Sunday, April 13, 2014

TV Interview

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Blood Donation


On 27th February, 2014 (Yesterday), in India, we celebrated Mahashiv Ratri. I along with my friend Mr. Bhatti went to the temple of Akshardham at Ludhiana (Punjab) India to celebrate Mahashivratri.
We enjoyed the langar (common feast cooked in common kitchen of the holy temple). Puri, chhole and kheer (sweet dish) was excellent in taste. Perhaps the grace of God makes it so sweet and tasty. Aura in the temple was really peaceful, tensionless.
After having the feast, we went to meet the chief Swamiji but on the way we found that a CAMP OF BLOOD DONATION is organized by Civil Hospital, Ludhiana.
Both of us registered ourselves for donation. My age 56 and my friend’s 50 years. The attending doctor at reception asked, “have you donated blood during the past 3 month.” Our answer was no. “Do you have any disease or problem?” “No.”
Then she prepared two cards and noted all our particulars on those cards. Then she handed over those cards and a plastic bag with syringe tagged to it.
We went from reception to the blood donation room like heroes. We were feeling great as we were going to donate blood which would be used for SAVING some other person’s life who could be anyone not related with us.
It was really a great service to humanity.
We were asked to lie on the beds. Syringes were inserted in our right elbows to extract the blood. Rubber balls were given. We kept on pumping the rubber balls so that the blood flow may be maintained.
It took just 10 minutes and our BEST DONATION of life was done.
Then the syringes were removed and we came out of the blood donation room.
Out of the room, post blood donation desk attendant, a very polite doctor asked us to sit on the chairs and offered us glass of sugarless hot milk. Then bananas were offered. We drank the milk and ate the bananas.
I was feeling very fresh. Blood was donated and my blood pressure came to normal. Today, I felt that anger is quite reduced. In the morning, I was polite with my children and wife.

Sunday, February 23, 2014

Take Control of Your Life.

         By Renee Singh *
Take Control of Your Life.
There are some qualities we are born with and emotional resilience is one of them. Some of us are lucky enough to have this in us but it canbe and should be learned and developed.
      If you are the type who would like to handle life’s challenges whether they are major or minor with greater ease, to grow from adversity and turn potentially negative events into positive ones, you definitely need to be more resilient.

    “As we advance in life and in years, coping with stress becomes more and more difficult, but in fighting the difficulties, the inmost strength of heart is developed, “ Vincent Van Gogh said these very wise words which are most applicable in today’s day and age.

         What’s emotional resilience?

         This refers to one’s ability to adapt to stressful situations or crisis. Most resilient people can “roll with the punches” and adapt to adversity with no difficulties.
Less resilient people have a harder time with stress and life changes. It has been found that those stresses more easily can also manage major crisis with ease. Resilience has its benefits for daily life or when faced with tragedy.

               What influences emotional resilience?

       By and large it is something we are born with. 
Some people by nature are less upset by changes. This trait can more or less observed from childhood and can be noticed as a level of stability through one’s lifetime.
Emotional resilience is also related to some factors that are not under your control such as age, gender and exposure to trauma.
       Resilience is not a quality that you do or do not possess. There are varying degrees to how well you can handle stress and there are certain characteristics that are common to all.

Emotional awareness

People with emotional awareness understand what they are feeling and why.

Perseverance pays
Those with perseverance are action oriented and do not give up.

Positive thinking
Optimists see positives in all situations and believe in their own strengths.

Social support
Some of us tend to understand the value of social support and surround ourselves with supportive family and friends.

Spiritual Streak
Being connected to your spiritual side has been has been connected with stronger emotional resilience. If you are internally connected, you are definitely on a strong foundation level.

Sense of humour
Those with a sense of humor are able to laugh at life’s difficulties.

Individual perspective

·      Resilient people are able to learn from their own mistakes.
·      They see obstacles as challenges.
·      Allow adversities to make them stronger.
·      Find meaning in life’s challenges.
·      Do not see themselves  as victims.

