BHAVIOUR

Do good to win one and all,

        

and forget it,

                BUT

if anyone does you good,

 never forget it.

TOTAL HAPPINESS

PAST AND FUTURE

When one remembers the past things,

            Or

Worries about the future

           It results in sorrow

If both these could be forgotten,

        then there will be

TOTAL HAPPINESS.

TIME AND PLACE

Have a time and place for everything.

                AND

Do everything in its time and place

                AND

You will not only accomplish more,

                 BUT

Have far more leisure than those are always hurrying,

              AS IF

Vainly attempting to overtake time that had been lost.

WISDOM

WISEMAN

A wise man changes

his mind sometimes:

A fool never

Behaviour

TO BE NICE

It is nice to be important

BUT

it is more important to be nice.

PATIENCE

PATIENCE-21

Have patience,

like a burning candle

which consumes itself from top to bottom,

without a murmur.

Man and Woman

Man and woman

are  like the two wheels of

a cycle called family on

which the world rides.

POVERTY

Poverty,

of course,

is not a disgrace

            But

It is damn annoying.

EYE ON FUTURE-

Build in the present

       With

An eye on the future.

Keep in writing what you visualize

and wish to achieve in future.

Mental plans keep teething continuously.

Closing your eyes, visualize.

Solution to you problem will pop up before your eyes.

WORRY

Worry is not a necessity,

but a habit.

Worry is a wasted emotion.

Self-discovery

SELF

Where one has not

Seen “Self’

What use it

      is

to see others?

LIFE

What matters

is not

to add years to your life

 but

to add life to your years.

ATTENTION

Pay attention

to your enemies,

for they are the first

to

discover your mistakes.

LAUGH

Always laugh with others

Never at them.

HARSH WORDS

Physical injury

caused to one

 will vanish 

in course of time

                     

But not

The mental injury 

inflected by harsh words.

Even when harassed,

one must not hit at another’s weak spot

nor think or do anything

in hate against another.

That word of his at which

another world shudder

one must not utter.

HAPPINESS

Real happiness 

can only be obtained 

by

 unselfishness.

STRESSED OUT TEETH

Did you know that anxiety

and stress could affect

your gums and teeth?

 Dr. Little Mahendra *

Most people know that stress can cause hypertension, diabetes, heart attack and numerous other health problems. What is less well known is that stress is also a disease of the gum.

These are caused when bacteria build up between the gum and jaw home, first leading to gum diseases and then invading the bone. The end result is bone loss.

            Research across the world has shown that the immune system has a more difficult time fighting off infection in the presence of stress. A mild form of gum disease – called gingivitis – is likely to lead is likely to lead to more advanced forms of periodontitis, leading to loosening of the teeth when stress is the part of the equation.

           Strong relationship

       A review of articles in the Journal of Periodontalogy (JOP)  indicates a strong relationship between stress and periodontal diseases. Most studies indicate correlation between stress, distress, anxiety, depression, loneliness and periodontal diseases. Studies are being conducted to determinte the definitive relationship between the two but the common finding is that the cortisol, a harmone, produced by stress, can lead to increased destruction of gums and jaw bone, as well as to a suppressed immune system that allows bacteria to flourish.

         Stress also causes people to engage in smoking, eating unhealthy food or forgetting to clean their teeth properly and to visit the dentist. These add to the problem. With higher amount of cortisol being produced, neuro-endocrine and bio-chemical changes result in the immune system not functioning properly.

        Stress is a possible cause for mouth ulcers too. Though there is a debate on this, research suggests that sores in the mouth tend to develop at times of high stress. Stress also leads to teeth grinding (known as bruxism). If one tends towards that habit, stress could make it worse. This can lead to problems with temporomandibular joint (TMJ) located in front of the ear where the skull and lower jaw meet.

        Hence, people who minimize stress may be at a less risk for periodontal and other oral diseases. If untreated, gum diseases can to loss of teeth and bone in the jaw. Severe gum disease may need in-depth cleaning or scaling and advanced treatment.

