FROWN

FROWN AND ME


FEAR, FRICTION AND FROWN
DESTROY
BRAIN, BEAUTY AND BRAWN

ANGER, ANXIETY AND WORRY
DESTROY
MEMORY


The negative emotions like getting angry and frowning on petty matters, daily routine, established social relationships which an individual cannot and ought not to break is very dangerous for health. This creates continuous mental friction and duality for matters that need to be handled with a cool mind, creates shortage of time by wasting it, non-acceptance of relationships that cannot be avoided. So, graceful mental acceptance of these situations and reality make a person more peaceful and energetic -physically and mentally.

ANXIETY can be called not living in present, handling more than one job at a time, expecting more than deserving from life and others, weakening the nervous system by evaluating the outcomes or consequences of the actions etc. Anxiety is more circumstantial, mental and physical reaction to the real world and its working. Nervous system needs to be improved. New real definitions need to be developed with which it can be overcome. Reel world is an interesting world but real world is boring one. We need to create interest in real world i.e. boring world. It is an art that needs to be learnt. Learn it and enjoy life.

We love to FROWN on many matters which can be handled with
a smile. Generally, frowns are made to scare or create fear psycho but the frowning person does not know it is backfiring in his/her sub-conscious mind and is going to cost him his/her mental health in the long run. Frowning becomes a habit when practiced for a long time and the practitioner becomes the victim.

Frown- the third negative emotion is the reaction of the person to petty happenings on daily basis. BFP and KFP are the two terms we may use for this.

Suppose, Simran is going on scooter and red light is there. Simran, being obedient to law, is stopping at the red-light and waiting for green light. And at the same time, Mr. Raju (not real name) comes on his bike and bumped it to the rear of her scooter. The rear light breaks. Now she is left with 2 options. Option 1: She gets down from the scooter, gets hold of the collar of Mr. Raju and slaps him for his this small negligence. This is BFP (bahut farak para i.e. his action has made a BIG difference to her.) This option will lead further mental arrogance, mental anguish, scuffle and even a police case. Option II: She looks back and Mr. Raju folds his hands and says “sorry, I am very sorry”. She smiles and pardons him. She goes her way and he goes his way. No arrogance, no malice, no mental anguish, no scuffle and no police case. This is the magic of forgiving and forgetting. This is KFP ( KOI FARAK NAHIN PARA – NO PROBLEM CREATED) by this small event. If we go on forgiving and forgetting such kind of small mistakes honestly, definitely and permanently we will move further in life and improve our mental health.


Negative emotions first damage the brain, that results in decaying beauty and ultimately the brawn i.e. the body – the train on which we have to travel the journey of life is destroyed.

Managing negative emotions with an attitude to be happy is the remedy. I hope you will practice this for the good and long life of your family and everybody connected or related with you. Smiling person creates an aura that attracts everyone. Frowning faces fume and fret the people around them. Choice lies with the person.

ONLY I CAN

RESPONSIBILITY OF LEARNING

NO BODY CAN TEACH YOU, ONLY YOU CAN LEARN. SHOULDER THE RESPONSIBILITY OF LEARNING AND YOU WILL ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF LIFE. SHIRKING AND SHRINKING DOES NOT PAY IN THIS MATTER. BLAMING THE WORLD AND THE PEOPLE IN GOVERNMENT, SOCIETY OR FAMILY WILL NOT PAY. IT IS AN INDIVIDUAL'S SELF-RESPONSIBILITY. RESOLVE AND ACT. LIFE WILL BE BETTER.

LONGIVITY

AGE AND BRAIN
A NEW STUDY ADVISES PARENTS! ENCOURAGE AND MOTIVATE YOUR KID TO LEARN 2 TO 3 LANGUAGES. MENTAL HEALTH OF THE KID WILL BE BETTER IN LATER YEARS OF LIFE. This is the observation of the researchers in Tel Aviv University. The study found that knowledge of multiple languages protects the kid’s brain against the ill effects of ageing in old age. Knolwedge of more than on language enables the reader to read more and enjoy more mentally. This process creates new links in the brain and strengthens the neurons useful for longevity of life and postpones the old age substantially. Aren't you lucky, if you know more than 2 languages and are interested in reading?

GUINESS WORLD RECORD-9

BEST SELLING NON-FICTION BOOK.

The world’s best selling and most distributed book is the Bible with an estimated 2.5 billion copies sold since 1815. It has been translated in 2233 languages and dialects. The Christian Bible as we know it today is in two parts the Old Testament, written between 50 and 150 AD. The latter and some of were originally written in Greek. The order of books as well as Jewish Version and that of Protestants and Roman Catholics, no original copies or autograph have been found ever.

