Fear of Failure and Journey of Life.
In our LIFE, as we approach adulthood,
we list and prioritize our desires, our wants and our life goals.
However, we hardly give any importance to "failure."
If you are passionate and your desires are ambitious,
let me assure you of imminent failure.
People, who demand more from their LIFE,
are sure to be in discomfort for some period.
I congratulate them and hope you are one of them.
People with mediocre aims are O.K. with their life
as it comes to them and they do not fight for their Goals.
They will always be seen worrying.
Now let me tell you that there is a difference between worry and
concern.”
Worry—you are looking at the past for 100% of your time.
Concern—you are eager for future steps/action for 100% of your
time.
So, rather than worrying, be concerned towards future
achievements.
Most of the people try to avoid discomfort. They show a lack of
appreciation for the wisdom that hardship bestows. It has become somewhat
natural to take the path of least resistance, clinging to the familiar, staying
within our restricted safe places in an attempt to control the outcome.
Winston Churchill said, "Success is the ability to go from
failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."
We need to be able to acknowledge, and value our courage and
resilience during crisis. “When our sense of worthiness is established from
within, we are not at the mercy of what others do, or think!”
“The opportunity resulting from failure is the potential for
us to grow into more complete human beings”.
However, not all of us grow as the result of failure. Some who
experience failure give up, and never fully recover. They become too fragile
inside to get up off their knees.
Over the years, I have observed that we do not see much of a
failure or crisis till the age of 35.
Our LIFE up to this period appeared to be charmed. Our list of
desires includes getting good grades, going to the "right college,"
marrying the "right spouse," having a “right career” or starting a
family within a “right time”.
From childhood, we have been taught to have comfort and “least
importance is given on how to overcome the failure.” Failure is certain in our
life at some or other time. Instead of seeing it as a "setback" take
it as an “opportunity” to learn, to question, and to grow.
Many will numb themselves with more sleep, staying aloof, alcohol,
drugs or even suicide. However, these are not the remedies.
In addition, some people avoid responsibility for the condition of
their lives, jobs, relationships, and other actions.
They blame their pain on others and do not examine their roles in
the systems of which they are a part. Others shrink their immediate world in
order to make it more manageable.
All of these beliefs are equally fragile and false.
In our lives, there will be failure.
Temporarily we may forget that there were good times.
“However, when we accept that failure is a part of the process of
living and learn from the experience, we become more than we could have been
without failure.”
We then trust ourselves to create the life we want.
"I know the path: it is straight and narrow. It is like the
edge of a sword. I rejoice to walk on it. I weep when I slip. God's word is: He
who strives never perishes.
I have implicit faith in that promise, though, therefore from my
weakness I fail a thousand times, I will not lose faith"...Gandhi
Barack Obama:
Making your mark on the world is hard.
If it were easy, everybody would do it.
But it's not. It takes
patience, it takes commitment, and it comes with plenty of failure along the
way.
The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you
won't. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether
you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.
Havelock Ellis:
It is on our failures that we base a new, different and better
success.
Source: An email from Dewaji.
