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Friday, March 16, 2012

You are powerful.


The truth is………………

The truth is, you can do whatever you choose to do.

The truth is, when you make it priority you will make it happen.

The limiting beliefs that hold you back are not based in Truth.

They are merely stories you tell yourself that have Grown so familiar you don’t even think is , to question them.

Yet the truth is, you can find your way beyond any Challenge.

The truth is, the only limits that permanently Hold you back are the limits you place on yourself.

You can choose to transform your limiting beliefs into Empowering affirmations. now to jump.

You can choose right now to jump Fully into creating the life of your dreams.

Sure, you have plenty of great excuses for not living life At its very highest level, but keep this in mind.

The very Fact that they’re excuses means they’re not really true.

The truth is you are unique, creative, powerful, passionate And worthy of the very best you can imagine.

Choose right Now to live your beautiful truth.


Friday, March 2, 2012

BE YOUR OWN BOSS


Dear 


Be your own boss. You are very intelligent. I have judged.

Having more education and clearing IELTS/TOEFL and getting education abroad will change your whole life.

Just recondition your mind and priorities.

Power affirmations are:
  1. I am best. I am the maker of my life.
  2. I am the boss of my life.
  3. I can do every thing.
  4. I can learn anything and apply that learning to improve my and my family’s life and the life of human beings in the world.
  5. I work hard and smart.
  6. SUCCESS IS MINE. NOBODY CAN STOP ME.
  7. I will not tell anyone till I achieve my success i.e. clear IELTS/TOEFL AND JOIN COLLEGE IN USA.
  8. There is nothing between me and my success except my efforts i.e. preparation.
Efforts 99% Success 100% = Result fail
Efforts 101% Success 100%= Result Pass

  1. For my success only I am responsible. It is my life.
  2. Nobody is responsible for my behaviour, work or results in life.

Repeat these affirmations yourself MENTALLY and don’t tell others. You will see the change in your personality and real life. Every body will be proud of you.

Tell and do nothing- all criticize. Keep secret and achieve what you want to achieve – all will be surprised and trust you.

With love,

Uncle



Thursday, March 1, 2012

IDEA

ONLY THAT IDEA

CLICKS AND WORKS

WHICH IS BACKED


BY THOROUGH KNOWLEDGE

AND FULLY TRUSTED AND BELIEVED

BY

YOU HONESTLY AND TRUTHFULLY.



WHAT THE MIND

CAN CONCEIVE

AND BELIEVE

IT CAN

ACHIEVE.


TRUTH ABOUT LIFE

SUCCESS

of life will create

crowd and fake friends.

LONELINESS

of life will create

space for you.


TOUGH TIME

in life will create

the TRUE person in you.



MY GUIDE

MLE

M means morality i.e. moral living.
L  means legality i.e. no unlawful living or doing.
E  means ethics i.e. discriminate what is right and what is wrong and never hurt the feelings of others with my words or behaviour.

COMPLAIN AGAINST ME.


If any person or reader has any complaint or objection on account of the postings in this blog, kindly write to me at mympi98@gmail.com.

I will delete the posting or the offending material.  I don’t wish to hurt anybody’s sentiments and neither wish to fringe anybody’s copyright done so out of mistake. 

For me all humans on this planet EARTH are God’s incarnation.

If anybody needs any guidance from me, then also write. I shall be doing so.

You are very dear to me. 

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

MENTORING




I can help you by mentoring you anywhere in the world.
Be free to contact me on email: mympi98@gmail.com
I am an International Trainer and motivator. It is FREE. Help to me comes from unknown quarters. So, this is to help you.

THANK YOU


I thank a lot to  
DR. JON of WebBusiness Secrets.com LLC, 679, Ste 215, New York, NT 10036 USA

FOR
teaching, training and introducing me to the world of blogging, internet  and enabling me  to  express  my thoughts fearlessly in response to my letter published in The Tribune though I am from India. I love USA and friends there.I also thank GOOGLE for providing  me a blog. I express freely here and my  mind now is relaxed. I have never met Dr. Jon or Google people. I thank them all from the core of my heart. Despite being highly qualified, educated and talented, I was feeling suffocated in my family and friends's group. 

Now I am quite aware what I am made for.    It is over 3 years since my world is changed. I have grown wiser and fit for living.

NOW I HAVE BEEN ABLE TO INDENTIFY WHAT IS MY PASSION AND DREAM. BOTH ARE CLEAR TO ME.

Thursday, February 23, 2012

Family


Dear Reader,

 Marriage is not a big problem. Marriage is a pious bond between the two souls. Irresponsible living is like a beast boasting of its prowess in the jungle. Any time, if it falls ill or hurt, its illness can turn into serious disease and then fatal to life as there is none to attend or serve. Even emotional support is highly needed to survive in the world. First 45-50 years are full of energy and rest need companion socially and morally bound to serve. Mere presence of the spouse is enough for happy living.

Here I mention the case of a very haughty officer. He used to abuse and quarrel with his wife though they had two sons. His wife was beautiful and  principal of a school. The mother of the officer, quite illiterate created lot of hue and cry when she(the principal)  used to come back tired from the school. Every day's quarrel and nagging made the officer to go for divorce. Divorce was dreaded by the people of the village but  the officer went ahead and was fully supported by the legal fraternity.