GUINESS WORLD RECORD- 8

SHORTEST MAN

The shortest mature human of whom there is an independent evidence was Gul Mohammed of India. On July 19, 1990 he was examined at Ram Manohar Hospital in New Delhi, India and found to measure a height of 47 cm(22.5in)

GUINESS WORLD RECORD-7

OLDEST MAN EVER
The greatest age to which any man has ever lived is 120 years 237 days in the case of Shigechiygzumi (Japan) of Isen on Tokunoshima, an island 1,320 km (820 miles) south-west of Tokyo, Japan. He was born at Isen on 29 June 1865 and recorded as a 6-year-old in Japan’s first census in 1871. He died at 12:15 GMT on 21 February 1986 after developing pneumonia.

Centenarians serving beyond their 113th years extremely rare and the present absolute proven limit of human longevity does not yet admit of anyone living to celebrate their 123rd birthday.

GUINESS WORLD RECORD-6

HIGHEST DEATH TOLL FROM A TSUNAMI

On December 26, 2004 an earthquake with magnitude of 9 occurred under the Indian Ocean off the coast of Indonesia. The resulting Tsunami wave inundated the coastlines of nine different countries around the Indian Ocean. The total death toll may be never known but as on 20 January 2005 at least 2,26,000 people are known to have perished.

GUINESS WORLD RECORD-5

HIGHEST TRAIN STATION

Condov station on Rio Multas – Potasi line Bolvia, is the world’s highest at an altitude of 4786 m (15700 ft.)

GUINESS WORLD RECORDS-4

MOST UNDERGROUND STATION
The MTA New York City Transit has 458 stations in a network covering 370 km (230 miles). The railway first opened on October27, 1904 and serves an estimated 5.1 million passengers per day or 1.86 billion per year. In addition to 277 stations situated underground, 153 rest on stretches, 29 are builT on embankments and nine lie in “open cuts” (trench like depressions below street level)

GUINESS BOOK RECORD-3

SHORTEST NATIONAL RAILWAY

The shortest length of railway track is in Vatican City where a 862-m (2828 ft) space of track enters from Italy. It is used only for goodS and supplies. The Vatican City has a population of around 870. It is so small you could easily walk its borders in less than an hour.

GUINESS BOOK RECORD-2

MOST POPULOUS CITY
The largest and most populous urban agglomeration in the world is Tokyo, Japan with an estimated population of 26.4 millions in March 2000 according to the United Nations.

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LONGEST TIME RAILWAY TICKET BOUGHT IN ADVANCE


On Jan 19, 2000 Fakhruddin Takula (India) traveled from Mumbai (Bombay) to New Delhi using a ticket he had purchased on July 15, 1973, 26 years and 6 months earlier.

POWER OF SURRENDER

All the constituents of this world can be divided into two categories – Living and Non-Living. Of all the living creatures on Earth, only human beings are free to exercise the will in whatever they want to do. Man is free to do anything – good or bad, right or wrong, logical or illogical, useful or useless, constructive or destructive, creative or fixed and so on. But he does not have the right on the consequences or result of his actions. This makes a man think before he does any action. It is just like a student can only prepare and take the exam but cannot predict the result. The result is beyond his control and right. Good actions give good results and good results give better and happy life. The doer, his family, community, society, nation and world at large benefit from that individual’s good action. On the other hand, bad actions cause pains to the individual as well as the family and society at large. Better the action, better will be the result and life.

It is very difficult task to take the responsibility of all the actions, the Vedas suggest that man should give a self suggestion: “ O’God, I perform all the tasks of the materialistic world holding YOU as my witness. Hence whatever- good or bad I have done that is an offer unto YOU.” On the same lines, Lord Krishna in Srimad Bhagwat Geeta says, “ Whatsoever you do, whatsoever you eat, whatsoever you drink, do it as an offer unto ME.”

This small but bold surrender on the part of the doer, detaches the human being from the consequences of actions. This kind of feeling and total surrender enables the doer to work more, act more for building this world of ours.

As we attach with our actions, we are detached from God – the force uniting the souls of all living creatures. This detachment also leads to deterioration of our TOTAL SURRENDER. More the attachment with actions and their consequences, lesser will the surrender. Owing to this attachment, we indulge in actions which are not worthy of higher living. The five ghosts- lust, anger, attachment, greed and false pride - destroy good life of human beings. Many wrongs are done under the influence of these five ghosts. Men (all human beings) who have an attitude and feeling: "God whatever I am enjoying in this world is your gift" emjoy the life more than others.