           How to become more resilient?
    Emotional resilience can be developed. Stress and change are a part of life. There is much opportunity to practice resilience. We require to have interest and commitment and results are remarkable.

    Many people know of coping strategies which can help with stress. With diet and exercise programs one can cope with stress very well.

    The most successful individuals are those that can maintain a long term effort. Don’t give up your situation and trust the process.
     Just be patient with yourself and you will make yourself emotionally resilient.
              *Singh is  Chandigarh based psychotherapist.
Source: The Tribune Life+Style dated 24th February, 2014.


                 By Renu Parteep Kaur*
Eat, Pray, Lose
Are you having a hard time sticking to your diet plan?
Yes, it’s really difficult to stick to extremely low-calorie diets, which can hurt your long-term success. Boredom and hunger can both undermine your weight-loss goals.
It is important to remember that too much or crash weight loss has many negative consequences for the body and your health.
Everyone has different body structure. While one person may be very thin naturally and may not be suffering from any negative health effect, but for others losing their weight      
may be unachievable without putting one;s body under dangerous stress.
You are what you eat.
Cutting calories is an approach most dieters take to meet their weight loss goals. But it is once in a while that people take calorie restrictions too far; making their weight loss slower and more difficult by slowing their metabolism. As the saying goes, “We are what we eat,” our food choices have a huge impact on how we look and feel, both physically and mentally.
Understand calorie.
Eating a well-rounded and varied diet will go a long way towards making sure you have all the nutrients you need. Remember that our body uses everything put into it and what we give it determines how it’s used for good health, or for bad.
       Low calorie diet does not mean the consumption of reduced amount of calorie rich foods. Such a diet only precipitates hunger, causes interim weight loss and deprives the body of nutrition. An unplanned low calorie diet which is also devoid of important nutrients having a low nutritional value is therefore, unable to regulate metabolism in the body, which can be the cause of lifestyle diseases.
What to eat?
1.   Fat-free(skim) milk instead of whole milk.
2.   Fat-free frozen yoghurt instead of ice-creams.
3.   Graham crackers, ginger snaps, fig bars instead of cookies.
4.   Egg whites or egg substitutes instead of whole eggs.
5.   Canned broth-based soups instead of canned cream soups.
6.   Jelly, jam, or honey on bread or toast instead of butter or margarine on toast or bread.
7.   Chicken or turkey without skin (white meat) instead of chicken or turkey with skin, duck or goose.
8.   Opt for fresh or frozen vegetables over canned vegetables.
9.   Chocolate syrup instead of fudge sauce.
In addition to above, avoid processed or pre-packaged foods. Processed foods like canned soups or frozen dinners contain hidden sodium that quickly surpasses the recommended limit. Simply choosing low fat products when there is an option is a good way to reduce fat and calories.
Think long term
1.            Always go in for lifestyle change and not for short term diet. Permanent weight loss is not something that a “quick fix” diet can achieve.
2.            Low calorie diet is not recommended for children, adolescents and pregnant women. Individuals who usually go on such a diet are extremely over weight, Dieters usually lose 0.5 to 2 kg per week or a total of about 5 kg in 4 weeks. The specifics of weight loss diet are hard to describe as the diet mainly depends on one’s individual needs.
To set yourself up  for success, think about planning a healthy diet as a number of small manageable steps rather than drastic change.
          *Renupreet Kaur is diet therapist and obesity expert.
Source: Tribune Life+Style dated 24th February, 2014.

Friday, January 24, 2014


Gap between Haves and Have Nots.

Can it be narrowed?

"You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift.

You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.

 You cannot help the wage earner by pulling down the wage payer.

You cannot further the brotherhood of many by encouraging class hatred.

 You cannot keep out of trouble by spending more than you earn.

You cannot build character and courage by taking away man's initiative and independence.

You cannot help men permanently by doing for them what they could and should do for themselves." -

Abraham Lincoln

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Monday, January 6, 2014

New Guests


50-60 New Guests join me for breakfast.

Really great interesting breakfast.