While the divorce proceedings were pending in the court, the wife made efforts and got good job in US. The honourable court granted divorce and the principal went to the US with two sons. Officer stayed with mother for a long period. Now when the officer is retired and mother is dead, this officer calls his wife in US but the sons who are grown up do not allow the mother to reply.

I see this man drinks every day and abuses everyone in the locality out of frustration. Everybody is fed up from his behaviour. Now the wife and sons are in US and this officer is all alone without any member in the family.

Many times, a question crops up in my mind. Where is the honourable judge who passed the decree of divorce? Where is the legal fraternity that helped him to get the divorce? Where is mother who used to curse and nag the spouse? Nobody is there to help this officer. Now this officer is fighting his life's battle all alone. I perceive that his life is shortened by 15-20 years. I find him murmuring, confused and irritating. Had he visualized the life after retirement, he would have not been that adamant on divorce. All relations need balancing.
  All fears are mental fears. Not real. Your father has to marry you off as per his wish and liking. You will marry off your children. That’s the world. No parents no kids. So, agree politely and confidently and I assure you that you will enjoy this social bonding. Don’t interpret any thing and do not over analyse. 10, 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 all together make a family. How can you expect that 10 = 70 and 30= 40. Behaviour of different members is different but the greatest thing that family is one – united. Express, quarrel, contest, agree, disagree but never be divided. Family is the nuclear unit of this world.

My father stayed with me for about 1 month after 54 years of my life. I found that he is not that bad as I had apprehended right from birth. It is not a question, how many times he has thrashed me and scolded, what matters most is that even after 54 years life, when ever needed he has stood there. Right till today, I used to blame my parents and other relatives because they never used the words which my ears wanted to listen.

But now I have come to know that spoken words are never complete. At one time at the age of say: 30 my mother roared like a lioness and we all dreaded it. But now at 80 she is unable to speak well. We use our empathy to understand her needs. The speaker’s words do not match our perception and this all causes the problem. These are called communication Barriers.

You are educated and read the books. This all changes your perception. And you react to a situation more intelligently and fearlessly. But it is not possible with your mom or papa.I have read many books and that has given me lot of logical and verbal power.

How can my mother respond to my logical and verbal power? If I expect that my mother at the age of 80 should speak and act as I do, then it is my mistake not hers. Simply I gave this message to my mind and I am feeling very light mentally and concentrating on my job.

The world was here and it will remain here. Mark Twain once remarked: Don’t expect the world will do anything or change for you. Only you have to change yourself to fit in this world. The world was here, is here and will be here even after you go from this world.

An individual who fits into the world feels freedom. Earlier I used to tell the people around me about my plans, and they used to laugh at me. But now I do not tell the people. I just listen, listen and listen. My interaction with the relatives or people who do not matter is reduced to 10%. This way I am feeling very happy. Now I don’t fear problems but face them directly. I don’t say: You change, you say, you should, you ought. I find that it is my fault and appreciate others. This has built my mental health and strengthening the relationships which are very esssential to live the life.

Entire mechanism of the world is based on network. You spoke on phone, this is network. But this network is useful if we have people to speak. Can you speak without a listener? No not at all.

We are the kids of the people who were born under British rule. They have faced lot of problems to bring us up. You will realize this when you will have the kids. Bringing up own children is really a tedious task – a regular mental worry, living in scare. Mental freedom used to be alien to our mothers. There is no God, only parents.


I have told you the story of god Shivji, Parvati, Ganeshji and Kartike. Written communication is soothing communication and more understandable. Spoken words generate heat after a period of time. While speaking, health of the person, time and place the speaker or listener and the mental interpretation of the words all work together. Spoken communication can never be the same, soothing or simple and understandable. So, write mails and learn to keep yourself happy and pleasing. It gets hot.

I use this method and many problems are over. One of my auntie used to create lot of hue and cry. I wrote her a long letter and expressed every thing I felt about her and her behaviour. My life is saved. Now she does not come much and does not disturb us much. I analysed, she always talked what is wrong with the people and the world where as we are living very happily. She always talked about money, about what the people lacked or she lacked in comparison to others. This all had created lot of mental tension for her and her face and body was all presenting a walking weak body emanating negative vibrations. Similarly, your parents are talking. Reality can be totally different than your interpretations. What a man needs in life:

  1. Air to breathe
  2. Water to drink
  3. Food to eat
  4. Clothing to cover body
  5. Shelter to live
  6. Rest all is luxury and the entire world is racing after this.

It is upto you to be happy or to be unhappy. Happiness will start from the day you will decide that I am not going to be happy for anyone or anything.

Earlier I used to think about my sisters, brother and mother. But now I mentally have told myself that they are enjoying. Why should I trouble myself? It has really worked and I am mentally happy and healthy. All psychological problems are faced in real world and I find there is no problem. All were mental created by the people who knew nothing about the problem. Talking, talking and talking. Fear, fear and fear. Fear of losing caused many problems. But now that’s over.


 ijNdgI myN KuISAwN fUFogy qo KuiSAwN iml jweyNgI, gm fUFogy qO gm hI imlyNgy[
Wealth is lost, nothing is lost
Health is lost, something is lost
Character is lost, everything is lost.

Do you have health and character? Then where  is the worry. My health is OK and I am feeling at the top of the world.

