Walking

 Confident walking

is more

more successful

than 

running.

Listen 👂 to everyone 🙂

but blindly follow none.

Think, judge and then follow/act.

सुनो सब की

पर करो मन की

सोच कर समझ कर, सुलझ कर।

सफलता मंत्र

बातें बंद

लिखकर सोचो, डेट और समय भी लिखें।

 स्ट्रेस नहीं होगा

Good wisdom

पानी के तेज बहने से नदी के किनारे टूट जाते हैं
जिंदगी में तेज चलने से जिंदगी के नज़ारे छूट जाते हैं 

ROOTS OF HAPPINESS

BE HAPPY IN YOU OWN SKIN

ACCEPT WHAT  YOU ARE
ACCEPT WHAT YOU HAVE
ACCEPT YOUR ENVIRONMENT

PAST GIVES LEARNING, DON'T CARRY IT MENTALLY
FUTURE IS LIKE A WHITE SHEET OF CLOTH
IT SHOWS YOU YOUR FUTURE

WHETHER TO CROSS IT AND ENJOY THE FUTURE

OR

BROOD OVER THE PAST


CHOICE LIES WITH YOU

जीवन दाता पत्र

जीवन दाता पत्र

1 यह विवरण एक मेंटोर ने एक सेमिनार में दिया।  परन्तु इस विवरण से सभी 100 से अधिक श्रोताओं को लाभ हुआ।  आप पड़  रहें हैं इस लिए आप को भी इससे बहुत लाभ होगा।  जीवन में कुछ छोटी छोटी घटनाएं अज्ञानता के कारण बड़ी बड़ी समस्याएं पैदा कर देती हैं।

2 सुविधा के लिए हम पात्रों के काल्पनिक नाम  रखते हैं।  :

-       शुभेन्दु (पिता)

-      सुमन (बहु)

-      सुलभ (सपुत्र )

-      अगम्य (शुवेन्दु की पत्नी )

3 शुभेन्दु की पत्नी अगम्य एक सुशिल और संस्कारी ग्रहणी थी।  दोनों ने जीवन भर अपने तीन बच्चों - दो बेटियों और बेटे सुलभ को पढ़ाया, लिखाया और अच्छे संस्कार दिए।  शुभेंदु  दिन भर खेतों में काम करता।  दिन ढलने के बाद थक कर घर आता और हाथ मुंह धो कर खाने का इंतज़ार करने लगता।  अगम्य बड़ी लगन और चाब से खाना बनाती।

4 जिस समय बह रसोई मे खाना बनाती तो हमेशा प्रभु के भजन का गुणगान करती।  जब भी उससे पूछा की ऐसा क्यों ?

 उसका एक ही उत्तर होता :             

प्रभु का सिमरन करने से खाने में सतगुण आ जाते हैं जिससे खाना खाने बाले इंसानों में भी सतोगुण परिवृति का आगाज़ होता है।

जब खाना पक जाता , सभी परिवार के सदस्य एक बिछोना बिछा कर उस पर बैठ जाते।  यह समय सभी के लिए ख़ुशी का समय होता।  पिता सबसे आगे, उसके बाद बच्चे।

कई बार बच्चे हाथ मुहं धो कर न बैठते तो अगम्य डांट कर उनेह हाथ धोने के लिए कहती।  इस समय दूसरे बच्चे जिस बच्चे को डांट  पड़ती को देख कर दांत निकलते और चिढ़ाते।

पिता मुस्कराता था।  मन ही मन प्रभु का धन्यवाद भी करता की उसका परिवार खुशहाल है।

5 समय बदलता है।  यह किसी के बश में नहीं है।  कोई भी इसे बदलने से रोक नहीं सकता।

जीवन के कुछ दिन, कुछ महीने बुरे हो सकते है पूर्ण जीवन कभी भी बुरा नहीं होता।

 बुरा तभी होता है जब इंसान अपने कर्म और सोच बुरी कर लेता है।  अच्छी किताबें देव प्रतिमाओं की तरह है।  जिनेह पड़ने से दिमाग खुलता है।  उत्कृष्ट भाव से लिखी किताबें पड़ने बाले को उत्कृष्ट बना देती हैं।  और नकारत्मक सोच से लिखी किताबें पड़ने बाले को निष्कृष्ट बना देती है।  चॉइस आपकी अपनी है।  आप क्या पड़ते हो , क्या देखते हो इसका जीवन पर बहुत प्रभाब पड़ता है।

6 हाँ तो समय बदलने लगा।  अगम्य की आकस्मिक मृत्यु हो गई।  बेटियों की शादी हो गयी। बेटीआं दिन त्यौहार पर आती और चली जाती।  जब तक बेटीआं और नाती (उनके बच्चे ) रहते शिवेंदु बहुत खुश रहता।  उसके बाद उस पर उदासी छा जाती।  सभी पिता की तरह शिवेंदु भी अपनी बेटिओं से बहुत प्यार करता था।  लेकिन उसे ज्ञान था बेटियन पराया धन है। 

 बेटे सुलभ की शादी सुमन से हो गई।  .शेवेन्दु अकेला पड़ गया।  हमेशा घर के बाहर पेड़ के नीचे अपनी चारपाई लगा कर चुपचाप लेटा रहता।  सुमन अपने ससुर की बहुत सेवा करती परन्तु फिर भी शेवेन्दु का स्वास्थ्य दिन ओ दिन गिरता ही जाता।  किसी को समझ न आता की क्या कारण है।  सपुत्र सुलभ बहुत ही चिंतित रहता।  अपने काम पर जा कर भी दिन भर अपने पिता के बारे में सोचता रहता।
What is life?