I sleep on the top floor of my house. One day I saw that some small birds: parrots, crows, pigeons and squirrels were enjoying a morning stroll at the top roof.

I got an idea. In the morning, I need breakfast. These birds and animals too may need it. I took 2-3 handfuls of grain and threw on the top roof of my room.

That day, no bird or animal came and I found the grains were intact there.

I thought that little birds have got scared and hence did not turn up to eat those grains.

But the next day, I found, lot of chirping on the roof. I scaled the stairs to view a beautiful scene.

About 50-60 birds were enjoying the breakfast. My hungry soul felt happy. Natural happiness was this.

Now I splatter 3-4 handfuls of grains every night on the roof.

And my little friends, enjoy the breakfast in the morning. Water is now placed in small bowls.

I sit in an alcove of my stairs and watch the words. They chirp. They flutter. They quarrel to snatch the grain from others.

Small words feel scared from the big one like crows. Crows sit on the boundaries of the walls of the roof.

One day, I did not splatter the grains for the breakfast of my tiny friends. At about 5 am in the morning when I was in the bed, I heard lot of chirping.

I immediately realized that I have not splattered their food and hence all this fuss.

I took the grains and went up. Threw from far off place hiding myself at the stairs so that they may not fly away.

Wow! what a wonderful scene that was. Except a big ones, all the birds jumped on the food. In a few minutes, all the grains were eaten by them and they flew away. Roof was as clean as it was earlier.

They are not greedy like humans. They eat, feel satisfied and fly away. Where, I don't know.

Now in the morning, I always love to hear their chirping. That soothes me.

When they drink water, the scene is really beautiful. They shake the wings and feathers. Really wonderful.

Monday, December 2, 2013

Better Life

15 Mantras for Better Living

1.                               Talk           -----------                             Slowly          
2.                                Eat            -----------                             Sensibly
3.                               Breathe      -----------                             Deeply
4.                               Exercise     -----------                             Daily
5.                               Sleep         -----------                             Sufficiently and soundly.

6.                               Dress        ------------                            Smartly
7.                               Act           ------------                            Fearlessly
8.                               Work       ------------                            Patiently
9.                               Think       ------------                             Positively
10.                             Trust        ------------                             Cautiously

11.                             Learn      ------------                              Practically
12.                             Plan        ------------                              Orderly
13.                             Earn       -------------                             Honestly
14.                             Save      -------------                              Regularly
15.                             Spend    -------------                             Intelligently

Act for results

Thrive Now. Regret Nothing Later.

