Wednesday, May 20, 2015










Inner Beauty -the Blissfulness

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For many years, months and days I was in dilemma " how to find inner happiness" unlimited, undevided which is referred to "blissfulness" in holy scriptures.

Despite my diet change, thought change, chanting change, in depth study of holy scriptures, I was unable to feel happy from inside. My mind always found something negative with the world, with the people around me and with everything which is real. I took shelter in the not-real.

But one word that attracted my attention a lot: Visualize and that visualization becomes reality. I started focusing. I concentrated deep. I meditated deep on this sentence and yester night in my visualization I came across 3 words: hate, love and hug.

Whenever the visualization about people I have around me, situations I face in daily life and my expectations from others popped up in my half-sleep mind, 3 reactions were felt by my body and mind.

1. People , situations and expectations appear:  . My self talk: I hate you, I hate the situation, I hate my efforts because my efforts are not giving me the expected results, I hate myself as I am not worthy. Now the word "hate" generates heat, makes me uncomfortable, sleep is disturbed. I was wondering. It is the word and it was creating so many reactions in my body and my mind

2. People, situations and expectations appear. .My self talk: I love you, I love the situation, I love my efforts because my efforts are  giving me the expected results though not in direct proportion, I love myself as I am worthy and no  body can make me worthless. I am educated, experienced, I will focus more on my work and less on gossip, I will not waste time, I will be more productive than mere busy.
Wow just changing the the word "hate" with love generated peace in mind and body and sleep was comfortable and sound.

3. People , situations and expectations appear:  . My self talk: I hug you, I hug the situation, I hug my efforts because my efforts are giving me the expected results, I hug  myself as I am  worthy and intelligent.

Use of this word in subconscious mind too generated somewhat the same feelings as the word "love.: I felt my body is experiencing peace beyond my expectations, all along serenity was prevailing and my sleep was more sound and dreamless. 

I have really benefitted from this small mental exercise. Today I am more relaxed, more fresh and think that during the day I will be more productive too as smile will remain on my face. Yes, I observe fast two days a week to balance my over indulged food. Sprouted beans are my breakfast with lemon water.

I miss evening meals 2-3 times a week. I am 58 and quite active.
You too can use this and feel good. This is not my copyright.

Monday, May 11, 2015


My friend told:          
 I was suffering from a very vicious disease that had no remedy with others.        
Some said this OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) others said the change in your body is natural and nothing can avoid it.       
But, I felt this was not right.     

 I hated world, I held the world and worldly people and my dear ones responsible for all this. ''
When the body is weak and fearful thoughts emerge in the mind, through mouth and mind, one holds others and circumstances responsible. 

As key is to lock the house, so is mouth to lock the mind. Mouth open unpleasantly destroys relationships. In my view,  attitude is religion, soft skills are relationship builders, character is God. Lock the mouth and your bad reactions to the world are hidden.

Yes one more remedy, do not open the mouth and speak everything what is non-pleasant to others and speak loudly what is pleasant and builds relationships.

Healthy relationships are life. Wounds caused by sword can be healed but wounds caused by biting unpleasant words cannot be healed.       Toxic relations make the life toxic too.

But I never stopped believing in the creator.      
So, perhaps, through his grace, an elderly person known to me advised: Do this and you will feel good.        

It was a just a ray of hope in the dark.

For about 7-1/2 years, my life was totally derailed.

Depression, cardiac arrest and hopelessness was suffered by me .                   All felt that I will not bounce back in life.    

 But I did and am living well and more productively. 
  Fears I faced earlier have  flown away.      
 What does not kill strengthens  us.

So, now the advice of the elderly person    
(1)  Pay respects and bow to your Guardian God . Guardian Gods  are the spirits of your ancestors in heaven.  Go and pay respects. They will help you . Have their icons at your home and ask them to help you . Like living parents, they too protect you.   Guardian God bless you. Have an attitude of gratitude. Time heals every wound. Trust it. Believe it and wait for good days.  
2) Do positive self talk      e.g. I am healing, I am getting better  and better day by day, good days are coming, world is good, people are good.

3) Focus your mind on what you have rather than what you wish to have in future.

4) Believe in yourself and the world will believe in you . Know your strengths and focus on them. Shine them. The weaknesses will automatically be overcome. Do your SWOT analysis in writing.  Pay not any attention to others opinion about yourself. Only you know who you are and what you can do. But do every thing in writing. It will help you. Mental planning and work causes mental tension. Create a habit of writing and you will see that you are more intelligent and powerful than what others tell or you think.