A journey from B to D. In between is C.

B=Birth, D=Death, C=Choice. Choice right, enjoy rail.

Choice wrong: Heal your heels inside the jail.

Choice lies with you whether you want to enjoy rail or rest in jail.

7 सुलभ की पत्नी अपने ससुर की इतनी चिंता क्यों करती थी।  यह भी एक घटना के कारण हुआ।  सुमन की नई नयी शादी हुई  थी।

परन्तु ससुराल में दो ननदें देख कर , बड़ा परिवार देख कर उसका व्यवहार अजीव हो गया।  उसने अपने पति से कहना शुरू कर दिया की बह तो अकेले घर में रहेगी।

सुलभ को यह सब सुन कर और जान कर बहुत ही दुःख हुआ।

उसका मन में अंतर्द्विन्द चलता रहता :          माता पिता को छोड़ता हूँ तो पाप लगता है क्यूंकि बही तो मेरे दृश्या   भगवन है।

 उन्हों ने जन्म दिया , उन्हों पढ़ाया लिखाया। अब बुढ़ापे में उनकी सेवा करना  मेरा धर्म है।
 यदि बह मेरा लालन पालन  न करते तो जो मैं आज हूँ क्या होता ?

 दूसरा विचार आता : पत्नी गर्भवती है उसे छोड़ता हूँ तो परिवार नष्ट होता है।  बिना परिवार जीवन क्या है ?

इसी अंतर्द्विन्द में उसने दुखी हो कर आत्म हत्या करने की सोची।

 परन्तु इससे  पहले उसे एक बजुर्ग ने सलाह दी की तू जा कर अपने माता पिता को अपनी समस्या बतादे।  बे तुम्हारी समस्या का हल कर देंगे।  हिम्मत करो।

8 सुलभ ने हिम्मत की और अपने माता पिता को अपनी समस्या बताई।  माता पिता ने कहा ये तो बहुत छोटी बात है।  जो बात सुलभ को बहुत ही बड़ी लग रही थी बह माता पिता को बहुत छोटी लगी।  सुलभ बहुत हैरान था। माँ बोली: हमने अपनी काट ली है तुम अपनी ख़ुशी से काटो।

 अपनी पत्नी को लेकर किसी किराये के मकान में रह लो।  सुलभः बहुत खुश था की उसकी समस्या का हल हो गया है।  पत्नी भी झट से मान गई।  सुलभ और सुमन के घर बेटे का जन्म हुआ।  सुमन ने अपनी माँ को बुलाया।  जरूरत होती है इन दिनों में।  उसकी सास अगम्य अपने पोते के बारे में सुन कर रह न सकी और हिम्मत करके आ गई बेटे के घर।  बहां पर दोनों समधने इकठी रही।

9 दो तीन दिन रहने के बाद सुलभ की सास यानि सुमन की माँ बोली : अच्छा बेटी तुम्हारी सास आ गई है अब मैं चलती हूँ घर भी देखना है।      सुमन बहुत गिड़गिड़ायी परन्तु उसकी माँ ने अपना सामान बांधा और चली गई।  अब सुमन की सास 40 दिन के बाद अपने घर जाने लगी तो सुमन ने उसके पायों पकड़ लिए और कहा : मां तुम ही मेरी मां हो , मेरी मां तो 3 दिन बाद चली गई।  रुको मैं भी अपना सामान बांधती हूँ और आपके साथ  अपने घर चलती हूँ।  माँ चुप।  बहु ने सामान बाँधा और अगम्य , सुलभ, सुमन और उनका नवजात शिशु तीनो अपने गाँब के घर लौट आये।

10 यही एक कारण था कि सुमन अपने ससुर का बहुत सामान करती थी।  उसकी हर जरूरत का ध्यान रखती थी।  क्यूंकि बह जान चुकी थी कि मेरा घर मेरा ससुराल है मायका नहीं।

11 अब शिवेंदु की बीमारी।  सुलभ को एक दिन एक ज्ञान बान सीनियर सिटीजन यानि बजुर्ग मिले।  उसने अपनी ब्यथा उसे सुनाई।  सुलभ ने कहा : मेरे पिता ही को पता नहीं क्या बीमारी लग गई है ? सुबह से शाम तक घर के प्राँगण में लेटे रहते है।  न किसी कुछ कहते हैं न कहीं आते जाते है।  बहुत डॉक्टरों को दिखाया है।  2 -3 लाख रूपए भी खर्च हुए है परन्तु लाभ कोई नहीं।  बुद्धिमान बजुर्ग ने कहा : एक उपाए है।  यह सुनते ही सुलभ की आँखों में चमक आ गई।  बोला : क्या है ? कृपया बताएं।

12 क्या आप अपने पिता को कोई पैसा देते है जो उनका ही हो कोई हिसाब न मांगे।  सुलभ ने कहा:  नहीं।
"तो आज जा कर 2000 रूपए अपने पिता को देना और उनके कान में कहना : पापा यह पैसे आपके हैं जो मर्जी करो इनका।  खायो पियो।  किसी को कोई हिसाब नहीं मांगेगा। "

