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गुरुवार, 4 अक्टूबर 2012

Unwraping Minds


From the desk of a psychologist!

What to knit your life with?

September 28, 2012
Have you ever felt drained sitting next to a person while some just refreshes you?
Life is simple ; each individual is unique, no two can be the same . A logical question should be “Why are we called social animals then?”
It’s the connections we have with individuals at various levels. We humans have social needs which are fulfilled by these connections. But the million dollar question is could you fill all these places with any random person? To answer this  I have to ask you one thing, could you put any piece to a puzzle and make a sane picture?
There is a  click with some people and it has nothing to do with how similar you are . You connect  with someone and find that person fulfilling a certain social need of yours making you more contended and happy but that doesn’t mean he/she is the only one for all your needs. This person is just a part of a whole huge picture which is made of many such connections. You connect with someone as a friend, someone else on an intellectual level while someone looks after the call of your heart and so on. 
But there is also a major unsaid pressure from the society on us to form these connections. It is not necessary that at the beginning of our journey we would find the exact piece to fit in the puzzle of our life but when we see or assume these pieces fitting in other people’s life we force to fake these bonds. Our hunger for social satisfaction also forces us to make hurried decisions. We make friends with whom we aren’t comfortable, we become close to people with whom we have few/no things to celebrate about.
This pressure is on both introverts & extroverts. As an introvert, you are pushed to be with people, even if it drains you and you aren’t comfortable with them. You are refused to wait for beautiful connections to happen which makes you enjoy your solitude more and more. While an extrovert, due to his compulsion to be around people, finds lots of them but end up feeling still lonely most of the time.
This in place of making us more contended, takes away the zeal out of our life. The human threads which are supposed to support us actually burdens us. We forget our individuality and instead of growing start carrying baggages. Sometimes we find the bonds which make us stronger but lose them with time and in search of the same kind of support find people who are not our match.
If we are in such a kind of relationship, are we doing justice to it and the other person/s involved in it. I am sure he/she is tolerating us the same way, we are tolerating them in our lives. This whole arrangement is unhealthy. The beauty of relationships and human connection is lost. Wake up before it’s too late and you become responsible for either hurting someone or ruining your experience as a result. Wait for the right piece for your puzzle and trust me it is worth waiting!
Enjoy your solitude and grab opportunities to connect with people with similar thought processes or for that matter someone with whom you can just have FUN! Never rush yourself, everything has a time. When we are waiting we feel that it is never going to end, this makes us impatient resulting in bad choices. But, that doesn’t mean that when something/ somebody does make sense, you still wait for the perfect one ( we all know no one/ nothing is  perfect). 
Life is all about trials & errors. Start living and exploring new human connections, even if it is not going to be your life altering relationship, it sure will teach you some new things.
“We are all so much together, but we are all dying of loneliness.”
― Albert Schweitzer
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शुक्रवार, 28 सितंबर 2012

Happiness

If I improve myself,

India, my country

and the world

will improve.
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Fear and its impact

All people have fears

but the brave

ones put down

fears and move/go forward,

sometimes to death

but

always to victory.




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गुरुवार, 27 सितंबर 2012

Be a friend!


 Best letter published in The Tribune of 26th September, 2012

WITH the increasing burden on children, the question that arises is :

 Is your child capable of coping up with stress? 

Today’s generation has many stresses to cope up with. 

It not only includes constant petering by parents to excel in academics,

 but also peer pressure, social pressure, enhancing development skills, etc.

The best way to find a solution to your child’s problems is to be your child’s best friend.

 Don’t rest the pressure of your dreams on his or her shoulders.

 Let the child choose his own way, be a constant guide and companion

 so that in case he falters you can put him on the right track. 

The seeds that you sow shall definitely blossom. 

The growing number of suicide cases is a testimony to the fact that teenagers often stumble,
but

 because there was no one to support them they became a victim of undue societal pressure.



Source: Letter of Neha Maheshwari, Patiala published in The Tribune of 26th September, 2012.

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Love


There is no charm

 equal to 

tenderness of heart.
-         Jane Austen.
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बुधवार, 29 अगस्त 2012

Human Values

Right Conduct
Love
Peace
Non-violence

make a human being universal. 
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WINNING STRATEGY

Laugh
Resist
Understand and
Accept Hurdles
Cross them.

are the phases of implementing something big
and our inner strength unaffected by outer world
makes us real winners.
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Future

Tomorrow is always bright and good.

Don't wait but work.

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66th Independence Day


31 States
1618 Language
18 as per Constitution.
6400 castes
6 Major Religions and Ethnic Groups
29 Major festivals and 1 country INDIA/BHARAT.

Happy Independence Day 15th August, 2012. 
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Strength of Character.