So, go ahead and get married. You will be very happy. Over expectations and mental possessions poison the life

YOU ARE UNIQUE


kUJ AnoKw

jo cl pVw,
auh phUNc igAw

jo rukw rhw
auh ipCV igAw

kdm-kdm Awgy bVo
eyk-eyk sIVI aupr cVo

Apxw iek lkS bxwa
aDr lgwqwr bVqy jwaU

Awls CoVo, swhs jutwa
kUC AnoKw krky idKwa

Basic Etiquettes


kivqweyN
sNquln
iCCwlydr n kro iksI kI,
kBI n iksI ko sqwa

hNsI iTTolI ky bhwny,
idl n iksI kw duKwa

koml hoqI hYN svyNdnweyN
Tys n aUnhy phUNcwa[

Awqm smwn sB kw hoqw hY
jyh bwq n kBI BUlwa[

ivvhwr myN sNqUln brqo
swmwne iSStwcwr sdw inBwa[

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

WISE LEARNING

BEWARE OF

Depth of dirty water and

behaviour of a stranger i.e. unknown or less known person

as their behaviour and depth cannot be predicted.

Unskilled handling can turn out to be fatal.

Hymn for curing eyes


Æ  siqgur pRswid [[
(AMg øúò)
 
  AKwN dy sB rOg dUr hOvx
     gauiV mhlw õ[[(pMnw òúú)

nyqR pRgws kIqw gurdyv[[
Brm gey pUrn BeI syv[[ rhwaU[[

sIqlw qy riKAw ivhwrI[[
pwrbRhm pRB ikrpw DwrI[[ñ[[

nwnk nwm jpy so jIvy[[
swD sNg hr AimRq pIvy[[ò[[ñúó[[ ñ÷ò[[
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ieh Sbd nyqR riKAw vwsqy øú idn jpxw ñúø bwr roj,
sB rog dUr hox nyqR pRkwS hox, sIqlw qoN riKAw lie sIqlw dy bImwr kol bYT ky jpx nwl sIqlw qON riKAw hovy[

Peace


AMg øöø
Æ  siqgur pRswid [[

gONf mhlw õ

nwm inrMjnu nIrI nrwiex[[
 rsnw ismrq pwp ivlwiex[[ñ[[ rhwau[[

nwrwiex sB mwih invws[[nwrwiex Git Git prvws[[
nwrwiex krqy nrk n jwih[[
nwrwiex sYiv sgl Pl pwih[[ñ[[

nwrwiex mn mwh ADwr[[nwrwiex bYihb sNswr[[
nwrwiex krq jm Bwg plwiex[[
nwrwiex dMq Bwny fwiex[[ò[[

nwrwiex sd sd bKiSMd[[nwrwiex ikxy suK ANnd[[
nwrwiex pRgt kIny prqwp[[
nwrwiex sNq ky mwie bwp[[ó[[

nwrwiex swD sNg nwrwiex[[ bwrM bwr nwrwiex gwiex[[
bsr Agocr gur imil lhI [[
nwrwiex at nwnk dws ghI[[ô[[
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ies Svd ivc ñ÷ vwrI nwrwiex AwieAw hY [ SRI guru gRNQ swihb ivc øõ vwr nwrwiex
AwieAw hY[ ies lie ies nUN pMj vwr jpx nwl hr iksm dw duK, klyS, BUq, pryq qON CUtkwrw imldw hY[ prmySr dw imlwp hUMdw hY[ hr ieCw purI ho jwNdI hY[

ALCOHOL


Alcohol abuse, its effects on society as well as habitual drinkers, has become a major topic of discussion in the British Society, even as the opinion-makers struggle to find ways to cope with systematic abuse and binge drinking.

TIME FOR A NEW APPROACH TO ALCOHOL
NICK EDWARDS

As an Accident and Emergency doctor, I see at first hand the effects that our booze culture is having on our health. And it scares me: self-induced illness costing the NHS a fortune, putting millions of patient’s health at risk ….. and taking my time away from looking after other patients. Some days I just despair. Last week was one of them.

In the same shift three teenagers were brought in before 9 pm dangerously drunk – the all drank vast quantities of beeer/wine/vodka/odd-coloured – surgery-alcohol-pop, before going out and then collapsed at various places outside the clubs they were on route to.

Ambulances were called and they were brought to my care. One was so drunk we had to suction out the vomit from her mouth to stop her choking to death. Another girl wet herself and then proceeded to vomit on the floor and hurl abuse at the staff. The third was so unconscious we ended up having to take over their breathing and taking them for a CT scan of their head to check that they hadn’t had a head injury. Why on why does this happen so regularly?

Alcohol induced fights
       Later on that evening there had been a punch up outside a night club – alcohol induced. Involved were two patients. Injuries were one facial bone fracture, one neck laceration from biting, two broken hands and a ruptured liver from being kicked in the stomach.
      Between them, the patients had a total of four operations, over 10 days in hospital- four of which were in intensive care and had a total of three A&E doctors, six surgeons, four anesthetists, six intensive care doctors, seventeen nurses, twelve operating department practitioners, three physiotherapists, three pharmacists and an occupational therapist involved in their care. It becomes obvious why alcohol is so expensive for the NHS.ass

     But it is not just your typical binge drinker tha causes problems. Last week a 68 year old retired solicitor came in. His partner had called an ambulance after he fell down the stairs. He had had his usual daily alcohol; four pints of Stella and a couple’ of whisky chasers not to mention a ‘few’ glasses of claret. He fractured his neck and skull and nearly died from internal bleeding. He had to put him to sleep, take him for an emergency scan and then to theatre and then to intensive care. He will survive but it is unlikely he will walk again. His care will be reassuring expensive for the tax payer.