सुलभ ने एक पत्र लिखा और अपने पिता से पड़ने को कहा जिस पर जो ज्ञानबान बजुर्ग ने कहा था लिखा था और इसके प्रभाब ने सुलभ को अचम्बा कर दिया। जो बह 2 -3 लाख रूपए लगा कर न कर पाया बह इस 2000 रूपए ने कर दिखाया।

पिता उठा और नहाया धोया और सफ़ेद रंग का साफ़ सुथरा कमीज पजामा पहना।

पगड़ी बाँधी।  पायों मे मौजे पहने।  दो घंटे के बाद अपने दोस्तों से मिल कर तारो ताज़ा अपने घर बापिस लोटा।  पोते से आज बड़ा हंस हंस कर दादा बातें कर रहा था।

 सुलभ और सुमन भी बहुत खुश थे की उनके पिता की बीमारी समाप्त हो गई है।

13  दूसरे दिन सुलभ ने सीनियर सिटीजन से यह सब बताया और पूछा कि यह सब कैसे हुआ।

 बजुर्ग ने बताया : बेटे जब बाप बजुर्ग हो जाता है तो उसे भी पैसे की जरूरत होती है परन्तु युवा बहु बेटे उसे यदि 100 रूपए दें तो उसका भी हिसाब मांगते हैं जिससे उसके आत्मसम्मान को ठेस पहुँचती है।  इसका इलाज दुनिया के किसी डॉक्टर के पास नहीं है।

  बहु और बेटे को अपने अपने माता पिता का शब्दों से सम्मान करना चाहिए और उनकी जरूरत के मुताबिक धन देना चाहिए।  अपशब्द या ऊँची टोन में बात नहीं करनी चाहिए।  मां बाप नहीं तो जन्म नहीं , जन्म नहीं तो दुनिया नहीं।  सुलभ ने उस बुद्धिमान इंसान का धन्यबाद किया।

Qualitative Living

एक गुण

जो हर जगह

हर समय

हर


प्रस्थिति में

काम देता है

USE Appreciation  instead of expectations
Welcome everyone with a smile .




मीठी बोलबानी 

मीठी बोलबानी बाला इंसान 
करेला यानि कड़बी बस्तु भी बेच सकता है 


परन्तु कड़बी ऊँची बोलबानी बाला इंसान 
शहद भी नहीं बेच सकता। 

कई लोग जैसे ही जीवन में तरक्की करते हैं उनकी बोलबानी मीठी से कड़बी हो जाती है। 

उनके लिए और सभी के लिए कबीर जी लिखते है :

बड़ा हुआ तो क्या हुआ , जैसे पेड़ खजूर 
पक्षी को छाया नहीं , फल लागे अति दूर। 

Thinking

Man is the product 

of his own thoughts. 


चित्र और मित्र 

इंसान का

 चरित्र बनाते हैं।  

दोनों पर हर समय ध्यान दें। 


ढूंढने से सब कुछ मिलता है। 
हाँ समय जरूर लगता है। 
कोलम्बस का सुपना था 
कि शिप (पानी के जहाज ) पर दुनिया का चक्र लगायूं। 

उसका सपना पूरा करने के लिए 18 साल लगे। 

Training is everything .  

.
No training , no skill 

No skill , no work 

No work , no money 

No money , no life 

Beggars beg . They merely survive . 

So , learn a skill , be skillful. 

Love what you do or do what you love . 


Doing what you don't  love is  stress



माड़ी सोच

 और 

पैर की मोच 

इंसान को जीवन में 

आगे नहीं बढ़ने देती। 

EGO vs. Respect

EGO IS FOR ROLE


RESPECT IS FOR SOUL

Words

Words can win

ARGUMENTS

BUT

wisdom

wins

life's WAR.


Wisdom comes from mirroring the words - spoken or written in books or scriptures. Words soothe. Words wound. Use words to build the bridges of relationship rather than burning the relationships.


Many times, it is not the words that destroy a relationship but the tone and presentation of the words that destroy life time relations. We need to use the words that heal the heart of others not hurt others. Words burn head and heart.  Vice versa is also true.

Farmer and His Diamond

                                                             किचन या बाथरूम 

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किसान और उसका हीरा

एक गांब में एक मेहनती किसान रहता था। बचपन में उस किसान ने धार्मिक ग्रंथों में पड़ा था कि यदि पुरे मन व लग्न से   प्राथना की जाये तो भगवन  मन की मुराद पूरी कर  देते हैं।  

किसान बड़ा उदमी ब प्रयोगत्मक स्वभाव का था।  एक दिन उसके मन में आया क्यों न शब्दों व् सचाई को जाना जाये। 

 हसीं मजाक के लिए उसने  अपनी किचन पर बाथरूम का बोर्ड लगा  दिया।

 सभी दोस्त  उस के घर आ कर उससे पूछने लगे कि यह किचन है या बाथरूम ? हम बाथरूम में बनी चाय नहीं पिएंगे।  

किसान  बुद्धिमान था बुद्धिमान लोगों  के दोस्त भी उनसे अधिक बुद्धिमान ही हो सकते हैं। जैसे शेर की दोस्त केवल शेरनी ही हो सकती है कोई गीदडी नहीं।

उस किसान ने अपने दोस्तों से कहा :

मेरे प्यारे दोस्तो   नाराज़ न होइए चाय किचन में ही बनेगी , बाथरूम में नहीं।  

किचन पर बाथरूम का बोर्ड तो केवल चूहों को धोखा देने के लिए लगाया है ता के बो पढ़े सच में तो ये किचन ही है,,  