Inner strength is the ability of tolerance with humility
to its greatest extent without being humiliated and self-pity.
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Vision

In life you need a one person
to convince that your vision is right.

Once that person is found,
success is bound to come. 
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_Prayer

One day I asked God,
Why do you snatch everything I like or ask?
God smiled and told
Your way (Andaz) of asking is really liked.

I have lot of time to listen to your prayer what you ask
Do have time to pray and ask  
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Life

Life is too short for those who have many big plans to accomplish before they die and leave a legacy for next generation.

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True Happiness

True Happiness comes when a person achieves the following 3

IQ= Hard Skills
EQ=Emotional Quotient or Intelligence.
SQ=Social Quotient or the intelligence how to live in the society i.e. love, empathy, compassion, non-violence.

Nobody cares how much you know i.e. IQ until he knows how much you care i.e. EQ. Next comes our own duty to repay the society what we have i.e. to share with all wisdom and possessions. Mental possessions and expectation poison the life.

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शनिवार, 28 जुलाई 2012

Cilitius, Altius, Fortius

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Olympics 2012 London

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रविवार, 22 जुलाई 2012

13th President

CONGRATULATIONS SHRI MUKHERJEE ON YOUR ELECTION AS 13TH PRESIDENT OF INDIA.
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सोमवार, 2 जुलाई 2012

Suspicion

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रविवार, 10 जून 2012

Strength

It does not require much strength 


to Do Things. 


But it requires a great strength to decide 


“WHAT TO DO”   
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Learning


Two things to learn from a child:


1)      To be happy for no reason
2)      To be always busy doing something.



Never lose the child inside you. 
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Desire


Always ask God to give 

what you Deserve 


and not what you desire. 

It’s because your desires may be few, 

but trust me you Deserve  a Lot.
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Success

Your success is determined 


by what 


you are ready to sacrifice for it
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Effort


sIVIAwN  aUnky iley bnI hueI hYN ijnhy Cq pr jwnw hY
AwsmwN pr ho ijnkI njr, aunhy rwsqw KUd bnwnw hY[

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Honesty

Honesty is a very expensive gift……..


so  do not expect it


 from everybody, 


bcoz, all are not rich.”          
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Life

Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass……


.it’s about learning 


"how to dance"  in the rain.”
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A small but very beautiful thought: 


NOTHING IS INTERESTING  IN LIFE, 




if you are not interested.”                   


To achieve something in life, you need to create interest. Indifference does not work. Subconscious mind will work to achieve only when you will be interested. 
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शनिवार, 9 जून 2012

PURE HEART


source: uyirvani.com

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सोमवार, 4 जून 2012

Prayer


eyk drgwh ky bwhr bhUq KubsUrq lPj ilKy Qy

“Kudw ky pws AwpkI dUAw sunny ko bhUq bkq hY
pr ikAw Awp ky pws dUAw mwNgny ky iley bkq hY”
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END


“END” is not the end,

 in fact

 END = EFFORT NEVER DIES.


If you get NO for any answer, 

remember 

NO= NEXT OPPORTUNITY.




So, always BE POSITIVE and keep smiling….!     


You will win. Keep trying with a smile.
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Reflection


Mirror is  reflection of our beauty;


Behaviour is reflection of our personality and

Action is reflection of our character.

How we observe world, reflect what we really are.
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Fearlesssness


A simple way to remove fear

 is to seek knowledge

 and understanding.

When I was a child, I feared to go in darkness and to a room where I believed there is a Ghost.

As I grew, I dared to go in the darkness and many times I created darkness in that area. I feared darkness, then lighted the lamp to see if there was anything or anyone there. I assured my self that there was none there. But this process took many years. I can say a few years back my inner fear flew away. Then I dared to go into the room where I believed there is a ghost. I found there was not none.

It was all my apprehension based on the stories I had heard. No ghost ever met me yet I feared all these years. 

I laugh many times, when I remember those happening and feelings.


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Success

Success is all about 


converting imaginations


 by pursuits
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Etiquette


Many hearts can be won by learning 

“how to say” instead of 

“what to say”.



Good mrng. Respected sir.
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Mother


When you feel you are alone in the crowd,

when you think no 1 can understand you.

When your love is rejected by others and when you hate your life. 

Just close your eyes and see her face who 

loves you more than any 1 else 

who cares for you in loneliness and dies when you cry. 

She is No.1 and she is your mom. 


You know she bore all the pain and never thought about the gain.

iWe - you and me - can never pay her debt as she gave birth.

Though father is the source of my birth, yet I hold my mom worthy of my greater respects.

She is old yet feels my pains. Silently tears well up her cheeks that really tear my heart as I remember the days when she brought us all kids up and dad did his best to give us food.