      Chronic alcohol use
Then there are the effects of chronic alcohol use. A 45 year old man came in as he felt so terrible – so terrible that he had n’t been able to drink for two days – a very worrying sign. He had been drinking dialy since he had married. He a drank a bottle of wine with his meal each night and then before bed, a glass or two of whisky. He worked as an office manager, had two children and was very typical friendly next door neighbour.
           But he had given himself alcoholic hepatitis. His liver couldn’t cope any more with this level of alcohol and had gone into “shut-down”. Unless he stops drinking it won’t be long before this is a permanent state, liver cirrhosis develops and then he could become another sad statistic.
           Sometimes at work, you just despair and wonder why it is happening. Of all the drugs there are alcohol is the most dangerous – in the short term and long term. It is also the drug which cuases the most problems and costs the most for the NHS.
            Drinking glamourised
But all that has happened in the last few years is binge drinking has been glamourised and alcohol has been become easier to get and cheaper.
            So, what can society do? We need to de-glambourise alcohol – celebrities have a role to play as we know the influence they have. But we all need to be more responsible : teaching our children sensible limits and drinking responsibility ourselves. How many people reading think it is ok to drink a bottle of wine at night?  As my patient showed it is dangerous and you need to cut-down. Learn how much is safe to drink and stick to it otherwise you could end up in a similar state.

But the government needs to act. Self regulation of the alcohol industry has failed. We need a coordinate approach, which doesn’t damage the pub trade or affect the millions of people who sensibly enjoy a few pints a week.
            
             The health of our populations is more important than the share prices of a few drinks companies and supermarket.

            Here is my manifesto:

             We need a minimum alcohol price; supermarkets should be banned from selling crazily cheap alcohol. Not only would it cut alcohol consumption, but would help pubs as people will be less inclined to drink at home.

            Change Culture

We should encourage European style café culture and not a let’s get as drunk as possible as quickly as possible. Pubs should be forced to have adequate seats and tables and not be “vertical drinking” establishment. Redesigning of pubs has been shown to cut down massively on excess drinking. 24-hour drinking has not really increased alcohol drinking in A&E, it has spread it out throughout the night. I would be happy for 24 hour drinking to continue if real changes were made to drinking culture.
           
            Curb Promotions

Promotions which encourage excess drinking should be banned – drink as much as you can for a tenner, buy one get one free shots etc.

We should have a tax which is reflective on how strong the alcohol is and how likely it is to be drunk by underage teenagers. Overall tax should be increased on alcohol as this has shown an overall decrease in demand. It may not be popular but a few extra pence a week for the majority of sensible drinkers would save thousand of precious lives a year.
Clubs and pubs should be fined much more if they sell under age people and drunken people. The extra taxes should be hypothecated and not enter into general taxation pot. They should pay for alcohol withdrawal programmes and extra A&E staff for evenings when the consequence of alcohol hit us.

Don’t glamourise drinking

Finally, adverts glamourising alcohol should be banned and there should be explicit labels how much alcohol there is in drinks shown on the front of drinks.
            If any from drink industry does not believe me, then please join me on Saturday night in A & E. You will go home in despair, as I do most  nights and you will be persuaded that something needs to be done.

                               The write is a doctor who wrote the book “ In stitches, the highs and lows of life as an A & E doctor.” --- The Independent.

Source: The Tribune, February 18, 2012.


DRINKING


Binge-drinking can go the way of smoking

Steve Richards

Often in government in a policy surfaces from nowhere and comes to have more impact than those that attract a mountain of words in the media. Harold Wilson’s introduction of the Open University is one such example, his most life-enhancing policy as Prime Minister and one that got virtually no attention in advance, at least compared with his long forgotten pay policies.

Think also of the one measure implemented by Tony Blair that will have more positive impact on the NHS and people’s lives than all his reforms and increased investment, important though the higher spending was. Let us raise a glass to the smoking ban in public places, a policy hardly mentioned in all th books about the New Labour era and which attracted relatively little attention at the time of implementations, compared with, say a row between Gordon Brown and Blair over the wording of a speech on Europe. Of course, there were blazing disagreements over NHS reform, too, but the resulting policies, let alone those being considered by Andrew Lansley, don’t save any where near as much money or as many lives as the ban will eventually do.
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Smoking outdoors

Teenagers used to discover a love of smoking in pubs. They are not able to discover the love in such convivial circumstances any more. I see a few of them outside pubs in sub-zero temperatures. They take their drags as they freeze, almost bent over in physical pain. Some of them will give up. Some of those indoors will not start. They will save the NHS a fortune.
Foolish libertarians opposed the ban at the time, but even some of those accept now that the freedom for non-smokers to sit in public places without breathing in the equivalent of 20 Marlboros is also a liberty. The former Health Secretary, John Reid, was against the move on the grounds that it discriminated against the working-class people who enjoyed a smoke in their clubs. But Reid tended to make the wrong call. The smoking ban is here to stay. Let us raise another glass.