यदि पटिआला को जाने बाली बस पर अमृतसर का बोर्ड लगा हो तो मुर्ख उसे अमृतसर को जाने बाली बस समझेंगे परन्तु ड्राइवर और कंडक्टर को तो पता है कि बस  पटिआला जायेगी,  अमृतसर  की टिकट नहीं काटेंगे। 

सभी दोस्त उस सीधे साधे परन्तु बुद्धिमान दोस्त की बातों से उभरी सच्चाई पर बहुत हँसे, दोस्त बुद्धिमान था /समाज नहीं , समाज से बचने  के लिए शब्द बदले, शब्द बदलने से किचन बाथरूम नहीं बन गई , बस पटिआला की जगह अमृतसर नहीं चली गई : सबक : शब्द बदलने से रिश्ते नहीं बदलते ,

इस घटना को हुए कुछ ही  दिन हुए तो एक सन्यासी उस किसान के घर पर भिक्षा लेने के लिए आया/, किसान ने उस स्वामी की बहुत आओ भगत की/ , स्वामीजी ने आशिर्बाद दिया : भगवान तुम्हें हीरे जवाहारात दे/, 

किसान ने बड़ी  उत्सुकता से पूछा :         स्वामीजी मैं तो किसान हूँ पूरा दिन खेतों में काम करता हूँ /     तो मुझे हीरा कैसे मिल सकता है /                  स्वामीजी ने उत्तर दिया : तुम केवल भगवान का सिमरन किया करो।  भगवान सब कुछ कर सकता है। जो हीरा तुम्हारी किस्मत में  है बह किसी और को नहीं मिल सकता।  तुम भगवान पर बिश्वास करके  पूजा किया करो/ , बस फिर क्या था                  किसान ने स्वामी के चरण स्पर्श किये और स्वामीजी चले गए  और किसान हर सुबह दोपहर शाम पाठ पूजा करता / मन में एक ही प्रार्थना कि हीरा मिल जाये /

किसान 30 -40 साल भगवान का पाठ करता रहा/, जब भी कोई हीरा ढूंढ के लाता तो बह पत्थर निकलता , किसान को बहुत दुःख होता /, आहिस्ता आहिस्ता किसान ने हीरा ढूंढ़ना बंद कर दिया  और मायूस रहने लगा /हीरा मिलने की सभी आशाएं भी छोड़ दी ,  

बहुत साल मायूस रहने के बाद जब बह अपने खेत में हल चला रहा तो उसमे उसने  एक चमकता हुआ पत्थर देखा/, बह उस पत्थर को उठा लाया और उसी तरह से प्यार करने लगा जैसे किसी हीरे को /,  

साल बीतते गए,  एक दिन फिर उसी  सन्यासी ने अलख जगाई।  

 किसान एक दम उसकी आवाज पहचान गया , ख़ुशी से बह बाहर आया और स्वामीजी को प्रणाम किया , 

उन्हें  अन्दर आने का आग्रह किया/

स्वामीजी जब अन्दर आ कर चटाई पर बैठे तो उन्होंने किसान से पूछा

 : क्या हीरा मिला ?

 किसान ने मायूस मन से  कहा

 : नहीं मिलाजी  मैंने बढ़ी कोशिश की परन्तु पत्थर ही मिले,     अब तो मैंने कोशिश ही छोड़ दी है। 

स्वामीजी का मन दुखी हो गया।  स्वामीजी ने घर में इधर उधर नज़र दौड़ाई और देखा की सामने रखा कुछ चमक रहा है। 

 उन्होंने किसान से पूछा : बह क्या है ? 

बह बोला:         साथ बाले खेत में चमकता पत्थर मिला मैं इसे उठा कर ले आया। 

 लायो , इसे इधर लायो , देखूँ : स्वामीजी बोले 

किसान चमकते पत्थर को उनके पास लेकर आया।  

स्वामीजी हैरान रह गए और बोले :

 भलेमानस यह हीरा है/ पत्थर नहीं / यह तुम्हारा जीवन सम्बार देगा , संभाल कर  रखना दुनिया की नज़रों से दूर /     

 किसान बहुत खुश था मन ही मन भगवान का धन्यबाद कर रहा था और सोच रहा था कि सही है : भगवान पर विश्वास करने व  भरोसा रखने  से सब कुछ मिलता है चाहे पल भर के लिए सही / 

किसान सोच रहा था : प्रार्थना में बड़ी शक्ति है /

यह जान कर कि मेरे पास हीरा है किसान की काम करने की शक्ति बढ़ गई / पुरानी सभी समस्याएं और दुःख भूल गए / नई स्फूर्ति उसके शरीर में आ गई / जीवन एक उत्सव की तरह लगने लगा 

परन्तु किसान की यह ख़ुशी अधिक समय नहीं रही / एक दिन किसान जब सुबह उठा तो उसका बह हीरा अपनी जगह पर नहीं था / 

किसान घबरा गया , सभी जगह ढूंढा पर हीरा न मिला / 

किसान बड़ा दुःखी  रहने लगा /

 उसका  स्वभाव भी चिड़चिड़ा हो गया /

 फिर  दोबारा  बह मायूस रहने लगा /

दुःख की दवा प्रार्थना है / 

किसान फिर प्रार्थना करने लगा /

भगवान ने सुन ली /                                            गांव में शादी का उत्सव था / 