  • Those who thrive LIVE what those who struggle only “believe and know about.”
  • हिम्मत से काम करने बाले जीबन में आगे बढ़ते जाते है केबल बिश्बास करने बाले संघर्श करते रहते हैं
  • Authentic commitment is demonstrated in results – not in lip service.
  •  दुनिया इंसान को बादो  से नहीं रिजल्ट से जानती है रिजल्ट करने से आते हैं बातों से नहीं 
  • Waiting to be inspired, turned on, and energized is apathy. Stop it and inspire yourself now.
  • प्रेरणा, काम और सेहत की  कमी केवल बहाने होते है। इस से बचिए और अपने आप को प्रेरित करिये।
  • Frustration occurs when you ALLOW circumstances to run your behavior.
  • मायूसी तभी आती है जब आप अपने व्यबहार को हालत का गुलाम बना देते हो।
  • Change management problems? It’s behavior. If behavior doesn’t change – nothing changes.
  • अपने आप को बदलिये।   अपने व्यबहार को बदलिये।
  • A life well lived is a life of commitment. A life of regret is a life based on avoidance and pretense. एक अच्छी िजंदगी बादे के पक्के होने बाले की होती है न की बहाने बनाने बालों की।
  • Have ambitions for others that are bigger than their own. That’s true leadership.
  • दूसरों के लिए उनसे बड़े बड़े सपने रखो।  उने प्रेरणा दो।  यही सच्ची लीडरशिप है।
  • The language you speak deliberately and sincerely creates the world you live in.
  • जो भाषा आप बोलते हैं और उस में कितनी सचाई है इससे आपकी दुनिया बनती है-अच्छी या बुरी। 
  • Positive thinking will usually just push one further in the hole.
  • स्कारतमक सोच आपको सफलता की तरफ एक कदम है , सफलता नहीं। सफफलता करने से मिलती है
  • Each day is a new opportunity. You can choose from strength or you can choose from weakness. Choose responsibly. हर नया दिन एक नया मौका है . आप इस दिन में क्या करते हैं यह आप पर निर्भर है।  सोचना आप ने है करना आप ने है। करता रहता है
  • You won’t solve your comfort fix by giving yourself more time to deal with it.
  • आपके जीवन की समस्याएं आपके जयादा समय लगाने से हल नहीं होने बाली।  इन को लिख कर एक एक करके हैंडल करें।
  • A dysfunctional life is a product of habitually choosing comfort over growth while pretending that you have no choice. असफल जीबन इन्सान की अपनी ही आदतों का नतीजा है क्यूंकि ईन्सान अवगी बढ़ने के लिए जरूरी म्हणत की बजाये आराम को जयादा पसंद करता है। जो चाहिए उस पर समय नहीं िबटता जो नहीं चाहिए उस में समय नष्ट करता रहता है।
  • The more you reward helplessness, the more helplessness you get.
  • अपने आप को िजतनी  सीमाएं (मजबूरी ) बताएँगे उतने ही मजबूर होते जोयोगे।
  • The key = say what it is that you are going to do and follow through.
  • एक ही सफलता की चाबी है की मुझे चाहिए क्या और उसके लिए मैं सही प्रयत्न कर रहा हूँ। इन प्रयत्नों को लग्न से करते रहना।  आप सफल हो जायेंगे।
  • You either create, and live from your commitments, or you wait and see what happens.
  • दो ही जीबन में विकल्प होते हैं - जिंदगी की डोर आपके हाथ जीवन आपकी मर्ज़ी का या जीवन की डोर जिसके हाथ जीवन भी उसी की मर्जी का।
  • When dealing with others, assume that they are adults, until they prove to you otherwise.
  • जब भी दूसरों से बात करें दो यह समझ कर करे की बह ब्वयस्क है जब तक की बह अपनी बातों से सिध न कर दें कि नहीं हैं।
  • If a problem isn’t resolving, it contains a lie. Locate the lie and you resolve the problem.
  • यदि कोई समस्या सुलझ नहीं रही तो ले कि समस्या मनगढ़ंत है। इस झूठ को ढूंढिए और समस्या का हल सदा के लिए पाईए।
  • What you want means nothing. What you are willing to do to get it means everything.
  • आप क्या चाहते है इस का कोई मतलब नहीं है। आप जो पान चाहते है और उसके लिए ईमानदारी से पाने की कोशिश क्या करतेहैं इसका जीवन में महत्व है।  लिख कर सोचिए और इसे बार बार पढ़िए। 
  • So you want to be different and yet you are unwilling to change? That’s not healthy.
  • आप अच्छे बनना चाहते हैं परन्तु अपने आप को बदलने के लिए तैयार नहीं है।  यह सही नही है।
  • Stop developing marketing programs and start developing relationships.
  • अपने ख्याली पलायो बनाना छोढ़िये और मन , बचन और कर्म से दुसरो से मधुर  रिश्ते बनाने के लिए लग जाइए। इन्सान से रिश्ते ही सब कुछ है।  किस से कितनी घनिष्टता रखनी है यह आप को तय करना है।
  • “I’m sincerely hoping,” is code for, “I’m not doing anything about it.”
  • "मैं पुरे मन से आशा कर रहां हूँ " का मतलब है कि "मैं जो चाहता हूँ उस के लिए कुछ नहीं कर रहा हूँ "