5) As the key is to lock of the house, mouth is to your mind. Appreciate in public and depreciate in private or do not depreciate others at all. Hating and disliking causes unnecessary tension in mind. Avoid it. Program your mind yourself consciously. Closing your eyes, talk positive and forgive others.

6) Do not react to others and feel jealous of others' progress. Or this will break you down mentally and physically.  Healthy attitude about life keeps the life happy, healthy and prosperous            plus disease free. Mind is the engine of the train called body. Healthy mind creates healthy body. Avoid self-medication. It destroys immunity of the body. Immunity is the natural healing power of the body. Let the body repair itself through positive thinking and self-talk.

7) Be less suspicious. Changing attitude everything changes. World was before you and world will be here after you. You live lively. That's your responsibility.

8. 10% is the situation and 90% is our reaction. How? Boil water in a pan. Put some carrots, then eggs and then coffee. Carrots will become soft, eggs will become hard and coffee will boil with water. Same is about the situations in life. You can act, you can react or you can adapt yourself.
Choice lies with you.

 It has been found that 98% mentally thought fears and fearful situations never happen  in life .
If you want to check , write on a paper or notebook with date what you fear or suspect will happen and when will it happen.

And after that date check if this has happened.

If this does not happen, then understand that fear was just fantasy or imaginary and  not REAL.  Majority of the people in the world suffer from such kind of fears.    
Fear has two meanings.         FEAR= Fear everything and run .                    
                                                 FEAR = Face everything and rise         
  Bold, powerful, positive self talk and reading positive powerful self esteem boosting literature really brought me back to life. I thank that mentor.   
Mentors matter in life.                                   Negative people whom I call blood suckers and believers that control of your life is in the hand of some external power and man can do nothing are really devastating and destroy happiness from life.      They appear totally ignorant and make their own faith opium. Instead of acting their part to solve the problem, they leave it to their faith blindly.
Believe in yourself and the world will believe in you . SELF BELIEF with faith in Almighty is the crux of rising in life.     

 Forgive yourself and others - be it outsider or family member -  not because they deserve it  but you deserve mental peace.
  Never carry guilt . Mistakes have led to the biggest discoveries of the world.   Many don't act for fear of failure. Act and fail but learn and act next time.

This time you are more intelligent, more aware and more organized and will learn new things.
And ultimately SUCCESS will be yours.

But positive attitude is most important. It is your inner approach to handle anything in life.

Nothing is bad with this world. Only you need to change your attitude and world will become beautiful for you.

See and appreciate the beauty within yourself and the world will appear beautiful. My perception by you is your self reflection is a good saying.

THINK POSITIVE, BE HAPPY AND LIVE HAPPILY. Straight lines (smiles) have more value than curved ones.

Yes 30 days change in diet pays a lot. 30 days 30 glasses of fruit juice/lime juice plus a few say 4-5 nuts daily detoxify the body and you feel more healthy, more vibrant and more good from inside and your self-productivity increases. 1 glass of fruit juice or lime juice a day keeps the medicine and many deceases  away.

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Dream fulfilled

Success dreamt
Success designed
Success achieved

This is a story of a village girl. She was married to a guy in the city. The story is real.

On the day of her 31st Birthday, her husband asked her "what would you like as a gift on your birthday?" Humble, meek slow but morose voice came back: I want to do M.A English.

She had completed her B.Com in local language in the village. Her father was a teacher. Now she had family - elder daughter of about 4 years lying on the bed and getting treatment for nervous breakdown and a son aged about 2 years.

The husband listened well and consoled her. He said: Fine you will do. But she was not sure. So she replied: I don't know English as I had local language as medium of instruction.

Husband reassured: No issue, my uncle will teach you English.

In May 2013, both came to the teacher/trainer/mentor. The trainer assured her of success. 2 months English foundation course was advised. The girl I mean the woman was very excited. Every day she was learning new techniques and improving because she had understood that the best results will come not from coaching but from self learning.

She worked very hard. She performed well. She learnt Mind Power Techniques and Self-discipline techniques to achieve anything in life. Right Sustained efforts were the key to achieve the right results.

When the course was over, she expressed the desire to go for M.A English. Husband agreed readily and the trainer/motivator guided her to take the admission in M.A English through distance learning mode.

Trainer/motivator forgot everything about this girl. But the day before yesterday i.e. 28th April, 2015
after about 2 years, she met on the road, driving her scooter while bringing her son from the school.

She stopped. She bowed her head to the teacher and told the entire story. She was very happy rather overwhelmed while telling the story of her SUCCESS in M.A. English part 1. Now she was a student of M.A. English Part II.

She heaved a sigh of relief and had in her eyes gratitude for the teacher/trainer/motivator as he was instrumental in making her GROW in life.