किसान को भी न्योता आया / 

किसान बहां गया /

 लेकिन बैठे बैठे उसने  उधर नज़र दौड़ाई तो क्या देखता है कि उसका हीरा बहां है / 

उसने मन ही मन खुशी महसूस कि चलो हीरा मेरे पास नही तो किसी नज़दीक के गांब बासी के पास है / 

अब बह किसी न किसी बहाने उस गांव बाले के पास जाता है  बैठता है अपने हीरे को देखता है  और अपने घर बापिस आ जाता / अपने हीरे की यादोँ में खुश रहता है।  अब किसान ने अपने मन को समझा लिया  है कि हीरा उसके पास या गाँव बाले के पास क्या फर्क पड़ता है / 

है तो उसकी नज़रों के सामने /

Moral :  To be happy, be content what you have. God gives what you deserve at the right time, Have patience, It pays.

BE POSITIVE

Every adversary has a positive opportunity hidden beneath it.


BE POSITIVE, THINK POSITIVE AND POSITIVE WILL BE YOUR WORLD OR THE WORLD YOU WILL CREATE. VISIBLE WORLD IS THE WORK OF POSITIVE THINKING PEOPLE

A 4 yr old boy was in the market with his 6 yr old sister..

.Suddenly the boy found that his sister was lagging behind.

He stopped and looked back.

His sister was standing in front of a toy shop and was watching something with great interest.

The boy went back to her and asked,"Do you want something?" The sister pointed at the doll.

The boy held her hand and like a responsible elder brother, gave that doll to her.

The sister was very very happy...

The shopkeeper was watching everything and getting amused to see the  matured behaviour of the boy...

Now the boy came to the counter and asked the shopkeeper,

"What is the cost of   this doll, Sir!"

The shopkeeper was a cool man and had experienced the odds of life. So he asked the boy with a lot of love n affection," 

:Well, What can you pay?"

The boy took out all the shells that he had collected from sea shore, from his pocket and gave them to the shopkeeper. '

The shopkeeper took the shells and started counting as if he were counting the currency. Then he looked at the boy.

The boy asked him worriedly,"Is it less?

" The shopkeeper said," No,No... 

"These are more than the cost. So I will return the remaining." Saying so,he kept only 4 shells with him and returned the remaining.

The boy, very happily kept those shells back in his pocket and went away with his sister...

A servant in that shop was very surprised watching all these.

He asked his master," Sir! You gave away such a costly doll just for 4 shells???

"The shopkeeper said with a smile," Well, For us these are mere shells.
But for that boy, these shells are very precious. And at this age he does not understand what money is, but when he will grow up, he definitely will. And when he would remember that he purchased a doll with the Shells instead of Money, he will remember Me and think that world is full of Good people.
He will develop positive thinking..Thats it..."

So always be positive and behave positive.
Wish you all a nice week ahead. 

Dr A Jagan Mohan Reddy

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HAPPY NEW YEAR 2016

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2016

TIME ONCE PASSED CANNOT BE RECALLED. TRUE! BUT THE GONE TIME TEACHES MANY LESSONS AND ENABLES US TO BUILD NEW HOPES ON THE BASIS OF OUR LEARNINGS WE RESOLVE TO IMPROVE AND MAKE OUR ,OUR DEARS LIVES, OUR SOCIETY AND WORLD BETTER.

New year celebrations throughout the world bring hopes to ALL.

New year, new resolution.

This year my resolution is " I will listen more and reduce my talking by half."

I have observed that when I listen, I learn new things but when I speak, I repeat what I know from my education, my experience, my experiments.

All others too have done so. Why not benefit from their learning? 

I realised the benefit of listening from others from an incident that happened in my life. 

I met an M.C.A (Master of Computer Application) person. She narrated and taught me  in 10-15 minutes conversation what I could not learn in 15 years BY juggling through books. 

This incident changed my view and I resolved: Now onwards I will speak less and listen and learn more from others.

Just 10 hours back was the entry of TIME into NEW YEAR 2016. 

The children of my neighbourhood having age range 3-14 years had arranged a dance party. 

I was invited as chief guest. Their parents around 250 two had gathered in the park in front of our houses. 

At 8 pm  of 31st December, 2015  the dance party started.  All had brought chairs from their homes. Elders were seated on the raised concrete built in the park. Light and sound system and self-made LCD using flex on wooden planks was done excellently well by the young children. 

Throughout the dance party, coffee and eatables were served without break. All the people - elders, children, young, old, ladies and gents enjoyed the programme of the children. 

Dance by a child of 3 really mesmerised ALL. Even now after 10 hours the song upon which she danced is stilling ringing in my ears. Whenever, we talk about that song and her presence of mind, we cannot control laughing and wonder how such a little child would have crammed the song and learnt to dance. Her steps and lip singing of the song was really beyond comprehension. 

For 4 hours we were entertained and the cost was not more than Rs. 4000/- (Quite below US$ 100) for 250 people.  I was thinking, if a couple would have celebrated NEW Year in a hotel or any other hill station, it would have cost far more than Rs. 4000/- but here in the comfort zone of our homes, we have enjoyed the best. 

At the end of the programmer, I was invited to distribute the medals to the performers. I invited 5-6 other elders of the area who were sitting there.  We all honoured the performers with the medals.  Children were happy. I was thinking who knows that from these children after a period of say 30, 40 years can be an IAS, IPS, IRS, Minister, Chief Minister or President of India or any other country.  Nobody can predict the future of the child. But this kind of foundation will definitely make a child confidence. Confidence creates reality beyond predications. 