Smoking ban worked

 But let us not raise too many glasses. David Camron has identified his equivalent cause, highlighting the drinking culture in the UK as the “scandal of our society”. He estimates that the cost to the NHS us up Pound 3 billion. His remedies are to be unveiled next month, but he is apparently resolved to implement a “big bang” approach rather than opt for cautious incremental measures.
            Let us raise a glass of orange juice. He is right to identify the urgency of the situation and must therefore counter the still vibrant libertarian instincts of some of his advisers and colleagues. Perhaps it is an instinct he shares, too. Cameron opposed the smoking ban at first, although he has since acknowledged that the measure has worked.
          Some of his proposals might help ease the pressure on crazily overworked A & E wards in hospitals on Fridays and Saturdays, and a few other nights of the week, too. They include more police on patrol in A&E departments, and “booze buses” – vehicles staffed with paramedics to help intoxicated revelers. But the key is to reduce the amount of alcohol consumed. This is not easily achieved.
           
            On-the-spot fine
           
            When Blair proposed taking drunks to a cash machine in order to pay an on –the –spot fine, the poor old Home Office Minister at the time, Charles Carke had to pop up to explain that the idea was a “metaphor”. The more practical route is to make cheap drinks more expensive, either by statutory minimum pricing or much higher taxes. May be such a more penalizes moderate drinkers, but they will benefit from the lower level of disorder, and spare cash for the NHS.
            From within the Government, the libertarians twitch nervously at such a prospect. In his NHS reforms, Andrew Lansley had hoped to ensure that Health Secretary was no longer responsible for the NHS, so he is hardly going to enthuse about imposing a price on a bottle of cider. He is not alone in having faith in voluntary measures. If Cameron goes along this more cautious route, Britain will remain befuddled by booze.

             Voters’ permission
            Blair gave serious consideration to a “voluntary smoking ban”, a classic Third Way measure that would have achieved nothing.
            At a Downing Street seminar I attended towards the end of his rule, on the relationship between the state and health, he expressed what happened over the ban in a revealing way.
           “The voters gave us permission to impose the ban,” he said. Polls, focus groups and the rest of stifling evidence that paralyses leaders into not doing very much at all suggested that the ban would be popular.
             Using prices to determine behaviour is arguably more sensitive, but when that behaviour starts to improve, we will wonder why such controls were not used before.
            Preventive measures are the most effective route to saving the NHS money. Tackling obesity must be next. If Cameron succeeds with binge drinking, he will do more for nation’s health than he will with any of his other more publicized reforms.

                                                            - The Independent

Source: The Tribune, Saturday February 18, 2012.

STRESS MANAGEMENT


CONQUER STRESS
Children face many hurdles in getting a good score in board and competitive exams.

Usha Albuquerque lists remedial measures that can help students.
Stress is what most students are experiencing nowadays, especially those who are on the verge of appearing for the board examinations.

There are several reasons that add to stress load among students. In today’s fast paced competitive world students have to ensure that they consistently score good marks in order to be able to make it not only to the next class but more so, to qualify for admissions to college. With increasing numbers competing for limited seats  in the better known and recognized institutions, those who are unable to cope, or slacken in their studies in any way, feel the pressure of competition. This is particularly so near examination time, when the course has to be completed in class, tutorial work continues alongside and there is anxiety of exams looming ahead. Students who may not have covered all the portions to be revised feel the pressure as it gets intensified during this time:

There are certain tips that are worth keeping in mind, in order to cope with stress:

  • Preparations for examinations should begin at the beginning of the year. Continuous revision and practice on sample papers is one way of keeping pace with the work being done in school.
  • It is also important to keep one’s expectation realistic. Not everyone can make it to the top institutions or courses. Yet the same time it is good to be aware of other alternatives, opportunities and courses for students who are unable to meet the cut off requirements. And parents and teachers must understand this and be as supportive as possible.
  • The immediate hours or day before an exam should be kept purely for last minute revision. This is when you can work over the sections which you have found tough during the earlier reviews and tests. It is not the time for study of new materials, as your anxiety will work against retaining anything new. It is, therefore, important to complete all the revision well in advance.
  • You will have to make drastic changes in your daily schedule cutting down on all distracting activities. You don’t have to cut off all these activities completely, but curtail these sufficiently to get you some extra hours each day. You must however, give yourself break times when you can relax with   a book, movie or TV show. Make sure you also maintain an exercise regimen, as physical exercise is know to enhance mental performance.
  • Ensure that you stay healthy. You cannot afford to fall sick during exam time. All the year’s hard work will be wiped out it you fall sick. So get enough sleep, eat sensibly and at regular hours(eating  out at wayside dhabas and junk food exposes you to infections of all kinds- avoid them) and make sure you get sufficient relaxation- take a break every couple of hours. Better 5 minutes break after every 30 minutes’ study. Your time-table should also include meal times, relaxation periods, exercise and sleep. Taking a walk, running or playing a sport will help you return to studies more refreshed. Also, make sure that you do not lose out on your sleep. You must make it a point to get at least 7 hours of sleep every night. And don’t be over ambitious. Make a realistic schedule. Trying to do too much will only you frustrated and more anxious.
  • Parents and teachers can play a very vital role in helping student cope with stress. Parents should help to create an environment suitable for study.  A separate part of the house where the students can have peace and quiet is essential. There should be limited number of distractions, and parents should ensure that the child gets sufficient relaxation period.
  • If examination phobia is making your child ill, worried, stressed, then you need to talk to your child about it and encourage him/her to rationalize the problem and come to terms with the anxiety. Parents can help students concentrate on preparation rather than worrying about marks. If the anxiety is more acute, however, professional help should be sought.
  • Most important however, is for parents not to transfer their anxieties on their children, nor to burden them with unrealistic expectations.
  • Teachers, on the other hand, are the best guides for help before examinations. They are experienced and have seen so many other students through this difficult period and know the problems they may encounter.
  • Most importantly, students must learn to relax. If you are an anxious kind of person, take long deep breaths every time you feel nervous. This will calm you down. You can also start by sitting for one mock exam every day from now on, keeping the same timing as will for the real test.
  • Make sure you arrive for the exam well in time, and that you have all the required material with you, ready and available, if possible, the night before. Once you sit with the question paper, spend extra 15 minutes to read it carefully and understand each question clearly before attempting the answer – underline key words and instructions. Tick the questions you intend to answer. Make a rough timetable, allocating equal time to equally weighted questions- and allow for about 10 minutes at the end for a final review. Answer the easiest questions first and save the most difficult one for last. Finally, if there are certain questions you feel you cannot answer, move on to the next and answer well those you know.
  • Relax- exams are just the pebbles on your road to success. Tactful manipulation of the questions effectively will enable you to racing ahead to victory.
-         The writer is a career expert.