Nothing in this world belongs to us. Whatever appears to be ours is due to our mental attachment and relationships created out of attachment. In some Bhagwat Geeta, I read:

Wanting objects, breeds attachment;
From attachment arises covetousness;
Covetousness leads to anger;
Anger destroys memory;
When memory is destroyed, choice is rendered
And man dooms.

No sooner our relationship is broken from the things and persons, we start treating them as aliens. For example, the death of a loved one forces us to detach ourselves from that person.

God, Soul and Nature are all pervasive, omniscient and omnipresent. These three entities were always in the world and will always remain so. The relationship with these three entities can never be artificial or fake only for projection. When we do not surrender our actions to God, much of our emotional and mental energy is blocked in calculating the consequence of our actions. On the other hand, if we surrender, we shall be progressing forward in life.

Loving God, we are able to detach ourselves from Lust, Anger, Attachment, Greed and false Pride. By just detaching ourselves from these five ghosts, we start feeling “I am a drop in the ocean called universe.” This humbleness leads to real happiness. This permanent real happiness is termed as Sadachitananda i.e. ever blissfulness. This all happens due to TOTAL SURRENDER. Surrender and enjoy true happiness.

TRIBUTE TO ISHMEET - A DAFFODIL

Ishmeet, little known to me before his rising as star of “VOICE OF INDIA”, was a daffodil for Ludhianvis, Punjabis and all Indians.Daffodil lives for short time but gives more fragrance and pleasure to the beholders. Wise prefer daffodils to old oaks. Old oaks too love daffodils. Deffodils are the energising force for old oaks. So was our dear Ishmeet for young and old.

The young generation burst into tears, cried and sobbed on hearing the news of the untimely death of this daffodil of “ Indian Music”. When the sad news broke, none – young or old – believed the media till it was confirmed by newspapers with complete details.

I, being a Ludhianvi and closely known to his chacha Dr. C.K. Singh attended antim ardas (the last prayer in Sikhism) on 3rd August, 2008. The sea of humanity flooded Guru Dwara Singh Sabha Ludhiana to pay last homage to the departed soul. Chief Minister Punjab, S. Parkash Singh Badal along with battery of Jathedars from different Takhats paid profuse tributes to the departed soul. Dr. C.K. Singh told me that when Ishmeet met Lata Mangeshkar – the greatest Indian Singer- for the first time, he missed a beat by this great honour at such a young age. Though I never met him yet we talked a lot about in our meetings of Club Francaise Litterair..

Kaka Ishmeet adorned “Rehat” of Sikhism. Guru Gobind Singh Study Circle had cast him into a complete true Sikh. Unshorn hair, sporting beautiful turban, white glasses and innocent teenaged looks all added grace to his personality. Simply looking at his face one could feel a soothing sensation within. Many times when I saw him on the screen, I wondered that this young man had no streak of anguish on his face and his mere appearance soothed me if I was in bad mood.His innocent looks elevate my spirits and encourage to go beyond my routine of life. The songs and recitation of Gurbani Salokas really touch the hearts of millions irrespective of caste,creed or nationality. The life and personality of Kaka Ishmeet is an inspiration and true “Role Model” for the Sikh young generation to sport unshorn hair and follow the true tenets of Sikhism. Ishmeet has immortalized himself with his songs. But the loss to the parents – especially a mom of 19yrs young son and sister is beyond words. I was moved when I read the banner hung outside the Gurudwara:

Zamana to bare shok se, sun raha tha,
Tum hi so gaye, dastan kahtey kahtey.

(The world was listening to you with great interest, but you slept forever before completing your songs/stories)

LETTER TO A BILLIONAIRE IN JAIL

LETTER TO A BILLIONAIRE IN JAIL

Honourable Sir,

You are brave, bold, brilliant visionary. This is my assessment. Success has many fathers but failure is an orphan. But, sir, I love you. I respect your vision.

You have built an institution of learning because that’s the true wealth of the nation and society. I respect you because you built that school where the children of the future will get education. Education is the best asset of a child. Lord Krishna has given four yogas in Srimad Bhagwat Geeta. First is Bhakti Yoga, next is Karma Yoga , then Raj Yoga and finally Jnan Yoga i.e. acquiring and practicing the knowledge and learning for the benefit of the nation and world at large. A drop of water says, "I am an ocean" while ocean says, "I am the collection of the drops." So an individual is the drop of an ocean called "universe". Man without learning and education is nothing but sheer animal.

Sir, I have also undergone tremendous troubles in life. But all these troubles taught me lessons. Prosperity gives friends and adversity tests them. This is my experience. Now life is clear and 2nd inning of life will be based on true assets not on frivolous expectations. Money as seen by common people of small vision is means of living not an end of living. Here is a small story with a moral.