  • Committed speaking will move life. Desperate mind chatter will not.
  • बचनबद्ध बोलने से जीवन आगे बढ़ता है। दुखी मन नहीं। सबसे पहले मन को शांत करो
  • What’s the real question that you need answered?
  • सबसे पहले यह तय करें कि में किस प्रशन का उत्तर ढून्ढ रहा हूँ।
  • Circle behavior is rooted in the fear of failure.
  • घूम घूम कर एक ही तरह का ब्यब्वहार लगातार फेल होने की निशानी है।
  • It’s not about planning. It’s about making a decision.
  • योजना बना लेने से रिजल्ट नहीं मिलते , उस पर पक्के मन से काम करने से मिलते हैं।
  • Professional victims don’t turn knowledge and skills into results. It’s that simple.
  • प्रोफेशनल बीमार अपने ज्ञान को कला (स्किल) में पर्वृतित नहीं कर पाते और असफल रहते हैं। 
  • Are you dealing with a belief or a fact? How do you know?
  • आप विश्वास के साथ डील कर रहें है या असलियत के से साथ। यह जानना बहुत जरूरी है।
  • Drop the “woo woo talk.” Focus on building skills with practical value.
  • उल जलूल की बातों को छोड़िये अपनी उन काब्लियतों को पाने की तरफ धियान दें जो आपको असली दुनिया में जीने के काम आएँगी
  • A resolution is worthless unless you create a workable way to reach it.
  • अपने आप से किये बायेदे बेकार हैं यदि उन बायदों को पूरा करने के लिए कोई ठोस पर्यटन नहीं करते।
  • A real commitment alters behavior. Insincere chatter and lame positive speech alters nothing.
  • असली बायदा बह है जिसे िनभाने के लिए आप ने अपना व्यबहार बदला हैं। अपने आप से पूछिये कि क्या में सच में बह कर रहा हूँ जिस का मैंने बायदा किया है।
  • There’s a lot of people, making a lot of money off others by telling them, “relax, feel good, money doesn’t matter.” बहुत से लोग बहुत से पैसे इस  काम से कमा रहें हैं की "आराम करो, अच्छा सोचो ,पैसे की कोई जरूरत नहीं " जब समय आता है तो पैसे की जरूरत कोई पूरा नहीं करता इस लिए कमाओ, खर्चो और सम्भालो। दूसरों की पैसे से सहायता करो।  स्वर्ग से सासाड़ी शक्तिअन आपको सफलता प्रताप करने में पूरी सहायता करेंगी।
  • Big people = rise up. Little people = get offended.
  • बड़ी सोच बाले बड़े बनते है , छोटी सोच बाले जीवन में झगड़ा और अफ़सोस ही करते रहते।
  • What are you agreeing with that’s keeping you stuck?
  • “Talking about” and “bringing forth” are 2 different worlds.
  • Your biggest challenges come from dealing with people who have “quit life” and won’t admit to it.
  • Your inner stance is your destiny.
  • What if you were aware of the voice in your head and acted decisively anyway?
  • Many times people will confuse a lack of commitment with destiny.
  • Invent and complete substantive projects for a powerful life.
  • What would life be like if you actually did what you said you were going to do?
  • Stop explaining yourself. It looks weak. People see what you do. They believe what you do, not what you talk about.
  • What will happen to you and your business if Facebook falls apart? Nothing.
  • When push comes to shove, it’s your life. You will either rise up, or you will continue to make excuses.
  • It’s great if products and services that produce little or no value fail fast. Only then does life move forward in a productive manner.
  • Obsessed is a word the timid and fearful use to describe the fiercely committed.
  • Fact of life = Weak inner stance + brilliant information = poor results.
  • Commitment is that which is spoken into existence and lived. You don’t get it from a self-help seminar or a book.
  • Income inequality is best dealt with by increasing commitment which serves to increase competency.
  • The power you aren’t expressing is your greatest discontentment.
  • How you live is your statement to the world. What statement does your life make?
  • Throw your personality aside and just focus on making a difference.
  • Reinvention isn’t changing “what is” but creating “what isn’t.”
  • It’s easy to hope that things will get better. It’s not easy to deal with the regret of not rising up.
  • You have got to start starting or you will be in your head forever.
  • A financial problem is something that you do something about. It’s not something to talk, think, or complain about.
  • Soft bigotry = enabling others to live from low standards.
