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SUCCESS

TO REACH A SUCCESSFUL DESTINATION
WE NEED A VEHICLE ASSEMBLED WITH WHEELS OF IDEAS.
THE FULE OF ACTION
A DRIVER WITH PATIENCE AND HARDWORK