Source: Jobs & Careers, The Tribune, February 15, 2012.

WORK AND HAPPINESS


HAPPINESS @ WORK

GEMS OF ANCIENT WISDOM

Spouses and Success

Behind every worldly successful person, there has to be a supporting spouse at home. Not many can fight and win at two fronts- in the professional world and at home. In 1905, freedom fighter Subramnia Bharati met Sister Nivedita at Calcutta. On her asking whether he was married, Bharati answered in the affirmative, “Then why don’t you include your wife in your fight against the British? Freedom would be meaningless if half of the population i.e. women remain enslaved.”

The marriage of Marie and Pierre Curie was partnership of love and genius. During the day, they researched together in Pierre’s lab. They studied till late in the night at home. Together they discovered two radioactive elements- polonium and radium – and shared the Nobel Prize fir physics in 1903 with Henri Becquerel. Chennama of Keladi had no blue blood in her. But when Somashekhara Nayak, King of Keladi (in Malnad area of Karnatka), married this merchant’s daughter in 1663, she quickly learnt archery, horse riding and the royal etiquettes with her husband’s active support. After her husband’s poisoning, she lost the kingdom to the Jannapont –led Bijapur army. She won it back and was crowned queen in 1671. She was one of the few rulers who defied Emperor Aurangzed by giving passage to Shivaji’s fleeing son Rajaram.

Even while her husband Bhimrao earned a reasonable salary, Ramabai managed the household on meager amount as her husband was planning to go to London to study.
She also saw to it that Bhimrao’s studies were not disturbed on any count.   With her support, her husband Dr. Bhimrao Ambedkar went on to write the Constitution of world’s biggest democracy- India.

Nationalist Prabhavati found the right match in Jayaparkash Narayan. Not only did she pose no hindrance when JP decided to go to USA for higher studies, but she also stayed in Gandhiji’s Sabarmati Ashram during that period. Later when JP was lodged in Deoli jail she unsuccessfully tried to smuggle out a packet of letters from JP to other freedom fighters. The Prince of Wales was scheduled to visit Calcutta on December 24, 1921. So, Deshabhandu Chitranjan Das asked volunteers to sell khadi in the streets and observe ‘hartal’ in protest. His wife Basanti Devi was one of the first to be arrested for doing so.

Let your better half make you the best!



Source: The Tribune, Wednesday                                   - 

SITTING JOBS


UNHEALTHY EFFECTS OF DESK JOB
A BRITISH study has said people in desk jobs could be compromising with their health as it often perpetrates a sedentary life style. According to the research, sitting at a desk all day means you are more likely to slump on the sofa at home and perform no exercise. The average office worker spends five hours 41 minutes daily at their desk, almost as long as the seven hours they spend sleeping, the Daily Express reported.

These deskbound workers are more likely to turn into couch potatoes, increasing their risk of obesity, says the researchers at the Loughborough University, a research-based campus university in Britain’s Leicestershire county. The trend is partly blamed on technology making it simpler for lazy people at offices to email a colleague rather than walking over to see them, if adds.                          - IANS
Source: The Tribune, February 15, 2012.

Sitting Job



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OFFICE MANTRA


OFFICE
MANTRA
 
Outmatch green-eyed monster.
Ragini Gulati
JEALOUSY is a natural emotion that starts from childhood, continues into adulthood and lasts throughout our lives. Be it craving for a friend’s new bicycle or resenting a colleague’s promotion, it can happen to people of all ages. Every professional encounters some form of jealousy, whether deserved or not, from her/his co-workers. More than often it is sparked off when a colleague wants something that we have – a better designation, pay packet or perk. Although a normal part of life, it can be daunting when someone takes his jealous feelings too far. Jealous colleagues can not only create an unpleasant atmosphere at workplace, but also be extremely damaging for one’s career. Most importantly – jealousy damages relationships, disrupts teams, and undermines organizational performance. So, it must be dealt with wisely to surmount negative feelings at workplace.

Question yourself

Before blaming the jealous colleague critically evaluate your own behaviour and manners. Ask yourself whether you have fueled their feelings or done something to ignite their jealousy. Try to regard out how you might have contributed to it in any way. There is a possibility that you bragged about your promotion, spoke harshly or belittled the colleague. More than often it is not our success but our behaviour that draws ire from co-workers. Identify your negative traits and tone down your attitude which could trigger jealousy in co-workers. In case you have been arrogant in the past, apologise and a show a change of heart.

