Wednesday, August 21, 2013

Fear of Failure and Journey of Life.

Fear of Failure and Journey of Life.

In our LIFE, as we approach adulthood,
we list and prioritize our desires, our wants and our life goals.

However, we hardly give any importance to "failure."  

If you are passionate and your desires are ambitious,
let me assure you of imminent failure.

People, who demand more from their LIFE,
are sure to be in discomfort for some period.
I congratulate them and hope you are one of them.

People with mediocre aims are O.K. with their life
as it comes to them and they do not fight for their Goals.
They will always be seen worrying.

Now let me tell you that there is a difference between worry and concern.”
Worry—you are looking at the past for 100% of your time.

Concern—you are eager for future steps/action for 100% of your time.

So, rather than worrying, be concerned towards future achievements.

Most of the people try to avoid discomfort. They show a lack of appreciation for the wisdom that hardship bestows. It has become somewhat natural to take the path of least resistance, clinging to the familiar, staying within our restricted safe places in an attempt to control the outcome.

Winston Churchill said, "Success is the ability to go from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."

We need to be able to acknowledge, and value our courage and resilience during crisis. “When our sense of worthiness is established from within, we are not at the mercy of what others do, or think!”

 “The opportunity resulting from failure is the potential for us to grow into more complete human beings”.

However, not all of us grow as the result of failure. Some who experience failure give up, and never fully recover. They become too fragile inside to get up off their knees.

 Over the years, I have observed that we do not see much of a failure or crisis till the age of 35.

Our LIFE up to this period appeared to be charmed. Our list of desires includes getting good grades, going to the "right college," marrying the "right spouse," having a “right career” or starting a family within a “right time”.

From childhood, we have been taught to have comfort and “least importance is given on how to overcome the failure.” Failure is certain in our life at some or other time. Instead of seeing it as a "setback" take it as an “opportunity” to learn, to question, and to grow.

Many will numb themselves with more sleep, staying aloof, alcohol, drugs or even suicide. However, these are not the remedies.

In addition, some people avoid responsibility for the condition of their lives, jobs, relationships, and other actions.

They blame their pain on others and do not examine their roles in the systems of which they are a part. Others shrink their immediate world in order to make it more manageable.

All of these beliefs are equally fragile and false.

In our lives, there will be failure.

Temporarily we may forget that there were good times.

“However, when we accept that failure is a part of the process of living and learn from the experience, we become more than we could have been without failure.”

We then trust ourselves to create the life we want.

"I know the path: it is straight and narrow. It is like the edge of a sword. I rejoice to walk on it. I weep when I slip. God's word is: He who strives never perishes.

I have implicit faith in that promise, though, therefore from my weakness I fail a thousand times, I will not lose faith"...Gandhi      

Barack Obama:

Making your mark on the world is hard.

If it were easy, everybody would do it.

 But it's not. It takes patience, it takes commitment, and it comes with plenty of failure along the way.

The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won't. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.

Havelock Ellis:
It is on our failures that we base a new, different and better success.

Source: An email from Dewaji.

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