INTUTION

A friend of mine has disclosed to me that Mrs. X is reporting the activities of her daughter to us continuously. It appears that she is mentally prepared to marry her daughter off to my son who is in XII class. Her daughter has scored 89% marks in Xth class. My son and her daughter are tall ennough make a best match. Only caste is the problem. This I am posting to see if this intution and apprehension come true in the near future or not.

POWER OF TRUTH

PATH OF RELIGION
Truth generates and creates sunshine in the life of an individual. It provides a ladder to human life to reach its zenith. It also protects the self-respect and self-image of the truth seeker and practitioner. Moral strength increases with the practice of truth. Falsehood has a short life.

One more fact about truth. The practioner of truth is always fearless. His mind is never cluttered with clumsy and wavering thoughts. Designing of evil projects and weaving cobwebs of thoughts is alian to truth practioner. Truth results in ever-lasting peace and prosperity as energy is not wated on falsehood.

Humans of truth have been able to achieve unthinkable successes and achievements in the history of human evolution. Truth and surrender are the two pillars upon which great successes have been achieved. The happiness which comes from the actions based on truth cannot be described in words. It can only be felt by the peerson who practises truth.

Human dignity is standing on the pedastal of truth. Falsehood leads to fall in real life.
Falsehood is the biggest enemy of an individual. Falsehood is short lived and does not help even the practitioner. Public criticism and loss of reputation are the two most notorious results of falsehood. Falsehood leads an individual to personal and social decline. One should avoid falsehood at any cost in life. Life is a great gift of Nature. Respect it. Love it. Protect it.
Celebrate it. Lead it in a pious way.

Contrary to this, truth is the invaluable asset of human life. Truth brings welfare to all in the society.

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THE ART OF UNITY

GETTING RIGHT

MAINTAINING A haromonius joing family requires leadership, manaement and communication. Ettiquette exper ^Archie Sehgal tells us how to make it work.

LEADERSHIP SKILLS

BE SELFLESS:

The first step is to surrender the concept of "self". Make an effort to think about others first.

TOELRATING
A joint family arrangement will test you. Annoying habits and conflicting personalities must be tolerated with patience and a positive attitude. Talking it out with the person concerned can build up the foundation for alasting relationship.

THE BENEFIT OF DOUBT:

If a family member misbehaves in a fit of anger, you should suggest reasons justifying

their actions. Your family members will admire your diplomacy.

SACRIFICE

Find the courage to sacrifice something you may want in the interest of another family member.

Although, do politely mention the sacrifice made. And, your selfless act won't be in vain.

The benefactor will appreciate it and most likely wait for an occasion to recipocate.

SHARING

Share everything with your family. From clothes, jewellery and books to your experiences, worries and problems. Sharing yourself will help your family to better understand you.

GIVE DUE CREDIT

Family members must be appreciated for their efforts. But at the same time, applaud all members, even those who haven't performed. This encouragement will instigate effort.

TAKE IT IN STRIDE

Your patience will be tested and there will be events and behaviour you won't approve of. The moment something undesirable takes place, have the power to tell yourself. "So what?"

EXPRESS YOUR GRIEVANCES

Don't keep your feelings bottled up. Also, avoid complaining about the problem to another family member. Approach the person directly and openly express whatev er is bothering using polite, befitting respectable words and body language. No trading of blames. This will help your overcome the problem and move on. This will forge unity and maintain peace in the family.

IN HARMONY

* Always project your family as one unit.

* While partaking in conversations in public, use 'we' 'our' and 'us'.

* If your achievements make your stand out from the rest of the family, be humble and always share the credit with your family whether it's for their help, cooperation, inspiration or moral support.

* Introduce your family to your friends and colleagues.

TIME MANAGEMENT

If you have hectic schedule, make time for home by involving family members in your morning routine. Have your morning tea, read the newspaper or have your breakfast in the company of other family members. You can also work on the laptop in their company. This enables you to make up on lost time. And, when you reach home, devote the first half an hour to your family. This is also the perfect opportunity to share your experiences of the day. Exercising or going for walks together is another good option. Faith, family and friends matter in life to make life 'heaven'. Remmeber it.

PEACEFUL LIVING

*Greet your elders in the morning.

* Instead of informing, the youngsters should seek permission from their elders. Try to use statements like "May I go?' instead of "I am going. "

*Express your love and afection. This will put others around you in a good mood.