At 12 + New Year celebration was over and elders left the place. Now was the turn of the mothers of the children. 

I saw it from the lobby of my house. I was wondering that even the seemingly less talking and generally known introvert ladies were dancing with full vigour and the full of their heart.

They were laughing, dancing, pushing, cuddling and cajoling each other.

And that too in a public place.

I had never seen those young ladies earlier laughing and dancing to that pitch. I thought, everybody has a talent, only opportunity is to be made available.

HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR 2016.

Prohibition

BAN ON ALCOHOL DRINKING

CONGRATULATIONS TO SHRI NITISH KUMARJI – 

CHIEF MINISTER OF BIHAR, INDIA

Nitishji had promised to the people of Bihar before the election 2015 that there will be complete prohibition i.e. ban on liquor in Bihar from April, 2016. 

Now this promise has been fulfilled as the honorable Chief Minister has made it public that from April 2016, there will complete prohibition in Bihar.

No doubt the state will lose heavily in respect of finances but this decision will

-         -    Improve the lives of the people in the state

-         -   Improve the family life of the people in the state

-         -   Improve the public relations in the state

-         - Improve the image of the people in the mind of the people in other states.  

Family disputes and conflicts will be reduced. More mindful living will be enjoyed by the people of Bihar. Bihar has become the fourth state where prohibition where complete ban on liquor i.e. prohibition has been implemented by law.

Gujarat, Manipur and Nagaland are the other three states.

It is the right time when the Governments of Punjab, Haryana and Governments of other states should also heed to this good gesture and action of Bihar Government.

The governments that in paper preach ‘prohibition’ but in reality promote ‘LIQUOR CONSUMPTION’ (by giving licences to more and more liquor and wine vends)  can never be the welfare wishers of the people and society.

Again: CONGRATULATIONS, SIR.

THINK

THINK WHAT YOU THINK and WHAT YOU DO.

In life, there are BIG challenges and small challenges. If BIG challenges are taken care of, small challenges or problems are solved automatically.

So, to be better and light in life, one should focus on BIG challenges or problems and solve them. In management it is called 80:20 pareto method. Means that BIG problems need your 20 per cent time and 80% problems are solved whereas small problems account for 20 per cent but eat away 80 per cent time.

Choice lies with you. Whether to focus on 80% or 20% in life.

Here is an example: A professor was giving the demo of this 80:20 pareto method.

He took out a jar of glass. Placed it on the table. Now he took out some big pieces of stone and put them in the jar, Jar was full and its cover was not fitting it. Professor asked the students: Is there any space to put something more in the jar. The loud reply was: No, sir.

Professor took small pebbles and put the same in the jar. The small pebbles were fitted well in the jar. Again the same question: Is there any space to put anything more in the jar? Again the loud reply: No, sir.         "Good", Professor said.

He took out a handful of sand and dropped in the jar. The sand settled in the jar well.
All the students were awe stricken.

So, what you learn., dear students.

Jar is your mind. If you fill with big problems and say: No more space, then you are wrong. Mind has a large space to accommodate many more things. It is you, who says: It is enough. Stretch yourself and see the wonder your mind can do for you.

Next he empties the jar and places it on the table.

This time fills the jar with sand i.e. small problems of life. The jar was full up to the top. No space was there.

Now what have you learnt students: If you will fill your mind with solving little and small problems of life, the big problems will not have space for solution in your mind and throughout life you will keep on thinking that I am troubled and troubles don't leave. In reality, you have not known the root of the troubles yourself and keep focussing on the branches of troubles.

So, focus to solve the  BIGGEST problems of life first.
Then  priority is : BIGGER, BIG, SMALL, SMALLER AND SMALLEST problem.

You will enjoy the life.


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Business Management Made Easy

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Managing business is an herculean challenge for almost all business men and business managers.

I give below the four systems that are necessary for a business to run smoothly.

1. OAS : Office Automation System

    Office is the engine of the train called business - be it service, retail or manufacturing.  All information is managed in the office for quick actions and decision. Information is profit or money. Information needs to be preserved, saved from frugal minds, information needs to disseminated for action on the floor. Accounting, correspondence, communication - internal and external using modern gadgets like computer, mobile phones, printer, fax etc. are some of the activities of the OAS.

2. TPS: Transaction Processing System: How a transaction is processed is covered in this system. Effective handling of a transaction determines the effectiveness of the organisational management and thereby profit level. 

Pre-transaction processing: 

2.1 Visit by marketing people to introduce the product or service.

2.2 Receiving an enquiry or requirement.

2.3 Processing the enquiry mentally.

2.4 Quoting for enquiry either in writing or verbally.

2.5 Receiving an order.

Transaction Processing:

After the order is received, planning for execution starts. Raw material is arranged through Bill of Material. Material carrying cost is the major factor in this phase of transaction. Scheduling of production for producing the product helps a lot. Wise handling of the scheduling and material boosts up the transaction profit for the organisation. Well qualified, experienced and positive minds boost the productivity of this system.

3. MIS Management Information System: Various reports are received from various departments of the organisation like: Marketing, production, personnel, ERP. These are processed further so that they may be used by the top executives or management team to take effective decisions.