Once a bankrupt multi-billionaire came to Mr. Norman Vincent Peale - the world famous positive thinker and sat on the chair with his head drooped. Mr. Vincent in his book, “ The Power of Positive Thinking” states and asked that billionaire,” what is the problem? Why have you sunk into this chair?” The bankrupt billionaire told him, “ I have lost everything and am bankrupt.” Mr. Vincent asked him, “Were you billionaire when you were born?” “No! not at all. Every thing I earned in my life,” he replied turning his hands towards the sky, shrinking his shoulders and raising his eye brows. “Then what have you lost. What you had at the time of birth, you have more than that now. Why do you worry and brood over the loss?” “How sir?” with great surprise and humility the bankrupt billionaire enquired.

“Do you have wife?” asks Vincent “Yes sir,” answered the bankrupt.
“Is she loyal to you?” adds Vincent “Yes sir 100% sir.”
“Don’t you have more than what you had at the time of birth?” “Yes right sir.”
“Then why do you worry and bother about loss? Look at the brighter side of life and you will be happy.”
The billionaire felt relieved and smiled. Relaxed mind was there. In the second attempt, using his experiences, he again became the billionaire and left a legacy of billions for his coming generations. Most of the people do not enjoy what they have. They always grumble what they don't have. They go on amassing what is not needed and ignore what is needed sir.

So, sir, you have your knowledge your experiences and you are positive in your attitude.

I salute you and your spirit to work for this world in 2nd inning of life.

With warm regards

Truly yours,

Keshap

मेरी बौद्ध यात्रा

ज्ञान जीवन है, अज्ञानता अभिशाप !

मैं लगातार ज्ञान प्राप्त कर सफल होने का उदाहरण हूं,
जहां मैं कल कमजोर था, वहां मैं आज समक्ष हूं,
जहां मैं संदेह से घिरा था, वहां मैं आज सुनिश्चित हूं
आओ दोस्तों ! यही समय है ! मेरे अनुभवों से सीखने का।

v शिक्षा का अर्थ मात्र नौकरी पाना या धन कमाना ही है, बल्कि सम्पूर्ण व्यक्तित्व का विकास करना है।
v शिक्षा द्वारा चरित्र का निर्माण होता है, मस्तिष्क की शक्ति बढ़ती है, बुद्धि का विकास होता है और मनुष्य अपने पैरों पर खड़ा हो सकता है।
: स्वामी विवेका नंद जी
v धन वह इक्कठा करो जो तुम्हारी रक्षा करे ।
न कि वह जिस की रक्षा तुम्हें करनी पड़ ।

7 Stages of Life- My View

For easy understanding of life, the 7 stages are in general are experienced by a human being : Spills, Drills, Skills, Thrills, Ills, Bills, Wills

Stage 1:

Spills: Child comes into the world and world is a school of learning. Child learns out of curiosity. As the child grows, the curiosity like child goes on declining. Child learns many tricks and tips of life by spilling e.g. spilling the water, milk or messing up with other things of the existing world. He tries, fails and does the wrongly and elders teach him how to do that thing in a proper way. Everything right from toilet management to eating food and drinking milk is taught by the society.

Stage II: Drills: Next comes the more difficult, regorous and regular drills fit for living a good life. Mentally, child resists but when imposed harshly by parents, family and society he reluctantly goes on doing those drills. Parents, family and society believes in the dictum " Practice makes a man perfect." On the basis of this dictum everychild is sent to the school. School drills and inducts the good qualities like discipline, regularity, social living, team spirit, leading and following etc. This stage is also performed by informal learning if the child fails to attend the school. Informal learning is generally wider and provided by the religious institutions. In India , there are family gods, village gods and then religious places like temples, Gurudwara, Mosques and Churches where children get basic learning of life.