Touching someone's life  really pays a great dividend throughout life.




















Tuesday, April 28, 2015

What binds marriage.

दोपहर का समय था।  सूर्य तप रहा था। एक ज्ञान बान  अपने चरखे पर सूत कात  रहे थे। 

तभी एक जवान लड़का परेशानी की हालत में उनके पास आया।

लड़का बोला : बाबाजी में क्या करूँ ? मेरी बीबी मुझ पर शक करती है , छोटी छूटी बात पर झगड़ती है , में काम काज से थक कर आता हूँ , बजाये इसके की मुझे शांति से मुस्कराहट से पानी पिलाये, आराम करने दे बह दिन भर की शिकायतें मेरी शिकायते बच्चों की शिकायतें ले कर मुझे आराम की बजाये बेआराम कर देती है।  फिर शुरू होती है वेबजह की बहस।  यदि मैं चुप रहूँ तो बह कहती है  कि दिन में आफिस या काम पर ऐसा क्या हुआ की मैं चुप हूँ। उसकी पुछ्ताश मुझे किसी पुलिस बाले की तफ्तीश से काम नहीं लगती।  लड़ाई झगड़ा अपशब्द बोलना , बहस करना तो हमारारोज़ का काम है. मुझे काम से इतनी दिमागी थकाबट  नहीं होती जितनी घर आ कर होती है।  मुझे कोई हल बताएं।  में शादी को सफल कैसे बनायुं।

इस समय तक ज्ञान  बान  की पत्नी लोई जी पानी का गिलास लेकर आ चुकी थी ; बह बोली पानी पीजिये।

जवान लड़के ने गिलास लिया और पानी पि लिया।  मन कुछ शांत हुआ।

ज्ञान बान अपनी पत्नी से बोले :                        लालटेन ले आईये। 

जवान लड़का बड़ा हैरान था की दोपहर के तीन बजे पूरी धूप में ज्ञान बान लालटेन क्यों मँगबा रहे हैं। 

उनकी पत्नि  जी लालटेन ले कर आ गयी।

बह लालटेन ज्ञान बान के चरखे के पास रख कर चली गयी।

ज्ञान बान ने दोबारा पत्नि  जी को  बुलाया और कहा :          कुछ मीठा मेहमान के लिए ले आईये।

पत्नि  नमकीन ले कर आई और नमकीन मेहमान को दे दिया।    मेहमान और ज्ञान बान ने  उसे खा लिया।

ज्ञान बान फिर मेहमान से पूछने लगे :            तो आप क्या कह रहे थे ?

जवान बोला "मुझे मेरे प्रश्नों का उत्तर मिल गया है।

 आप ने लालटेन मांगी आपकी पत्नी ने बिना पूछे लालटेन ले आई।  कोई प्रशन नहीं किया।  आप ने मीठा माँगा और बह नमकीन ले आई।  आप ने कोई प्रशन नहीं पूछा न ही कोई शब्द बोले।

आप की पत्नी समझदार है जो समाज गयी की लालटेन केवल रौशनी ही नहीं देती आप को किसी और काम के लिए चाहिए होगी।  आप समझदार है  बिना बोले समझ गए कि घर में मीठा नहीं होगा तभी तो आपकी पत्नी नमकीन ले कर आई।  जिस पति पत्नी में सूज  बूज है बह घर स्वर्ग है।

पति  पत्नी का आपसी विश्वास व् सूज बुज ही गृहस्थ जीवन का आधार हैं।  दूसरों की दखलबाजी घर बर्बाद कर देती है पति घर का राजा है पत्नी रानी।  बाकि  सब राजपथ के मेहमान हैं।  हाँ सबका अपनी अपनी जगह पर महताब जरूर है।  लेकिन बह पति पत्नी का पर्याय नहीं है।  अच्छा में चलता हूँ।

ज्ञान बान मुस्कराये और मेहमान को द्वार तक छोड़ने के लिए आये

What binds marriage?


Once a wise man was sitting on his wheel and spinning the wheel. It was after noon. The sun was shining.

A young man turned to him for counseling and said:

Baba I am fed up from the churlish talk, acts and daily nagging and quarrels on petty issues of my young wife. Please tell me some techniques "how to handle her to save my marriage."

The wise man kept  on spinning on his wheel. He kept on moving the wheel and the young man felt that the wise man was not moved a bit internally from his question.

He repeated the question again assuming that perhaps wise man  has not listened the question well.

The wise man called his wife  and asked for lighted lantern. Lantern is a lamp used in villages generally where there is no electricity. People use it at night to give light to their environment i.e. houses, outer places etc.