4. DSS Decision Support System:  MIS as described in system 3 is supplied to the top management that is aware about SWOT analysis and TOWS analysis. Such information is juggled and effective decision is taken. Efficacy of the decision depends upon the accuracy of the information so supplied.

Focus on all these systems regularly boosts the effectiveness of the organs of the organisations.

80-20 pareto rule of life.

Reference: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareto_principle
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While doing MBA, we used to learn about 80-20 pareto method. The method when applied in projects or other activities says that 80% results or impact for achieving a project or an activity come from 20% efforts. The leaders focus, track and monitor this 20% part of the project. Rest is managed by the next brigade.

A week ago, I was sitting in café and heard the talk of the neighbor on other table.
Hard skills  = 20% contribution in life
Soft skills = 80% contribution in life.
Elaborate more was the wide eyed opened listener's query.

Listen:

Hard skills are the qualifications and ranks a person gets from school/college/universities or institutes. They make the arrogant, haughty, introvert and fit for comparison. The person boasts and brags of degrees and institutes where as this does not pay after a period of time.

Soft Skills:


About 60 in  total and include acceptance of the world as real and taming, trimming self thinking to match the occasion and the need of the person, places, people, institutions. It includes, talking low, slow, short taking into account the age, relation and occasion. It also includes your role in family, work place or job. A manager cannot be impatient in talks like an office boy.

What you eat determines the volume of your voice. Heavy , fried and over cooked foods and hot drinks cause loudness in talks. Fruit, juice, vegetables, almonds and nuts enable the body to be more healthy and the behavior of the person improves.

CCT Conscious Control of Tongue pays a lot in achieving 80%.

20% is helpful in career and is relevant for the job and the little community known.
80% is helpful in happiness, relation building, networking, inner peace and frictionless self-development. Networking - local, national and international - help in boosting the relationships for every kind of assistance during bad times.

The listener could not understand well and asked: Cite an example. I could not understand your philosophical talk.


Ok: In a family, father is less educated and worked hard to feed and pay the fee of the children. Mother, though illiterate, cooked food, washed clothes and took care of kids when they were ill and could not take care of themselves. With the fees of father's money and mother's help, the children got good education. Became aware about the physical world but could not develop their sense of metaphysical world which is inner-self.

Now the children are young and educated, parents are old and needy. Energy level is drained. Their response time to tackle the problems or replying to the queries of children has gone down. Children don't like this. They shout and react to the extent that the parents feel troubled. Yes mere presence for long time becomes a source of annoyance. Father and mother living at the same place and meeting the children right from birth cause inbuilt mental deafness for any kind of advice or

Children treat them as if they have the same energy and expect that the parents should act and behave as they wish rather than being thankful to the parents who sacrificed their youth, wants and invested their energy and time on them.

When I was young I wished to change the world. My age was about 17-18. But now at 50+ I have come to know that creating mental friction for the real world or others is useless. But now I have learnt, if I wish to be happy, I need to manage my mind. Now I focus more on my thoughts, track them. I found a wonderful method: I say I forgive you and name the person: Wonder: I sleep well. No thought of hate or love for a particular person jump into my mind.

I don't do because the people I love or I hate deserve my mercy but I deserve mental peace. I kept on torturing myself for about 50 years for imaginary presumptive reasons. Now I am in command of my mind. Now  I know what I want in life and my direction is right and destination is visible. Earlier, I was commanded by others as I was hurt deeply by the words of others. Now I ignore by mentally saying. No you cannot disturb my mental peace. I am the master of my life.  Now I trust the words of Henry David Thoreau

 : What lies ahead and what lies ahead are tiny matters as compared to what lies within.

Changing food has also helped a lot. I take fruits, boiled vegetables, sprouted beans. I avoid gossip and irrelevant thinking and toxic people.
Now I talk more in mind. No  bad words come out of lips. Only good words for others come. This is building my relations. I am now more cooperative, level of acceptance rather than arrogance has increased. Body language too works for others. Behaviour is changing. It is all paying in making my life happy. I feel inner peace. Sleep well.
This switching from "I": am more important to "You" are more important and becoming nice to others, talking sweet, controlling tongue i.e. stopping and not advancing arguments is helping me to be happy. Happiness is an inner task. Self effort. Nobody else is responsible. I love living with people with whom I feel good.

Age group too matters. People of your own age group make you more happy as they talk and behave like you.

Emotional intelligence is one component of 80%. 80% never changes. 20% keeps changing with the passage. Parents loved their kids in Stone Age and love them too in this Computer Age. Mother's parents, brothers, sisters and father's parents, brothers, sisters and cousins remain permanent in life. No way to annoy or leave them. Just accepting them as they are is the way to happiness or face their wrath.
All talk rough but do help in need. Talk cannot be as good as the dialogue of films or TV serials.
But MBA and B.Tech were not available in Stone Age.

80% enables you to be happy and comfortable with everyone and everywhere. Whereas 20% enables you to go up and higher in your career.

Right I understand why am I that much troubled internally. I will be focusing on 80% now to make my life better and better.




 

First day at work.

Greatest day of life as I view is the "first day at job."

After 15/17 years of education, the tedious job is to find a job. Preparing bio-data and submitting the same to job providers, facing interviews and accepting rejections and comments unworthy of hearing becomes an intolerable task.

A question that generally confuses the fresher: Do you have experience? When the interviewee is fresher and has been called for the interview as fresher how can s/he have the experience?

Very few interviewers come prepared for the interview. They take the job interviewing the candidate like writing a letter to client or customer.