Be nice

No matter how badly the jealous person behaves, exhibit kindness and patience towards him/her, approach the co-worker with a helping hand, despite envious glances and rude comments. Although they may not take up on your offer, but will surely drop the jealous act. Find out how long the person concerned has been working in the particular field and make it a point of giving compliments where warranted. The nicer you are, stronger are the changes of the stained relationship becoming more positive. Moreover, this approach has the added benefit that you will be perceived as a true professional, even in the face of misconduct from the jealous co-worker.

Keep record

Maintain record of any confrontations or arguments that you had with the jealous individual. Document specific incidences of hostility by saving emails, notes or voice mails sent by the person concerned. However, avoid engaging in an unimportant professional exchange and responding to the co-worker’s jealous missives. Address the issue in person, if necessary but ensure that he has none of your words in print. These records will act as proof to validate your word against his and also make it possible for the supervisor to verify the version as presented by you. Additionally jot down information such as dates and witnesses in journal to help recall relevant details.

Focus on performance

Rather than exhausting yourself in an emotional turmoil and start making one mistake after another, be the best at what you do. Concentrate energies on constructive activities to avoid losing sight of work responsibilities. More than often, jealous co-workers are not satisfied just by antagonizing and go one step further by trying to sabotage what makes you successful. Keep your nose to the grindstone so as not to let them find faults that they can turn against you. It is especially important to ensure that work assignments are completed in an exemplary manner. Go the extra mile and do more than what your job requires.

Avoid retaliation

Jealous co-workers look for opportunity to annoy you to the extent that you lose your self-control and say or do something out of line. Difficult as it may be, it is however, necessary to succeed in staying cool and collected while dealing with subtle attacks. Always remember that two negatives don’t make a positive. No matter how tempted you might be, don’t resort to revenge. If you start returning tit for tat, you are no better than the jealous co-worker. Also ignore attempts of war by gossip mongers since they only want to be entertained at your expense.

Ignore

Although easier said than done, the best way to deal with jealous people is to completely ignore them. Don’t allow yourself to be affected by a co-worker who is envious and finds it difficult to feel happy for you. Rather than to ruin  your composure and peace of mind over them, push yourself to work harder. Learn to detach by focusing time, energy and talent on productive pursuits. Most people get jealous because they are not getting enough attention. However, once they realize that you are unaffected with their negativity, they will eventually stop. Nothing is worse for a jealous person than not getting through to their intended victim.

ENERGY


ENERGY- TRUE RELIGION

That which is accepted by an individual- males, females, children, olds everyone and society at large is a true religion. Ascetic Kannadi says: What creates welfare for all in this world and in the world next is true religion.

Religion is not narrow and blind as interpreted  by various many religious leaders citing various hymns or definitions from  the holy scriptures. The religion means raising the level of consciousness beyond mental narrowness confined to caste, creed, color,gender or nationality. It works for the welfare of humans of all hues. True religion when practiced transcends this mental narrowness. It’s a self-effort.

When we analyse a religion deeply, we come to know that a human life is not moving from false living to good living but from good living to higher living and truth, from truth to higher truth. We all are the progeny of one God and are basically bonded with each other at soul level.

Unity is the essence of religion. All religions teach us non-violence, love all in the world be it environment or nature. In the holy scriptures, it is envisaged that serving the needy, poor and weak is the highest service and highest religion too.

Our saints have widely analysed and popularised the religion. Knowledge and science is widely now being talked and discussed and taking over the true religion. Sensitive to humans’ difficulties and problems is declining. Growing materialism in the minds of the constituents of this world is another reason of worry for humanistic mind. Proliferation of science without sensitivity to human aspect can develop hydrogen bombs that can cause loss of humans greater than the losses in Hiroshima and Nagasaki. Indian culture looks at religion from a large perspective and terms the war too as “religious war”. Religion is primarily leads the minds of the Indians. In Mahabharata, armies fought but never lost the humanistic perspective while dealing with enemies. Perhaps, the present time Charter of Human Rights by United Nations if dug well may have roots to those times.

True religion elevates our mental level and directs us to spiritualism. Spiritually developed individual works for the welfare of all humans like air which is essential to breathe.

What the living being need- air, water, clothing, home and then luxuries. But the greed grinds at the root of the mind and takes it to an extent where we develop sins.

Absence of true religion causes proliferation of materialism and curtails spiritualism. This attitude is a great mental wall for the philosophy “Live and Let Live”.

True religion teaches and trains our minds to accept others as they are and practice “Live and Let Live” philosophy. This is possible only if we mentally (directing process of thinking)  practice non-violence, peace, satisfaction with what we have on day to day basis. This form of true religion if practiced by all can make this planet really secure for all.       

EDUCATION LEADERSHIP


Shaping youth for tomorrow.
Rajesh Gill

EDUCATION is the backbone of any society, since it performs the vital functions of informing, socializing and civilizing the young minds that are gradually getting into the spaces, both private and public, where significant decisions are going to be made. In other words, it is this youth, the target group of any education system in a society, which shall be giving a shape to the future social system, including the economic, political and cultural. But as a matter of fact, the educational system comprising schools, colleges, universities and other technical institutions happens to be just one segment of the broader system that educates the young minds. The other segments include family, neighbourhood, media, market, religion, polity and so on. It is generally assumed that the spaces where our youth are imparted education are only in classrooms, with teachers at the steering, lading the process.