        To prevent periodontal diseases, stress reduction is critical. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, plenty of sleep, and a positive mental attitude is crucial to this. Yoga, meditation and breathing exercises are also beneficial. This will help you live better and longer with a health smile.

                         Symptoms: 

                          Bad Smell

                          Loose Tooth

                                                The writer is a periodontist.

Source:The Hindu Newspaper dated 15.1.2012. www.thehindu.com 

HOW TO WIN 8

ALWAYS DREAM BIG

          All work skills become tedious and dreary. We need to upgrade and update them.

Pessimistic people say  that motivation ever lasts or  ever works. However, the truth is instead of sitting idle, it is best to keep doing something than to, merely condemn it that it does not work. Why not, such individuals try to find something to work. After we have worn clean clothes, they get dirty, after some use, and then sent for either dry-cleaning or washing.

Can we say that washing does not help? It only means that certain tasks have to be, done repeatedly. After you have taken a bath today, it does not mean, that it would hold good for the next one-month or one year.

You have to do it repeatedly; the same is true of motivation. Motivation feelings is discovered instantaneously.

There are certain people who are always sluggard. I had a young man, as my Private Secretary, otherwise fit and fashionable, who always find excuse not to work and tell me that he had finished all the work. It appears that he had tried his hand at a number of jobs, but nobody after trying him for a few days wanted him.

It is a tragic thing, that instead of focusing on doing the best now, some people look for the illusory future. Such people put off living, in the expectation of reaching a magical rose garden, instead of enjoying the blooming roses which are with in their reach now itself. Newton propounded a law that “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.” In other words, every action or cause will produce an effect. Both are absolute and undeviating in every circumstance, and under every condition. Our thoughts govern our life and all of our behaviour stems, from the thoughts that preceded them.

So if you want to change your behaviour, then change your thoughts. We cannot change anything in our life without first altering the igniting cause. Any cause begins with our thoughts.

The idea of having to change, makes some people excruciating and distressed. So such people remain, where they are. The choice to change and improve lies with each individual. Though we do not know, what future holds for us, but one thing is certain, that it will not be the same as the present.

Always, dream big, though you may not realize all your dreams. It is a greater misfortune and a catastrophe not to have expectation. Dwight D.Eisenhower rightly said, “There is no victory at bargain basement prices.”

 Source:

Turn Your Creative Spark into a Flame by Joginder Singh, Former

Director, Central Bureau of Intelligence(CBI), Govt. of India, www.dpb.in

How To Win 7

Never be a Half Success

     All of us desire to be, known as aces in whatever we do. It is the fondest wish of every human being to be, considered as successful. Generally, success and happiness go together. Instead of inventing the wheel, why not take advantage of the already existing invention. Learn from the experience of successful people, which either many of them have penned down in their own autobiographies or available in the biographies written by other. When faced with a problem, ask yourself what a successful person would have done in similar circumstances and then make your decisions accordingly. If you can directly talk or associate with successful people, try to learn from them as to how they reached where they are.

           As a principle, avoid negative failed, unsuccessful people and gloomy and depressing people. They are devastators and not developers. If you want to succeed, you should direct, focus and concentrate your powers on your purpose and aim. A reason, for failure of most people in life is that they only meander through their life and are not able to decide what they want. The result is that such people never become masters of anything in particular.  Concentration or Focus means, converging totally on this business and directing yourself, to do precisely, what you want to do. Focus is imperative and crucial, to all success in all fields. The person who does not concentrate, will become, a half success, a mediocrity or complete failure. Despite traffic regulations, that you must not use mobile phones, while driving, a number of people do it, leading to fatal accidents. Obviously, they are not focusing on driving.

          Many people say that they are in no mood to work. Remember, that your moods are, primarily the end result, of what you focus on.

The secret and basis of all success is to focus attentively, on the one outcome we desire. Focused mind, aptitude and competence, is one of the strongest forces of the world. A sharp in focus picture of our  head can bring about miracles. Concentration is the basis of all ability and clout. Doctors, who perform complicated operation on heart or eye, for correcting any body default, are able to do so, only through the power of focus.