  • Some people spend their lives fixing themselves. Some people spend their lives making a difference wherever they go.
  • Yes, there is a huge difference between “knowing about” something and actually “living” it.
  • A culture of entitlement will never keep pace with a culture of commitment.
  • Collapsing the distinction between possibility and probability will lead to major problems.
  • Be the author of your own experience – regardless of what’s going on around you.
  • To get to paradise, sometimes you have to confront and deal with a very dark present.
  • Feeling bad about something is a waste of time. Alter your behavior. Do what’s required.
  • Waiting increases the chances that bad things will happen. Decide now. Move.
  • Magical thinking has nothing to do with creating and living potent and sound commitments.
  • What if you dropped the stories, excuses, and unworkable behaviors and just lived powerfully for the next 30 days?
  • How you speak should always match your purpose for living.
  • You are never perceived as neutral. You are always making a statement.
  • Commitment and competency will create a lot more luck than wishful thinking ever will.
  • People who won’t step up and be assertive when necessary are not enlightened. They are afraid.
  • To be extraordinary in life is to act without contradiction.
  • FB ads and other cute stuff are not marketing. Authentic conversations that build powerful relationships are what will make a difference.
  • Whatever you’re seeking ISN’T seeking you. And you can create it.
  • Thriving in life is simple. Create commitment. Create competency. Act without contradiction.
  • You live the life that you tolerate.
  • Highly successful individuals understand that it doesn’t matter what they understand. It only matters what they do.
  • What are you NOT willing to do to get what you want? Isn’t that why you still don’t have it.
  • Choosing bigness is a requirement for a satisfying life. A highly committed life is not lived in one’s head.
  • True power: the willingness, and ability to assist others in being more powerful.
  • People don’t respect clever, bulletproof excuses. Honor your word once given.
  • Stop talking about things that you don’t live. It’s just not healthy.
  • A direct no is a 100 times more useful than an insincere yes.
  • Live what others wish for, and you will be one of the few who live what others don’t.
  • Only that which already is can be accomplished. In other words, 500 x 0 is still zero. It’s not mean. It’s just life.
  • Backing off costs you your integrity.
  • Waiting to find out how your life is going to turn out is quite disempowering.
  • When you make a sincere commitment the facts won’t matter.
  • Does what you know match how you live?
  • Peace of mind = existing in life with composure and power.
  • Stress is produced by knowing what works and doing what doesn’t work.
  • Ultimately, it is you doing the choosing and not your reasons, excuses, or circumstances.
  • Commitment is foundational. Knowledge alone won’t get it. Who wants to be smart and lame?
  • Life is too short to always be running around getting your act together.
  • You’re not here to be nice. And being respectful, kind and committed matters. Do what matters.
  • Do you need additional core competencies to be generated in your personal or professional life?
  • Best marketing plan: integrity. Say who you will be and be it. Say what you will do and do it.
  • Floating deadlines = “It’s not going to get done.”
  • A person’s true commitment is demonstrated in the results that they produce – not in what they say.
  • Stop talking about your potential. Your potential and 2 bucks will get you a cup of coffee.
  • Slow learners = those who still haven’t realized that social media and outdated marketing won’t make them rich.
  • Trying to “get” is needy and desperate. Be committed. Be competent. Create value.
  • Being present to someone IS an act of love.
  • Making fierce claims isn’t bragging if you can back them up.
  • Intentional thinking is entirely different than merely having thoughts.