Path Ways to Knowledge

Brain is the engine of the train called body. Brain is said to have about 15000 million brain cells called neurons. Neorons may be called store houses of information received by a child. On birth, the child has about 3750 million stores houses and receives the information from the environment. The information is received through eyes, ears, touch, taste and smell. Generally, the elders think and believe the child is young to undertstand their activities. But it is not so. Passively, the child goes recording the informtion in its sub-conscious mind. At the age of abou 18 months the brain cells double to 7500 million and by the age of 6 they go upto 90% of the total i.e. 13500 million. The information receieved and gathered during the first 6 years conciously or unconsciously largely determines the beliefs and basic personality traits like faith in the world - good or bad, just or unjust, worthy of living or leaving, crime free or full of criminals, fit for builders of the world or breakers and many more. This all affects his behaviour in later years of his/her life. That is why wisemen say, "Give the child for the first 6 - 7years and we can make him angel or devil as we wish." Here the basic learning matters a lot. Orientation of mind needs direction at this level. Affection and basic faith in family system of which the mother is most important plays a vital role in establishing child's faith in the established real world.
If the mother loves the child, the child will develop healthy concept of the world and would love to make it and ideal world. On the other hand, neglect and ignorance on the part of the mother and other family members and community develops wrong definitions relating to various relationships in the established world. The child finds himself/herself more confused than clear about existence in this world.
By the age of 18 the brain is developed fully.
This may be more illustrated. We may take brain as a field comprising of 15000 million acres of land. At the time of birth, the child has 3750 million acres of land to be cultivated. This much cultivation is done by the environment in which he is born. His information receiving power is greater than the knowledge imparted to him. By the age of 18 month, this land increases to 7500 million for which the information lacks. Now at 6 the the land i.e. brain cells increase to 90% i.e. 13500 million acreas but where is the new knowledge and new information? In case all the land is not cultivated, what happens. It goes barren. Similarly, our mind which is mostly dependent upon brain as a hardware, goes barren. We have the capability to know more, work more understand more, create more, innovate more but the environment in which we live does not have enough to cultivate. By the age of 18 years, we are fully developed i.e. 15000 million acres of land is ready for cultivation. The family, community and society in which we live imposes so many hurdles and constraints that even 1% of the brain is not used throughout life. It all goes astray.

Basic Personality

The child is born in a family and inherits many traits from his parents and lineage. Biology throughout world is same. Male and females are born and inhabit this world. Neuter gender is also the reality. One Earth and one humanity. We should be mentally world citizens rather than the citizens of a country. It is the socio-cultural factors that differ from place to place. Language and rules of the family, community, locality and nationality make a large difference in a child's personality. For the develoment of child nurturing is plays a greater role than nature. Nurturung is provided by law.As the world is developing and reducing itself into a world village, physical superiority is losing its sheen and intellectual superiority is becoming the reality day by day.

My name is Prof. Keshap. I am an Associate Professor to MBA/PGPM for Personality Development, Communication and Business Communication Skills.I am the trainer, motivator and mentor of Mrs. India and over 1000 students settled in different countries.I am turning ordinary minds into extra ordinary ones since 1998. I respect law. Without law the life in the society is nothing but a wild living where the rule of the "might is right" applies. But law wants us to behave like human beings and not like animals. Human beings respect human beings, protect earth,environment and everything mother NATURE has given.How the law operates. Supposing we - say Jack and Jill (from our old childhood poems)- are two people living in an area where there is no civilization, no development, no community.Obviously, no rules, no law too. We two start living there. Wedo what we like. Eat, drink, sing, cry, quarrel and make merry.But after some time, we get fed up from this unbridled freedom of action. We both sit together and make some rules. I (Jack)request Jill, "please don't sing while I am sleeping." Jill stubbornly says, "why". I convince him that this creates nuisance for me. I assure him saying, "Jill I will not make noise when you sleep. You will enjoy the sleep well and after the sleep you will feel mentally and physically recharged." Jill agrees. This is the first law of our life. As civilizations developed, population increased and laws also became complicated for the purpose of real life enjoyment. Family rules, communityrules, social rules, local laws, state laws, national laws and international law came into existence to govern our lives and make our living better. Law has two ingredients: One is thespirit of law known to the makers of law and interpreters of lawand another is the spirit of law known to the operatingmechanism of law. So, law is a set of rules, governing individuals and their lives, states and countries equally. All these laws prevail in the society so that an individual may live peacefully and peaceably so that he and his neighbor may enjoy full living.
Now you know law is the mechanism that provides safe and sound environment so that good ethical marketing and economic forces may flourish and individuals may develop to the fullest extent of their intellectual potential. There is only one superiority in the world and that is the "superiority of the intellect". Not only this law also protects humanity at large and Nature in its entirety for all the generations to come.Good ethical marketing and economics is largely responsible for the welfare and development of human beings and protection of Earth, environment and everything relating to mother NATURE. I hope the concept of law is clear and you agree.For a human being, it is very important to express his feelings,emotions and sentiments for fullest development of mind.Suppression of free and frank feelings, emotions and sentiments by the human beings as is prevalent in closed societies cause very dangerous mental blocks. Human beings wreathe under this mental suppression.Google the search engine is bringing the human beings of different cultures of the world closer mentally. Thereby,reducing the mental sickness among the human beings. Is there any other mechanism that can do this Herculean Task?

Knowledge of rules and law gives wings to our basic personality.



More I will write in my next post.