In many organizations, an hour's a day's interview is ritual. Many times, the interviewers are less educated and are not aware about the job profile and expectations from the interviewee.

IQ instead of EQ remains the focus in interviews.

But for better results, EQ also matters. Experts say IQ (Formal education)_+ Experience counts for 20% and EQ or common sense and etiquettes count for 80%. Once the interviewee is emotionally and  mentally attached to the organization, loyalty and results ensue without effort.

It is well said: Take care of your people and your people will take care of your business.

The interviewer (s) does not realize that this may be a routine job for him/her but this is a special and most important job for the interviewee. Getting a job is a life time dream of a person. Hence, thorough before hand preparation is most important.

Interview is a bridge between the organization and new person. It is nothing less than bringing a new bride in the house and making her aware about the nature, mood, rules and behavior expected from her for the family members and others in the community the family lives.

Today, is the day when a new young boy who is BBA with Diploma in Electronics going to join as Marketing Executing in the small organization being run by a young Electrical Engineer manufacturing Electrical Control Panels, Industrial Cooling Units. The young engineer invited me to interview this new entrant.

Now the scene at the interview:

I was sitting all alone in the room.

The interviewee sought permission and entered the room. I could see he was gasping. I gave him a glass of water and told him to sit on the chair and feel easy.

"This is a positive interview not rejection exercise, so please feel easy and sit."
He overcome his nervousness and I saw that the perspiration on his face disappeared rather was soaked by the air of the fan.

He was feeling fresh. I glanced through his certificates and testimonials.

"Good performance," was my comment.

Glow in eyes of the blushing young man returned. His age is about 23 years.

"What are you co-curricular activities?"

"I sing, I dance, I play, sir"

"Good."

"Can you sing a song for  me?"

"Which one, sir?"

"Which you deem fit and like the most?"

He paused for a while and started singing. I closed my eyes and listened carefully.

After 2/3 minutes, the song was over.

Many may be thinking that the selection in the interview was so easy. Just a song. Singing a song in front of an unknown, first time met person is a bold act. This is the requisite trait expected from a marketing man. A marketing person has to meet with new people, unknown people, weird people and retain the relationship. 20% sales comes from the new customers while 80% sales comes from the old satisfied customers.

For the new customer: This new interviewee has boldness to meet, to introduce the organization and the products organization manufactures.

For the old customers: This new interviewee has the ability to retain the relationship using his positive attitude that have been tested by listening to his song. He is a team player.

So, a good interviewer can judge all these traits in a minute. As regards to intellectual skills, his certificates and testimonials are the proof. Why to raise new questions? He is fit to be tamed, trimmed and made fit for the profile of his job.

"You are selected."

Out of respect and awe he looked at me with gratitude. With tears of happiness in his eyes about to well up  his  cheeks, he said: Thank you, sir.

"When would you like to join?"

"Tomorrow, sir."

"No. Join after 3/4 days. Go and meet your nears and dears, relatives and friends. After joining you will come regularly on the job. No leaves. So, come and join on 1st June."

"What will be the pay package, sir?"

"Work for one month and let us observe your attitude, your way of working, your punctuality and the pay package will be the best in the industry."

"Right, sir. I will come on 1st June."

Today, is his joining day. I have prepared all the information necessary for him. I have bought a rose flower to welcome him.

Working honorary for young entrepreneurs gives a lot of satisfaction. At this age with experience, I feel I am helping them.

First good boss is better than big fat pay package is my advice to all who start their career. Good boss teaches good etiquettes, manners and traits that pay whole of life.

Once this is learnt, pay package keeps on becoming fat, fatter and fatter.

WELCOME THE NEW PERSON. FIRST DAY at  JOB IS A MEMORABLE DAY IN THE LIFE OF A PERSON. FIRST SALARY IS NEVER FORGETTON.

TODAY I AM GOING TO WELCOME HIM TO MAKE THE DAY MEMORABLE.

A speaker in the seminar said: Being an interviewer, keep in mind:
1. Attitude of the candidate is religion.
2.
 

Paradox of our age.

Creating Student Focussed Lessons

One framework to help create intentional, focused lessons is described in Understanding by Design by Grant Wiggins and Jay McTighe (2005).

Often referred to as backward design, the process has teachers set clear, measureable targets before they create instructional activities.

The stages of backward design can be seen in below Figure ;

Figure  UbD: Stages of Backward Design

Source: From Understanding by Design (expanded 2nd Ed.) Alexandria.

Identify desired results:

What should students know, understand, and be able to do? These outcomes typically come from standards, curriculum expectations, and pacing guides.

Determine acceptable evidence:

How will we know if students have achieved the desired results and met the standards? This can include both formal and informal evidence of student understanding and proficiency.

Plan learning experiences and instruction:

What activities will equip students with the necessary knowledge and skills? By choosing activities and strategies after clear, measureable results have been identified, instruction becomes more purposeful and intentional.

Important decisions must be made in each of these areas, but much of the real work of instructional design lies between the boxes in Figure in the arrows. How do we translate the results we desire into behaviors we can measure? And how do we create tasks and experiences that lead to these measureable outcomes?

 

 

 

Best Regards

Areef Irfan Mohammed

​M.Com; MBA;CICTL and CICEL from Cambridge University, UK​

arifirfanmd@gmail.com

This is an email received from Mr. Areef. Found worthy of reading and hence shared.

 

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