His wife brought the lantern with wick burning and giving full light.

The young man was surprised to see that full sun is shining and the wife has not cross questioned the husband :                  why is the light needed when sun is shining?

The wise man  again beckoned the wife  to bring some sweets for the guest.

The wife brought some salty eatable. Wise man  did not cross questioned the wife and fired her with words.  But instead offered the salty eatable to the guest.

"So, what were you asking?" asked the wise man .

"No, I was not asking any question. I have got the answer to the question. Your wife brought lantern and she did not cross question.  You asked for sweets but she brought salty eatable. You did not cross question or raised hue and cry. I know to bind the marriage as a pious relationship is understanding between two persons.

"Your wife did not cross question you because she understood that the burning lantern may be needed by you for another purpose than light.

She trusts you and just obeyed you blindly. She brought salty eatable.

You trust her intellect so much that you did not cross question "why?" It may be there is no sweets at home and only salty eatable is there.

So, I have got the answer to my irritations and I will improve. I will share this with my wife too."

Wise man  smiled and young man went to his home.

Trust and understanding build and bind the marriage.
No third person's interference should shake it if you want to enjoy your married life.


Thursday, April 16, 2015

What holds back in life?

ਸਭ ਤੋਂ ਬਢ਼ਾ ਇਨਸਾਨ ਨੂੰ ਜੀਵਨ ਵਿਚ ਪਿਛੇ ਧਕਨ ਵਾਲਾ ਰੋਗ

ਕਿਸੇ ਭੀ ਕ਼ਮ ਨੂਕਰਨ ਤੋ ਪਹਲੇ ਇਹ ਸੋਚਣਾ

ਕੀ ਕਹਨ ਗੇ ਲੋਗ

ਲੋਗ ਕੁਝ ਨਹੀਂ ਸੋਚਦੇ

ਅਸੀਂ ਹੀ ਦਸਦੇ ਹਨ

ਉ ਹ ਤਾਂ ਸਿਰਫ ਬਿਨਾ ਜਾਣੇ ਬਿਨਾ ਸੋਚੇ ਆਪਣੀ

ਜਾਣੀ ਅੰਜਾਨੀ ਰਾਏ ਦੇਡਨ ਹਨ

ਕੀਨਾ ਦੀ ਰਾਏ ਲੇਨੀ ਹੈ ਕੀਨਾ ਦੀ ਨਹੀ

ਇਹ ਤਾਂ ਸਾਧੀ ਮਰਜੀ ਹੈ

ਰਾਏ ਲੈਣ ਤੋਂ ਪਹਲਾ ਇਹ ਮਨ ਵਿਚ ਤੈ ਕਰਨਾ ਜਰੂਰੀ ਹੈ

ਇਕ ਇਹ ਇਨਸਾਨ ਰਾਏ ਦੇਣ ਦੇ ਕਵੀਲ ਭੀ ਹੈ

ਡਾਕਟਰ ਟੀਚਰ ਪੜੇ ਲਿਖੇ ਹੁੰਦੇ ਹਨ

ਸਲਾਹਕਾਰ ਯਾ ਨੁਕਤਾਚੀਨੀ ਕਰਨ ਵਾਲੇ ਨਹੀਂ

Work in silence . Let the results speak .

Thursday, April 9, 2015

Creating Student Focussed Lessons

One framework to help create intentional, focused lessons is described in Understanding by Design by Grant Wiggins and Jay McTighe (2005).

Often referred to as backward design, the process has teachers set clear, measureable targets before they create instructional activities.

The stages of backward design can be seen in below Figure ;

Figure  UbD: Stages of Backward Design

Source: From Understanding by Design (expanded 2nd Ed.) Alexandria.

Identify desired results:

What should students know, understand, and be able to do? These outcomes typically come from standards, curriculum expectations, and pacing guides.
Determine acceptable evidence:

How will we know if students have achieved the desired results and met the standards? This can include both formal and informal evidence of student understanding and proficiency.
Plan learning experiences and instruction:

What activities will equip students with the necessary knowledge and skills? By choosing activities and strategies after clear, measureable results have been identified, instruction becomes more purposeful and intentional.
Important decisions must be made in each of these areas, but much of the real work of instructional design lies between the boxes in Figure in the arrows. How do we translate the results we desire into behaviors we can measure? And how do we create tasks and experiences that lead to these measureable outcomes?
Best Regards

Areef Irfan Mohammed
​M.Com; MBA;CICTL and CICEL from Cambridge University, UK​

This is an email received from Mr. Areef. Found worthy of reading and hence shared.


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