* Create a common sense of belonging among all children of the joint family, irrespective of who belongs to whom . I mean cousins should be treated like siblings.

TAKING A STAND

Every family member is unique so don't be afraid to be yourself. Let your personality shine through. Have the courage to stand up for yourself and don't let other family members take you for granted.

ASSERT YOUR VIEWS

* Initiate dialogue to express your grievances.

* Do not resort to drama in an attempt to alleviate problems - that will only make them worse.

* Have one-on-one cpmversations with the senior members of the family about the problems you are facing. Brainstorm ways to solve them together.

*Perform your duties diligently and politely mention the same if your're ever confronted.

*When a hectic work schedule is approachable, mention it well in advance so everyone can mentally prepare themselves for your absence.

* If unwell, inform the family so they know why you're keeping to yourself.

GEN ERATION CLASH

Pleasing both the older and younger generations can prove to be a challenge. The elders, often overprotective, claim to have the life experience, and the your desire to be more carefree. Find a balance.

GRANDPARENTS' GUIDE TO HAPPINESS

*Do not nag your teenage grandchild over trivial issues, instead discuss the issue as if they are an adult.

* Do not repprimand your grandchild in front of other family members.

* Never draw comparisons between your grandchildren and do not compare them with their parents.

* The more positive you are with your grandchildren, the more positive they will be. Praising them will motivate them to live up to the wonderful image you have of them.

*Surprise your grandchild with one of the latest CDs or DVDs. This will make them feel that you can relate to their age.

* No matter how difficult your teenager may be, just remember that he/she is the same beaultiful child who grew up in your arms.

* Work on develping a friendship with your grandchildren. This will encourage them to spend more time with you.

*Once you have bonded with the younger generation, getting them to listen won't be as much of challenge.

THE TEEN WAY

* Spend quality time with your grand parents and discuss their concerns over your schedule or lifestyle.

*All your life you have been the benefciary of the joint family, now it's your responsibility to follow the norms of the family.

* You should abserve the restrictions to food and other activities while at bome due to religious reasons. This pays in long run during later years of life.

* When you are desparate for permission, talk to your grandparents about it in confidence.

*Introduce your group of friends to your grandparents. it will help you get permission for future outings with them.

*Your grand parents have years of life experience on their side, so discussing your problems with them can be helpful.

^The writer runs a placement institute that provides courses in finishing grooming and corporate training with focus on impression management, etiquette and life skills.

SOURCE: THE HINDUSTAN TIMES, Sunday, 16th May, 2010l.

RELIEF FOR LANDLORDS

HIGH COURT RELIEF FOR LAND LORDS
Landlords can get house vacated in 6 months.
By SAURABH MALIK
TRIBUNE NEWS SERVICE
CHANDIGARH, May 11

In six months, you may be able to your premises vacated from your tenant on the ground of personal necessity. Decade old cases will be decided in three months.

For, the Punjab and Haryana High Court today issued a slew of directions for cutting down the delay in the disposal of cases. Justice SD Anand ruled: Every petition based upon an averment of personal necessity or a petition filed by a specified landlord would be disposed of within six months of the filing thereof. For expeditious disposal, the judicial courts shall have to accord noticeable and compulsive priority to those cases.

"More than 10-year old cases shall be positively wiped out within 3 months from the cut - off date that is May 14. For that expeditious disposal, the courts would be entitled to prepone the date of hearing after notifying the parties opposite."

"Over five year -old cases shall be completely annihilated upon within six months from the cut off date that is May 14. It will be the administrative responsibility of the district judge to monitor the progress of this type of cases, wherever those are pending, by resorting to whatever methology they may like to adopt in their own discretion. Quality of supervision would be a part of their administrative acumen, which they are expected to display."

For monitoring the progress, Justice Anand ordered Punjab Registrar(Vigilance) would be the nodal officer for the entire state of Punjab and also the Union Territory. Similarly, Haryana Registrar (Vigilance) would be the nodal officer for the entire state of Haryana.

The nodal officers shall be entitled to oversee the progress of these cases on the administrative side and furnish a report in the relevant behalf by the seventh of every month. Their responsibility in this behalf would be an exercise in continuity till further orders of the court on the judicial side. "

Justice Anand added," The current are trying and prying times for our instituion, which is the constitutionally announced sentinel of justice.The former expression has been used to signify that our institution has to redeem itself by annihilating the old pendency particularly in a scenario where certain quarters are even endeavouring a resort to RTI for finding out the causes of delay.