  • Getting weak results? Are you actually making sincere commitments or are you just making noise?
  • There is a huge difference between what one believes, and how one actually lives.
  • You can be resigned or you can be relevant. Choose.
  • The powerless focus on tasks. The powerful focus on results.
  • Train yourself to do WHAT MATTERS and stop engaging in distractive activities.
  • Hope is not a workable substitute for: low commitment or a lack of competency.
  • “Lead generation,” comes from powerful speaking – not from emailing people you don’t know.
  • People buy “who you are being,” and not what’s on your business card or website.
  • Commitment creates competency and not the other way around.
  • The world’s most powerful marketing tools = 1) Committed speaking. 2) Committed listening.
  • Successful entrepreneurs focus on what they intend to create. Unsuccessful entrepreneurs focus on what they want to avoid.
  • You will either impact your environment or your environment will define you.
  • Talking about things that you are never going to do is dysfunctional.
  • Don’t measure activity but measure “accomplishment.”
  • Be solid with yourself. How many people do you actually speak to and request that they buy your product or service?
  • Being reasonable kills life. It’s the unreasonable that rock the world.
  • The reason you failed is because you didn’t do what was required.
  • Never generalize from a specific.
  • To change your life shift from “wanting” to “creating.”
  • “Be that,” which “does that,” or else you won’t ever “do that.”
  • Avoidance is self-sabotage.
  • Excessive upsets? Low creation drive? Stop being offended. Start being committed.
  • Today is just as good as any to do epic stuff.
  • You can follow your bliss all day long. It doesn’t mean anyone will pay you for it.
  • It’s not enough to know about great ideas and brilliant information. It has to be created and lived to be of value.
  • Fantasy dreams are irrational. Practical dreams are rational and require sufficient commitment and competency.
  • Integrity is restored by giving up disempowering conversations.
  • A powerful life can’t be given to you. You have to create it.
  • Rising up doesn’t require money, luck or connections. It requires “rising up.”
  • Commitment is not found. It can only be created.
  • You can love someone and not like the way they act.
  • Just because you can tolerate something doesn’t mean that you have to.
  • Ultimate success strategy: 1) Commitment 2) Competency 3) Drop the BS and Magical Thinking.
  • True power: the willingness and ability to look into your own mind, and decide what is appropriate, and what is not.
  • A life well lived = showing up and not holding back.
  • A wasted life = holding back.
  • If you don’t make what you want a must, you normally won’t get it.
  • Making growth choices creates expansion and increases life. Making comfort choices creates more apathy.
  • You don’t need confidence to be successful. You just have to do what’s required.
  • A fierce sense-of-Self is all you ever really wanted.
  • Seeking leads to more seeking. Creating leads to creation.
  • Stating an opinion as if it were a fact won’t make it so.
  • You don’t need anyone’s permission to live powerfully. You can be the hero of your own life.
  • You can be loyal to people’s bigness or their smallness. It’s disrespectful to honor their smallness.
  • It’s important to know that people are not attracted to equals. So stop trying to be one.
  • Live out of your commitments, not out of your history.
  • Positive thinking and seeking happiness is not living life on your own terms.
  • Life doesn’t come with a purpose. You have to create one for yourself.
Credit: Collected and compiled through coaching interactions with Dusan’s SLC clients and members of the Straight-Line Coaching community.
Dusan Djukich is the innovator of Straight-Line Coaching and the best-selling author of Straight-Line Leadership: Tools for Living with Velocity and Power in Turbulent Times. He resides in Northern California and can be contacted through