         Focus, it is nothing but matter of managing our thoughts, through concentration. It is fastening or gluing, your concentration on a given issue or a subject matter, at will, regardless length of time, you choose. This is the secret corridor to power and prosperity.

        Winners and Champions whether in science or humanity or sports, or studies, develop this to a remarkable degree. We need to be learning to focus all the timeabout wonders , whether during the training or during actual performance.

       Our life is governed and directed by our thoughts. Thoughts symbolize energy and verve. Our habitual thoughts, whether conscious or unconscious, whether factually and plainly, bring into being our existence. Our thoughts attract similar people, events and circumstances to our life and our inclinations. By becoming skilled to deliberately and by design, to guide our thoughts, in a specific direction, we can replace any bad habit with a good one. This approach can bring  about wonders and marvel in our life. Keep in view, that the quality of a person’s life, depends upon his commitment to excellence, regardless of his chosen field of endeavour. Concentrate all your efforts, on one definite chief aim and you will attain it. We should be committed to concentrate. Whthat erever we are, we should be there and when we work, we should work and when we play, we shou8ld be playing. v

Source:

Turn Your Creative Spark into a Flame by Joginder Singh, Former

Director, Central Bureau of Intelligence(CBI), Govt. of India, www.dpb.in

 

HOW TO WIN -6

You can Fly as High as

         You Want 

Try to quantify, what you want in life and how you are going to get. Also, ask as to what you can expect from yourself. If you feel in inadequate in any areas, then try to improve your competencies and skills. Be sure to circumvent and evade indistinct and hazy aspirations and targets. Become skilled at recognizing, the information or education or facts or data relevant to your ambition and purpose. If you persevere, in focusing on your goals, it will be simple and uncomplicated, to decide, what is suitable to your objective. It will imply that you are proceeding in the right direction.

          Distractions are common, whether you are studying, or working from home, or are in a formal office. These hundreds of interruptions vie for your time, energy and focus. They can be in the form of children, family, friends, neighbours, television, mobile phone rings, illogical critics and many more, like the door to door salesman or a saleswoman.

      Owners of home based business and students studying at home, must always remember that the purpose of working professionally, from home is the same as that of other business. It has the added advantage of sharing lives with the children and your spouse, of being your own boss, instead of having somebody else as a boss and the freedom to work whenever it is convenient.

     After retirement, I work from my flat and probably much harden, than what I did in the government. But I do it at my own manner and comfort. When I have to write to meet a deadline, I just sit down and focus on, what I have to do. The added advantage, of working from the home is, that there is no dress code and no seating code.  I can stretch my legs or relax  in bed and work on my lap top. When working and focusing, I do not pick up any phone and let them go into the voice mail. Only after I have finished my work, I return the phone calls. The result, of all this is, that I can pack more into the day, than many others can. This is all due to the power of focusing, prioritizing what is important, and what is not. You must strive, to feel fabulous and marvelous about yourself, about your capabilities, talents, and achievements and future prospectuses. Do not mull on your slip-ups and gaffes. You must pat, eulogize and commend yourself, for having accomplished, what you have done, so far. This is great tonic and picks me up. Always be upbeat about yourself. One quality of successful people is, that they are generally smiling, merry, positive and bright. They are aware, that positive thoughts expel and banish negative thoughts. They feel that smiling is the surest way to get rid of pessimistic and depressing thoughts. It is not something difficult to do, if we pay a little attention to our stance, and approach to other people as well as life. Smile says that I like you and welcome you, whosoever and what you are.  It is important not to let your circumstances run your life and work. If you let this state of affairs, to be in the driver’s seat, it is only a question of time, when you will be demolished and destroyed. Remember, whenever you work for yourself, from either home, or study in a school or college, or work for somebody in his work place, treat the same as any other real job. Some people go to work to play, some go to socialize, and some others just to pass time. Rewards are generally and directly proportionate to your productivity.

Therefore, it makes sense to work hard, produce the best results by staying focused. Intentions generally do not differ, competencies do.

Source:

Turn Your Creative Spark into a Flame by Joginder Singh, Former

Director, Central  Bureau of Intelligence(CBI), Govt. of India. www.dpb.in