"We have to evolve our own in-system mechanism to take care of the malaise of large pendency. It can also be done by prioritising the pendency."

SOURCE: THE TRIBUNE May 12, 2010.

CHEQUE BOUNCING GUIDELINES

SC GUIDELINES

TO

SETTLE CHEQUE-BOUNCE CASES

The Supreme Court of India has issued guidelines for encouraging quick settlement of cheque bounce cases, stipulating graded penality ranging from 0-20 per cent of cheque amount, depending upon delay.

If the accused made an application compounding the offences at the first or the second hearing of the case, the trial court would allow it without imposing any costs, a three-member Bench headed by Chief Justice KG Balakrishanan ruled.

The magistrate concerend would impose a penality of 10 per cent on any request made after the second hearing. Similarly, if the application for compounding is made before a sessions court or a High Court in revision or appeal, the accused would have to pay 15 per cent of the cheque amount by way of costs.

At the Supreme Court level the penality would be 20 per cent, the Bench, which included Justice P.Sathasivam and JM Panchal, said. The guidelines issued in view of a legal vacuum on the subject were also aimed at facilitating quick disposal of 30 lakh cheque-dishonour cases pending in various courts.

Source: The Tribune May 6, 2010.

GREEN THOUGHTS

IM Soni brings out the joys of maintaining a kitchen garden in the middle. "Green fingers" (April 30) Man's longing for seeing tiny seed sprouting into beautiful plants is understandable as both have roots in the mother earth.

We can find joy in plants and trees, if we are bored by the rush of bustiling crowds on our streets.

There is a myriad variety of plants, flowers, trees and birds around us which we fail to notice. In the daily rush of our lives, we forget to appreciate nature's bounty. If we sit for a while and clear the cobwebs blurring the memories of our childhood, we can definitely remember climbing up a gauva tree or stealing mangos while the gardener was away.

In the face of catching up with life, the real wonder of life like trees, flowers, birds, dandelions and beetles are left behind. If we stop and look at a tree, we will wonder why we are in such hurry! We can learn a lot from trees- the virtue of patiences, giving fruits and shade to one and all without discrimination.

BHUSHAN CHANDER JINDAL, JALANDHAR

A LETTER TO THE TRIBUNE May, 6, 2010

INVASION OF PRIVACY

NO LIE DETECTOR TESTS SAYS
SUPREME COURT OF INDIA

'NARCO, POLYGRAPH & BRAIN MAPPING INVADE PRIVACY"

The Supreme Court of India is of the view. " No individual can be forced and subjected to such techniques involuntarily, and by doing so it amounts to unwarranted intrusion of personal liberty. "

Source: The Tribune May 6, 2010.

EDUCATION LOAN

EDUCATION FOR ALL. THE ELIGIBILE (6 -14 YEARS OF AGE) CHILDREN CAN NOW SEEK EDUCATION FREE OF ANY FEE UNDER RIGHT TO EDUCATION ENACTED BY GOVT. OF INDIA. EDUCATION IS LIGHT. ILLITERACY IS DARKNESS.

Government of Indian in consultation with Reserve Bank of India (RBI) and Indian Banker's Association (IBA) has framed a Comprehensive Loan Scheme to ensure that no deserving student is deprived of higher education for want of finances. The new scheme covers all types of courses in India or abroad including professional courses in schools and colleges.

The salient features of the scheme are :
1. The scheme envisages loans upto Rs. 7.50 lacs for studies in India and upto Rs. 15.00 lacs abroad.
2. For loans upto Rs. 4.00 lacs no margins or collatoral is required and the interest rate is not to exceed the Prime Lending Rate(PLR). For loans above Rs. 4.00 lacs the interest rate will not exceed PLR plus 1 per cent.
3. Loans are to be repaid in a period of 5 to 7 years with a grace period of one year from the date of completion.
TAX BENEFIT:
Loan Repayment up to Rs. 40000/- is deductible under section 80E of Income Tax Act for a period of 8 years. This deduction is available for the full time professional or other courses.
Reserve Bank of India has instructed all commercial banks to sanction theses loans.\

So, now education is easier to pursue.