Love your mom first always and remember to wish

 and hug her on “HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY”.

And never ignore your dad and elders. They need and bless us. Their blessings create invisible environment for our success and confidence as well as will to work and grow in this world. Take care of them. They took yours when you could not move and were a small kid.
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Trust


We need to believe on ourselves first

 to believe rest in this world 


because everything is achievable by those who “BELIEVE” in themselves. 

Gd. Morning sir.

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Good Work


Sir Gd. Evening. 

Though we have never met but you have transformed my life.

 Showed me the direction lead to successful life.

 I am thankful to God for you as true blessings in life. 
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People and Ambition


People get blinded when they reach at top. 

Get involve in unethical practices, ignore people working under them. 

So last day message was about those people sir. (Fly high)

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Ambition


Fly high (Get power, position, wealth)

 only up to that extent from where 

you could clearly see whole world(you could respect relationships)

 & could reach them whenever needed(when they needed your help, you could be reached and help them)

 Be it family, friends, relations or profession.

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Actions

Our virtuous actions


lead us 


in 


positive direction.
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Right Things


God offers us right people 

and right things at right time 

and we need to accept and 

feel privileged that HE blessed us. .

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Hope


A point from 

where our efforts start to fail, 

hope starts working.
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Gain and Pain


Our desire to get something 

and

fear to lose the same 

brace us to cherish it.
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Efforts

Though we may get not everything 


by doing efforts 


but 


we surely get nothing w/out doing it.
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Actions

Our actions done with


 Persistence practice


 lead us towards Perfection
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Memories


Memories are so amazing things. 

You can either make them 

reason of your happiness 

or reason of your pain. 

Mind is the store to store them. 

Store happiness or pain - choice lies with you.

Write happy moments on stones of your mind
and painful moment on the sands of the mind.

Anything written on sand blows away with the wind - i.e. the passage of time.

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Extra Money


Words from Hitler: 

“The amount of money that’s in your bank at the time of your death 

IS THE EXTRA WORK YOU DID 

which was not necessary.” 

So enjoy life. 
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Success


Success never depends on
 the size of brain. 

It always depends on the size of “thought”.


“I will win” not immediately but “definitely.”    
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Relationship

Relationships never die a natural death. 


They are always murdered 
by ego 
or attitude 
or ignorance. 
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10 Talisman for Selfactulization


I have today sent you 8 manstras for self-actualization. Here below are the TEN TALISMAN for self actualization.

1. Accept yourself and others for what you are (or) what they are. There is no point cursing things which cannot be helped or improved upon e.g. dark complexion or some other deformity or handicap.

2. Develop spontaneity of thought and behaviour and more so in decision-making.

3. Develop "sense of humour". Sense of humour is the best and effective tool in one's hand. It helps in"De-tensing" and lightening any stressful situation. Humour will motivate even the most reluctant person to do thing willingly, for you.

4, Be creative to utilize time to the fullest extent. After all, you are devoting only about 30% of your lifespan for really productive work

5. Do self appraisal and introspection or get psycho analysis done to know your potential aptitudes, attitudes, strong and weak points. "Know thyself". The more we learn about our feelings, the more pragmatic would be our approach to behaviour and we will not act in the way which would prove harmful to ourselves.

6. Look at your life from an objective view point. Here helicopter view or overall view of your life to prod the pink spots and to gauge the grey areas.

7. Develop deep and satisfying interpretations and interpersonal relationships, with a few rather than a large number of people.

8. Do not become self-centred but  be a Team centred. You cannot succeed by becoming a lone player but by becoming a "Team Player" you will certainly. A loner is left to fend for himself.

9. Divide your eternal goal into smaller achievable targets. Achieve one objective then only set more difficult target to be achieved. Thus "may you climb peak to peak" successfully, one after another. Do not try to break the deadlock in one go.

10. Do not give up in the face of difficulties"when going gets tough the tough get going."  No complacency should set in. You should not be the one who says: When going gets easier, tougher goes lazier.
Get out of wavering nature. You shouldn't be like, " when going gets easier, the lazier gets going."

Do not get perturbed on what you cannot help and what you can help do not get hesitated.
Do not waste time non-productively. If the work is worship, God is time. "Kaalah Kalayathamahan" - Sri Krishan in Sri mad Bhagvat Gita.

SWOT Analyses should be done by the individual, society,nation and states.

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Success

Ta Yu: Great Possessions,
To win, 


you must use neither aggression nor arrogance. 


Indeed, you can obtain great things by being calm. 


Your apparently weak attitude is your strength and nobody can oppose you. 


Great success will arrive.

Source: I.Ching.
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