Thursday, February 27, 2014

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Stress Management.


For the past many days I was feeling stressed and consulted doctors and many other healers. But the mental stress did not subside.

Yesterday, I wished to be a carpenter. I took saw, hammer and some nails. An old waste piece of wood i.e. plywood was picked from the left over pieces. 

I sawed the piece into sizes . Then I jointed the pieces with nails and a small table was made. 

I was very happy as I had become a carpenter. As benefit or the by-product of this manual labour was that I felt relaxed. Then I realized   that manual labour reduced stress. It is good source stress reduction.
शारिरिक काम करने से तनाब कम होता है 

Today, I became a mason. I took some bricks and made a step. I plastered it with cement and sand. It was rough, not up to the mark. But I was happy that I am able to do it though I am an Associate Professor by profession.

Only one more work is yet to be learned i.e. plumbing and many complaints from my second-half will be over.
इस छोटे से तजुर्बे ने यह बता दिया कि परिश्रम करने से शरीर ठीक रहता है

Sunday, November 3, 2013

The Power of Encouragement

Life's Lesson


DANTE GABRIEL ROSSETTI, the famous 19th century poet and artist,
 was once approached by an elderly man.


The old fellow had some sketches and drawings that he wanted
the great artist to look at.
 The old man wanted Rossetti to review the sketches
and tell him if they were any good,
or  if they at least show some potential talent.


Rossetti was a kind man.
He looked over the sketches very carefully.
After looking at the first few, the artist knew t
hat these sketches were worthless.
But because Rossetti was a kind man, he told the elderly man
 as gently as possible that the pictures were without much value
and showed little talent or promise.
He was sorry to tell the truth but he could not tell a lie to the man.
The man was disappointed but was not heart-broken,
 but he seemed to expect this kind of judgment.


The old man then apologized to the artist again
for taking up his valuable time,
but asked him to look at a few more drawings.


Rossetti graciously looked over the second batch of sketches.
The great artist immediately became enthusiastic
over the talent this second batch of sketches revealed.

“These”, he said, “ oh, these sketches are very good.
They show a lot of promise.”

“The young student has a great talent.
 He should be given every possible help
and encouragement.
 He has a great future.
He could become a great artist some day.”


Rossetti could see that the old fellow was deeply moved.

“ Who is this fine artist,” he asked the old man. “Your son?”


“No”, said the old man sadly.


“It is me – 40 years ago.
If only I had heard your praise then!
For you see, I got discouraged and gave up too soon.”


-         Author Unknown.

Source: The Sunday Tribune, Deepawali Nov. 3, 2013.




Sunday, October 27, 2013




“The Secret of Happiness”



A MERCHANT sent his son to learn the secret

of happiness from the wisest of men.


The YOUNG MAN wandered through the desert for

40 days until he reached a beautiful castle at the top of



There lived the sage that the young man was looking for.


However, instead of finding a holy man,
our hero entered a

room and saw a great deal of activity,
merchants coming and going,
people chanting in the corners,
a small orchestra playing sweet melodies,
 and there was a table laden with the most
delectable dishes of that part of the world.
The wise man talked to everybody,
and the young man had to wait for two hours
until it was time for his audience.


With considerable patience,
the Sage listened attentively to the reason for the boy’s visit,
told him that at that moment he did not have the time
 to explain to him the Secret of Happiness.
He suggested that the Youngman take a stroll
around his palace and come back into two hours’ time.
“However, I ask you a favour, “ he added,
handling the boy a teaspoon,
in which he poured two drops of oil.
“While you walk, carry this spoon
don’t let the oil spill.”


The young man began to climb up and down
the palace staircases, always keeping
his eyes fixed on the spoon.
At the end of two hours he returned
 to the presence of the wise man.

“So,” asked the wise man,
“did you see the Persian tapestries hanging in my dining room?
 Did you see the garden that the Master of Gardens
 took ten years  to create?
Did you notice the beautiful parchments in my library?”

Embarrassed, the young man confessed
that he had seen nothing.
His only concern was not to spill the drops
of oil that the wise man had entrusted to him.
“So, go back and see the wonders of my world,”
said the wise man.
“You can’t trust a man if you don’t know his house.”


Now at more ease,
 the young man took the spoon and strolled again
through the palace,
this time paying attention to all the works of the art
 that hung from the ceiling and walls.
He saw the gardens, the mountains all around
the palace, the delicacy of the flowers,
 the taste with which each work of art was placed in its niche.
 Returning to the sage, he reported in detail all that he had seen.


“But where are the two drops of oil that I entrusted to you,”
asked the Sage.


Looking down at the spoon,
the young man realized that he had spilled the oil.


“Well, that is the only advice I have to give you,”
the Sage said.


“The Secret of Happiness lies in looking at
all the wonders of the world
never forgetting the two drops of oil in the spoon.”


                                                            ----- The Alchemist by Paul Coetho.


Source: The Sunday Tribune, 27th October, 2013.