In another milestone in the history of India, Unique Identity Card is being introduced. The project is likely to be completed by the end of this year 2010. This unique card will be enough to avail the various welfare schemes of the government. This card has been renamed as "Aadhar" meaning foundation.

In another unique feat by human soul, television is showing a person practising "hath yoga". The 82 years old man has not taken any food or drunk any water for the past over 65 years. 35 renowned doctors have put the man under observation from 22nd April, 2010 to 7th May, 2010 to find out how he has managed to live for so many years without food and water. The doctors from NASA and other countries have come to Hyderabad to observe the old man. The observing doctors conducted a Press Conference and declared that his brain analysis (MRI) has revealed that his brain is as good as that of 25 years' boy. "This is miracle," they say.
The man is calm, quiet, happy and has faith in infinite power of soul. This is "hatth yoga". This proves that man is not body but soul. He says that he gets the power to live from one drop of nectar that drops from his "pituatary gland." Television channels are regularly showing him as agile and awake under observation.

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The MOTIVATION #8

The meaning of man’s life
Matches the marvels of
Man’s labor.



The value of work and its contribution to achievement
Has long been recognized by philosophers, teachers,
Poets, writers, and business people; they all have endorsed,
“Nothing does as much good for a man,
As a hard day’s work.”

Henry Ford II said;
“The first specific qualification for success
In my view is a strong work ethic.”

Paul J.Meyer says:
“Work is PURE JOY!
…work refines character,
….Work weeds-out the garden of the mind,
…..Work overcomes adversity and defeat.
…..Work is the breath of life.
…..Work is the reward for being alive.”

The reality remains
Work is life, and good work is good life.

Hence,
Learn to enjoy your work; work long and hard,
And give your job extra burst and energy,
If you do it that way; you’ll stand a
Much better chance of reaching your goal.

The MOTIVATIONS #7

You will not do
Incredible things
Without
An incredible dream.



Dreams are untapped possibilities
within us waiting to be born.

They are the beauty of the human mind,
To do anything that we want to do.
They are the strength of the human will,
To trust our-self to test out limits,
They are the courage to succeed,
They are the material out of which
We can build our future.

If you want to live a life of greatness,
Don’t let of your dreams or think of them as too outlandish,
Or merely as fantasies; instead honor them; as messages
From the deepest past of your being. Spend some quality
Time with them. They are real to the extent that you value them,
Commit to them, learn the skills you lack and act upon them.

Always remind yourself
“Life rewards those who aren’t afraid to step out in the
directions of their dreams.”

So, be that person today and everyday from now on,
Who claims the dream he has for himself, and believes himself
Of being capable of achieving whatever
He want in his life.

The MOTIVATION #6

Positive anything is better
Than negative nothing


Positive thinking is an amazing tool which can enable
Anyone to achieve a more fulfilling and successful life.
Through harnessing the power of positive thinking
Your mind is tuned in to expect success.
And virtually, it will make you feel sure of it so that
You know deep down you WILL succeed
In whatever you are doing. In fact, all human wisdom
Is summed up in two words – wait and hope.



A POSITIVE ATTITUDE IS THE FIRST PRINCIPLE,
BY WHICH YOU MAY BENEFIT BY THE MAGIC POWER OF BELIEVING.

Thomas A.Edison BELIEVED that he could perfect the incandescent
Electric lamp despite the fact, that he failed more than
Ten thousand times before, he made his belief come true.

Marconi BELIEVED that the ether could be made to carry the vibrations of sound without the use of wires and he carried on through many failures until he was rewarded by victory.

Columbus BELIEVED that he would find land in an uncharted ocean and he sailed on and on, despite the threatened mutiny of his sailors, until he found land.

Henry Ford BELIEVED that he could build a horseless buggy that would provide low cost rapid transportation, and, despite the skepticism of many people;

Positive thinkers are the forerunners of civilization, the builders of industries, the creators of Empires, the revealers of the bountiful benefits made available to us by the Creator (God) of all things.

The MOTIVATION #6

Positive anything is better
Than negative nothing


Positive thinking is an amazing tool which can enable
Anyone to achieve a more fulfilling and successful life.
Through harnessing the power of positive thinking
Your mind is tuned in to expect success.
And virtually, it will make you feel sure of it so that
You know deep down you WILL succeed
In whatever you are doing. In fact, all human wisdom
Is summed up in two words – wait and hope.