A few decades ago, these spaces no doubt comprised the most important segment out of all the others, the family and neighbourhood coming next, since the youth had little exposure to either market or media. Their interface with religion and polity was by and large mediated through the family. One the other hand, today’s young brigade has a direct, uninterrupted and continuous interface with market, media and polity, while the family and the school have been pushed to the background. Both education and market/media have youth as the most important target group but with a subtle difference.
So far as our country is concerned, it is liable to universalize education which is a national goal and for that the numbers matter the most. Having woked on school enrolment figures, the global pressures through quality control measures have forced India to enhance its enrolment ratio in higher education. This endeavour is being pursued by the country increasing the number of higher educational institutions all over the country, resulting into higher enrolment.
Going back to the issue, while the stakeholders in educational institutions, teachers being most pertinent, have no personal interest in educating the students, beyond completing (or not) the syllabi in the privacy of classrooms, the stakeholders in market and media successfully and aggressively reach out to the target youth. The inputs as well as incentives in both the ventures therefore are quite varied, differently motivated and ignited. The results are bound to be different too. Education in this sense thus is lackluster, frivolous, dispensable and uninteresting. What these institutions in fact are imparting is not education but mere information, without any context, value frame or relevance. Under these circumstances, the zeal with which the stakeholders in the corporate sector work, with commercial stakes lying high, has no match with their counterparts in the educational sector.
The consequence is a complete trivialization of education not only in its content but even its essentiality. If education is just information, one can have it through online programmes or open schools/universities, as per one’s own convenience. In fact, going to a particular school or college or university has primarily become a matte of status symbol. With a huge premium placed on the brands, that too the international ones, thanks to globalisation, one opts for a school or university, mainly for the tag that it carries. In such a system, one can very well understand the plight of a school or college situated in a remote rural area, attended by all those (including teachers as well) not having access to the better ones. How can one expect them to deliver quality education, when they too are restlessly waiting for an opportunity to move to the core, in an earnestness to join the bandwagon?
The most important question is, does education really imply dissemination of information only? What about the live experience of having a teacher in flesh and blood, who does not just pass on information but is ideally supposed to guide and direct the students not only towards their goals but even the means they should adopt. Has the teaching community completely surrendered before the market and media choosing the most convenient option? This is the reason why a teacher has lost the glory s/he had been enjoying through the ages. In order to actually educate the highly exposed, intelligent and difficult students, teachers have to be ahead of them in knowledge(not in information), communication, interpersonal skills and self-confidence. In the name of democracy and individualism, it has been foolish for teachers, especially in higher educational institutions, to throw away the authority that naturally goes with their profession. Yes, a teacher is supposed to be the greatest friend of his/her students, most trustworthy of all, but does that mean only gossiping, smoking and drinking with them, with a non-interfering attitude at a time when they need an advice? Respecting others’ privacy in no way implies a lack of empathy and concern, especially when the other (student in this case) desperately needs it. Even a robot can impart information, but only a human teacher is competent enough to contextualize the knowledge and deliver it to the young minds in an absolutely objective manner. (Ab)using the classroom for poisoning the young minds with a particular political ideology is no less than a  crime, for which not only the teachers but the whole society has to pay a huge price. Therefore, in the process of education, both means and ends are equally important. Not only what is being taught, but how it is taught makes all the difference.
It is imperative thus that education is not any kind of business; it is no business in fact. It is the most significant segment of a society, which makes or breaks the future of a society. With the commercialization taking the front seat through both the media and market, it is all the more important that the education system is revitalized, with the most competent(in knowledge and wisdom)  minds being entrusted in educating the young boys and girls just not towards making more and more money but developing critical abilities to shape a future society that is actually civilized. And for that, we certainly cannot afford to trivialize education!
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 The write is Chairperson, Department of Sociology and Women’s Studies, Punjab University, Chandigarh (India)


Source: The Tribune, Jalandhar Tuesday February 21, 2012.



SKILLS


Early puzzle play can help boost spatial skills.

Washington: Engaging children in puzzle play can help in the development of spatial skills, which has implication for STEM(Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics) careers later in their life, say experts. A study of University of Chicago researchers has found that children who play with puzzles between ages 2 and 4 develop better spatial skills.

Puzzle play was found to be a significant predictor of spatial skill after controlling for differences in parents’ income, education and the overall amount of parent language input.

“The children who played with puzzles performed better than those who did not, on tasks that assessed their ability to rotate and translate shapes,” said psychologist Susan Levine, a leading expert on mathematics development in young children.

The ability to mentally transform shapes is an important predictor of STEM. Activities such as early puzzle play may lay the groundwork for the development of this ability, the study found. For the research, 53 child-parent pairs from diverse socio-economic backgrounds participated in a longitudinal study, in which researchers video-recorded parent-child interactions for 90-minute sessions that occurred every four months between 26 and 46 months of age.

The parents were asked to interact with their children as they normally would and about half of the children in the study were observed playing with puzzles at least once.

Higher income parents tended to engage children with puzzles more frequently. Both boys and girls who played with puzzles had better spatial skills, but boys played with more complicated puzzles than girls, and the parents of boys provided more spatial language during puzzle play and were more engaged in play than the parents of girls.
-         ANI

Source: The Tribune, Jalandhar (India), Tuesday February 21, 2012.