A POSITIVE ATTITUDE IS THE FIRST PRINCIPLE,
BY WHICH YOU MAY BENEFIT BY THE MAGIC POWER OF BELIEVING.

Thomas A.Edison BELIEVED that he could perfect the incandescent
Electric lamp despite the fact, that he failed more than
Ten thousand times before, he made his belief come true.

Marconi BELIEVED that the ether could be made to carry the vibrations of sound without the use of wires and he carried on through many failures until he was rewarded by victory.

Columbus BELIEVED that he would find land in an uncharted ocean and he sailed on and on, despite the threatened mutiny of his sailors, until he found land.

Henry Ford BELIEVED that he could build a horseless buggy that would provide low cost rapid transportation, and, despite the skepticism of many people;

Positive thinkers are the forerunners of civilization, the builders of industries, the creators of Empires, the revealers of the bountiful benefits made available to us by the Creator (God) of all things.

The MOTIVATIONS #5

It is the nature of man
To rise to greatness
If greatness is expected of him


When you expect greatness from someone,
You set that stage for them to be great,
You stretch their thinking,
You help them raise the bar on
What they see as possible for themselves,
You force them to realize that playing small is not acceptable,
And they usually rise to the occasion,

George S.Patton said,
Don’t tell people how to do things; tell them what to do
And let them surprise you with the results.

Start to EXPECT

- Share your thinking with your team,
BE SPECIFIC
What would greatness look like from your team?

The MOTIVATION #4

No one is so good
That he has no bad in him, and
No one is so bad that
He has no good in him


We human beings are a complex lot,
Many religious writings and great literary works are based upon
The constant struggle between good and evil
That goes on inside every one of us.
This struggle is as old as mankind itself.
Yet, while we recognize our own inner struggles,
We are often quick to condemn others.

Psychologists tell us that
There is no such thing as bad person;
There are only bad behaviours.
Make it a point to look for the good in yourself and in others.
Nurture the good character trait and work on the ones
That may need improvement.

Like plants in a garden, the character traits that grows
Strong and productive will be those that are fed,
Watered, and weeded regularly.


Source: PAPERPASSION

The MOTIVATION #3

Our business in life
Is not to succeed
But to continue to fail
In good spirits.


It is a psychological fact, that
we cherish most what have worked hardest to gain.
Still, the trials, disappointments and defeats
Are inevitable part; even of the most victorious lives,
We are human beings; we are limited,
You have limits, I have limits,
We are fallible. That’s reality.
But, there is a big difference
Between failing and being a failure.
One is a learning, and an opportunity to grow.
The other is an end point.

Failing is not a disgrace if you have sincerely done your best,
Don’t let not achieving your desired outcome derail you,
Endure every trial in the right spirit, consider it,
As you’ve found a way that doesn’t work,
When a man bears with composure

One heavy mischance after another, the soul shines out
Not because he does not feel them, but because
He is a man of high and heroic temper.

The MOTIVATION #2

The mind grows only
Through use,
And it atrophies*
Through idleness.

Just as the physical body becomes strong
Through regular exercise,
So does the mind require regular use
To remain strong.

Make sure that your personal development plan
Includes plenty of mental stimulation,
One of the best ways to develop your imagination
And visualization skills is through reading.
As you read, your mind translates the words into images
That help you better understand the concepts
About which you are reading.

Be a voracious reader,
Read newspapers, trade magazines,
Self-help books, and novels,
All will contribute to your store of knowledge,
And to your ability to visualize
And more effectively use your imagination.

The MOTIVATION #1

To be a great person,
Walk hand-in-hand and side-by-side
With people who are great.

It is said
“You are the average of the five people
You spend the most time with.”
Take a few minutes, check and really think about the five people;
Who are you spending your time with? And make a list,
From one to five and write them down.

Name of Person #1_____________________________
Name of Person #2_____________________________
Name of Person #3_____________________________
Name of Person #4_____________________________
Name of Person #5_____________________________

OK, Now, next to each person make an arrow,
UP IF THEY inspire you and make you a better person,
DOWN if they bring you down.

This exercise is frighteningly simple.
We all want to be with people who bring us up. Not down.

The question for you is:

Do you need to alter your Top Five?

If yes, then choose wisely, don’t fool around with those
who have messed-up their lives; instead spend time with positive,
ambitious people who have plans for their lives.